I'm curious....

[Anonymous]

as to why parents would ever make nannies provide their own food? I'm not a troll or anything-I just really don't understand why food wouldn't be accessible. I have been a summer nanny for the past two summers and have been told I am to welcome myself to any food in the house! Same with all the babysitting jobs I have had in the past. I've never had someone tell me not to touch food in their house.

Just curious...

[Anonymous]

Good question, OP.

[Anonymous]

A lot of MBs on here are type A get mine screw you kind of women. They will do whatever they have to do to get where they want and what they want. So they in turn are not very giving people, and try to hold nannies to the same cutthroat professionalism they have to show in their jobs. "My job doesn't provide this so why should I?" Kind of attitude. I bring my lunch to work, but I would never work for a family that forbade me to touch their food. It just speaks volumes about their character.

[Anonymous]

I've had parents say, "don't eat the ____ in the fridge it's for dinner tonight" but never forbidden from eating something

[Anonymous]

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/nanny-forum/posts/list/281445.page

OP is this you? Either way, its been talked to death.

[Anonymous]

Really? This debate again??

[Anonymous]

Some parents never eat at home and therefore have minimal food in the fridge. And apparently don't want to be bothered to buy additional grocery items.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some parents never eat at home and therefore have minimal food in the fridge. And apparently don't want to be bothered to buy additional grocery items.

How do you be a parent and never eat at home? I can't imagine that senerio.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some parents never eat at home and therefore have minimal food in the fridge. And apparently don't want to be bothered to buy additional grocery items.

How do you be a parent and never eat at home? I can't imagine that senerio.

because it's DC -- no one actually cooks. They all order takeout/delivery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some parents never eat at home and therefore have minimal food in the fridge. And apparently don't want to be bothered to buy additional grocery items.

How do you be a parent and never eat at home? I can't imagine that senerio.

because it's DC -- no one actually cooks. They all order takeout/delivery.

No wonder why they can't afford better nannies, lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:http://www.dcurbanmom.com/nanny-forum/posts/list/281445.page

OP is this you? Either way, its been talked to death.

Many people are courious about this relatively recent phenomon, of telling domestic workers they were required to bring their own food for a long day at your house, taking care of your child. Traditionally, if you didn't want "the help" contaminating your food, you'd have separate eating space for the help.

[Anonymous]

OP, find me a post where an MB said that she told her nanny not to touch her food under any circumstance.

Here's how I see it and I imagine many parents are similar. Our family is really busy. If I employ my nanny from say 8am to 6pm, I'm out of the house for a huge chunk of the day. I already have trouble keeping up with grocery shopping just for us. I eat out with relative frequency and sometimes there are days when I don't have much in the house at all. I have a nanny because it gives me and my kids some extra time and sanity. It is to make my life easier essentially.

So grocery shopping for my nanny, making sure she has something for lunch every day, making sure I have her favorite snacks every day. The other OP made it sound like a hot lunch needed to be available. All this adds up to NOT making my life easier. Indeed, adding additional stress. What if my nanny shows up for work without any food and I haven't had time to grocery shop??

She's welcome to eat whatever she finds, but you see, providing her food of choice takes it to a whole other level. And it does cost a not insignificant amount of money to feed someone 5 days a week for 9 hours. You'd better believe that if I was providing that as a perk, it would be factored into her compensation somewhere or at the very least I would be expecting a higher quality of care than I would from a similarly paid nanny who I wasn't having to worry about feeding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, find me a post where an MB said that she told her nanny not to touch her food under any circumstance.

Here's how I see it and I imagine many parents are similar. Our family is really busy. If I employ my nanny from say 8am to 6pm, I'm out of the house for a huge chunk of the day. I already have trouble keeping up with grocery shopping just for us. I eat out with relative frequency and sometimes there are days when I don't have much in the house at all. I have a nanny because it gives me and my kids some extra time and sanity. It is to make my life easier essentially.

So grocery shopping for my nanny, making sure she has something for lunch every day, making sure I have her favorite snacks every day. The other OP made it sound like a hot lunch needed to be available. All this adds up to NOT making my life easier. Indeed, adding additional stress. What if my nanny shows up for work without any food and I haven't had time to grocery shop??

