When to tell MB about my upcoming divorce
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I just started a new job about 3 weeks ago. I have been having marriage issues but thought they could be worked out but now am looking for a new Aparment (just as close to work). I have no kids am 25 and was only married a year so as its a stressful time I will be able to give 100% at work.
Should I wait a few weeks till the move to tell MB ? (Hoping to move august 1st) Sure the divorce won't take to long because we have no assets or children. I am paid on the books so will have to Change my tax status as well. My MB has gone through a divorce herself fairly recently so I feel like she will be understanding I just don't want her to think I will not do as great of job due to the additional stress which won't happen. |
Anonymous
| Tell her when you're done with it and you need to adjust your tax papers. |
Anonymous
| Or when you move is a good time to. |
Anonymous
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Just a word of caution/advice: 1. you were only married a year, 2. assuming you have no property to divide (own a house?), 3. no kids. All that equals a VERY simple divorce that is as low-stress as a divorce can possibly be. Consider it your starter marriage and don't be a drama queen about it.
Just tell her when it is time to change your tax status. Do not bond with your boss over Evil Ex-Husbands. |
Anonymous
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Don't tell her until you're moving and/or need to make changes re taxes. Be professional and tell her only what she needs to know as our employer.
In the meantime do your job and don't bring your personal stress to the workplace. That way, by the time you tell her you'll already have demonstrated your ability to do your job well regardless of what is going on in your personal life. Don't get personal w/ your MB, especially this early in the relationship. It doesn't matter if she's divorced recently or is empathetic or whatever. Just do your job and don't make your problems a problem for her in any way. MB |
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I agree with above MB. I'm a nanny, and I have always become close with my employers, but I keep personal things away from the table, so to speak. Tell her when you move.
Best of luck to you. |