How much do you trust your nanny?

[Anonymous]

Enough to make big decisions?
Do you like to know what's going on during the day or do you trust she has your child's best interest at heart?
More than other members of your family?

[Anonymous]

Trust - 100%

I've left my nanny with my kids on many overnights when my MIL was fully available and willing to watch them.

[Anonymous]

If one had even a fleeting doubt, why would you leave a child with her for a moment. You are pathetic, OP.

[Anonymous]

Wanting to know where your children are and how they are spending their day does not mean that you do not trust your nanny. Only an immature person would view it that way.

Both my nanny and I know where we are and how to contact each other at all times during the day. If there is an emergency in the area neither of us needs to be wondering where the other person is or dependent solely on cell phones. If we go into meetings where we can not take cell phones, our nanny has the number of people who she can call who can go into those meetings. If I have to travel to a client locations, I let her know what city I am in and how far away I am. We talk in the morning and I know where she and the kids plan to go. If this changes substantially (a different place for example) she sends me a text. This has nothing to do with trust, its about being responsible adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If one had even a fleeting doubt, why would you leave a child with her for a moment. You are pathetic, OP.

You may or may not be a nanny but you and every other anonymous troll on here make the nanny profession look like a big joke. Low class non professionals.

Many nanny employers don't trust a newly hired nanny 100%. Yeah, overtime the trust builds but you're kidding yourself if you think people who leave their kids with a new stranger just because she looked good on paper don't sit back and worry. The whole "why would you leave your child with someone you don't trust" is overused and so off. Just look at many of the nannies and babysitters on this forum. Their true colors come out when they're behind a computer and i'm sure they attempt to look somewhat professional in an interview, so you never know.
You are trashy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wanting to know where your children are and how they are spending their day does not mean that you do not trust your nanny. Only an immature person would view it that way.

Both my nanny and I know where we are and how to contact each other at all times during the day. If there is an emergency in the area neither of us needs to be wondering where the other person is or dependent solely on cell phones. If we go into meetings where we can not take cell phones, our nanny has the number of people who she can call who can go into those meetings. If I have to travel to a client locations, I let her know what city I am in and how far away I am. We talk in the morning and I know where she and the kids plan to go. If this changes substantially (a different place for example) she sends me a text. This has nothing to do with trust, its about being responsible adults.

+1

[Anonymous]

I've been with my nanny family for 7 years. MB never asks where we are going or what we are doing anymore. I've proven to her over the years that I can be trusted. I always answer my cell phone and if I'm going to an area out of range I'll let them know in advance that I won't have reception from ex 12-3pm. In the early days she would ask what we were doing, make me test on arrival and departure, write 5 paragraph essays about the kids days and micromanage constantly, but now she just knows that I am trustworthy and sensible.

[Anonymous]

*make me text, not test.

Also wanted to add that this trust was earned. MB and DB have very high powered jobs and if I emailed them every time we left the house I would probably get fired. If we are going somewhere special (ex: zoo or museum) I'll let them know before we leave, but I'm not going to email them about going to the park and grocery store!

[Anonymous]

I trust our nanny. But I also absolutely want to know where my daughter is going and who she's playing with. So our nanny does leave a note at the end of each day saying what he's planning for the next day or later in the week. And each morning I leave him a note with what I'd like for her to do or where I'd like for her to go.

I don't think trust means lack of knowledge. I can trust the nanny but I STILL want to know what my DD is doing with him while I'm at work all day, and don't think that means I don't trust him. It means I'm interested in my DD's life and take an active role in planning things for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I trust our nanny. But I also absolutely want to know where my daughter is going and who she's playing with. So our nanny does leave a note at the end of each day saying what he's planning for the next day or later in the week. And each morning I leave him a note with what I'd like for her to do or where I'd like for her to go.

I don't think trust means lack of knowledge. I can trust the nanny but I STILL want to know what my DD is doing with him while I'm at work all day, and don't think that means I don't trust him. It means I'm interested in my DD's life and take an active role in planning things for her.

Taking an "active" role means YOU are doing some of the parenting. Delegating some of the parenting tasks means that you're doing something else.

[Anonymous]

BS 14:39. Professional nannies prefer parents that are engaged and want to know what they go and who they play with during the week. Unless you are being irresponsible and focusing on yourself, you should welcome this interest.

[Anonymous]

I trust my nanny 100%. She has become family to us. She treats my children as her own and her care has been amazing. I'm dreading when my son starts Pre-school and we don't need day time care anymore. I'll be one said cookie.

[Anonymous]

Parents do all of the parenting, 14:39. Nannies are important caretakers, but they are not parenting their charges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:BS 14:39. Professional nannies prefer parents that are engaged and want to know what they go and who they play with during the week. Unless you are being irresponsible and focusing on yourself, you should welcome this interest.

+1

The fact that my MB and DB are so interested in our day, what we did, who we saw, how their son behaved and what he enjoyed most, these are all things that make me love working for them! I never have any doubt that they trust, value, and respect me, but they also love their son and want to know what he's up to while they're at work. It's a good thing for all of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BS 14:39. Professional nannies prefer parents that are engaged and want to know what they go and who they play with during the week. Unless you are being irresponsible and focusing on yourself, you should welcome this interest.

+1

The fact that my MB and DB are so interested in our day, what we did, who we saw, how their son behaved and what he enjoyed most, these are all things that make me love working for them! I never have any doubt that they trust, value, and respect me, but they also love their son and want to know what he's up to while they're at work. It's a good thing for all of us.

ditto, I do not generally discuss our plans before the day happens, because generally our plans change on a dime. I know my amb trusts me completely and no, she doesn't ask where we will be and when. I always have my cell phone on me so she is always able to contact me in case of emergency. At the end of the day, she is always interested in what we did and always excited for the kids to tell her about our day and weere we went. I have a great relationship with my nanny family. I am trusted to make any and all decisions that I come across in my charges life while I am with them. I am definitely like family. I love sharing how our day went when we get home!