When a child misbehaves in front of mb/db

[Anonymous]

My charge is two and will scream at the drop of a hat - usually it's fake, although she's becoming quite the actress. When she begins with her fake tantrums I usually ask her once 'are you faking?' And she (usually replies) 'yes' and after that if she carries on I look her in the eyes and say 'stop'. Usually she will immediately stop the whiny/screams buiness instantly and continues doing whatever she was doing... I do the same when mb is around (unless she handles it first because of proximity etc)... But I feel so awkward being the one to tell her no when her mom is right there... Anyone else feel the same? What do mb's
Think

[Anonymous]

Just say something to your MB. My MB and I agreed that if she is present, she will handle misbehavior but I am welcome to chime in. Some MBs will want you to be in charge of the children whenever you're on the clock, others will want to handle it themselves and have you completely uninvolved. It will help you feel less awkward if you get clear about how your MB feels. Next time it happens, after everything has died down, say, "MB, I just wanted to check in with you about DDs tantrum - I've been assuming that you'd like me to handle things like that whenever I'm here, but I was worried I might be stepping on your toes. Are you comfortable with me continuing to handle DDs tantrums, or would you like me to take a backseat when you're home?" Then she'll tell you and then you'll know.

[Anonymous]

When our manny disciplines DD, if DH and I are there for it, we absolutely back him up. I would be VERY concerned if I never saw him disciplining her.