She's welcome to eat whatever she finds, but you see, providing her food of choice takes it to a whole other level. And it does cost a not insignificant amount of money to feed someone 5 days a week for 9 hours. You'd better believe that if I was providing that as a perk, it would be factored into her compensation somewhere or at the very least I would be expecting a higher quality of care than I would from a similarly paid nanny who I wasn't having to worry about feeding.

Please show me where anyone is demanding their "favorite snacks everyday".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, find me a post where an MB said that she told her nanny not to touch her food under any circumstance.

Here's how I see it and I imagine many parents are similar. Our family is really busy. If I employ my nanny from say 8am to 6pm, I'm out of the house for a huge chunk of the day. I already have trouble keeping up with grocery shopping just for us. I eat out with relative frequency and sometimes there are days when I don't have much in the house at all. I have a nanny because it gives me and my kids some extra time and sanity. It is to make my life easier essentially.

So grocery shopping for my nanny, making sure she has something for lunch every day, making sure I have her favorite snacks every day. The other OP made it sound like a hot lunch needed to be available. All this adds up to NOT making my life easier. Indeed, adding additional stress. What if my nanny shows up for work without any food and I haven't had time to grocery shop??

She's welcome to eat whatever she finds, but you see, providing her food of choice takes it to a whole other level. And it does cost a not insignificant amount of money to feed someone 5 days a week for 9 hours. You'd better believe that if I was providing that as a perk, it would be factored into her compensation somewhere or at the very least I would be expecting a higher quality of care than I would from a similarly paid nanny who I wasn't having to worry about feeding.

It really isnt that hard and you are acting like a martyr.


If your nanny is in the house all day (or with your family) you can ask that she do some grocery shops for you. Now you don't have to have her pick up enough food for 3 months (a la costco), but she can get a few things.

That being said, the issue isn't that you don't have food in the house. The issue being debated is the scenario of a parent saying "We do not want you eating our food". I'm an MB, our nanny has full run of the kitchen and house! She can have anything in the fridge that she wants. If she wants a PB and J, go ahead. If she wants to eat frozen hot dogs, have at it. So on days that I have to go to the store, she still has run of the fridge/pantry, just not as many options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, find me a post where an MB said that she told her nanny not to touch her food under any circumstance.

Here's how I see it and I imagine many parents are similar. Our family is really busy. If I employ my nanny from say 8am to 6pm, I'm out of the house for a huge chunk of the day. I already have trouble keeping up with grocery shopping just for us. I eat out with relative frequency and sometimes there are days when I don't have much in the house at all. I have a nanny because it gives me and my kids some extra time and sanity. It is to make my life easier essentially.

So grocery shopping for my nanny, making sure she has something for lunch every day, making sure I have her favorite snacks every day. The other OP made it sound like a hot lunch needed to be available. All this adds up to NOT making my life easier. Indeed, adding additional stress. What if my nanny shows up for work without any food and I haven't had time to grocery shop??

She's welcome to eat whatever she finds, but you see, providing her food of choice takes it to a whole other level. And it does cost a not insignificant amount of money to feed someone 5 days a week for 9 hours. You'd better believe that if I was providing that as a perk, it would be factored into her compensation somewhere or at the very least I would be expecting a higher quality of care than I would from a similarly paid nanny who I wasn't having to worry about feeding.

It really isnt that hard and you are acting like a martyr.


If your nanny is in the house all day (or with your family) you can ask that she do some grocery shops for you. Now you don't have to have her pick up enough food for 3 months (a la costco), but she can get a few things.

That being said, the issue isn't that you don't have food in the house. The issue being debated is the scenario of a parent saying "We do not want you eating our food". I'm an MB, our nanny has full run of the kitchen and house! She can have anything in the fridge that she wants. If she wants a PB and J, go ahead. If she wants to eat frozen hot dogs, have at it. So on days that I have to go to the store, she still has run of the fridge/pantry, just not as many options.

The voice of reason.