I'm raising my charges...

[Anonymous]

And I hate it. I've been with the family for a while and love them but I can't understand why MB isn't involved... She decided to stay home after baby #2 was born. She spends 2 hours with the baby (8 weeks) and toddler (2.5) in the morning. That's one feeding and breakfast. I do everything else. I do the meals, baths, bedtime, and everything in between. I do the kids shopping, order the formula, put together their toys. I don't mind doing these things I just feel so bad for the kids.

I'm there M-F and they have a night nanny who also comes on the weekend. MB spends her days galivanting around DC with her friends and DB is traveling most of the time. Any one have any advice?

[Anonymous]

Find a job where you aren't so friggin' bitter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Find a job where you aren't so friggin' bitter?

+1

[Anonymous]

Those poor children. They deserve parents who care. Don't know how to advise the nanny.

[Anonymous]

I did that and much more for my first nanny job.

I was a live in and parents traveled or worked while travelling. I got to take the kids sometimes. They owned their own business so even when in town they were in their office (that was out of the house )

I not only raised kids, I cooked, cleaned (hired housekeepers for once a week), paid bills, kept schedules for all 4 kids (school, doctors, activities, etc), food shopping, pets (vets, groomers. I even had to.put one of their dogs down), car maintenance and cleaning.Homework, playdates, first EVERYTHINGS.

I was a live in for 10 years for this family.

[Anonymous]

Quit. This doesn't have to be your problem

[Anonymous]

The thing is OP, I realize it's sad but welcome to nanny world! No, not all families are like what you describe but SO MANY ARE. Why are you so surprised?

[Anonymous]

Yup - find a job you like better or accept the realities of this one. It isn't your job to judge - just to do the work they hired you to do.

[Anonymous]

I spend about 2 waking hours with my baby too. Half hour of nursing her and getting her dressed for the day in the morning, and an hour and a half after I get home from work if I'm lucky.

Honestly, if you're going to judge people for hiring you maybe this is not the right profession?

[Anonymous]

Only a mindless person has zero judgement. What we call judgemental is judgement we don't like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I spend about 2 waking hours with my baby too. Half hour of nursing her and getting her dressed for the day in the morning, and an hour and a half after I get home from work if I'm lucky.

Honestly, if you're going to judge people for hiring you maybe this is not the right profession?

You presumably work though, OP's boss does not, nor does she take on any of her other parenting duties. There is a world of difference between hiring a nanny to provide great care for your children when you are unable to, and hiring someone to take over the raising of your children while you are out with your friends. The nannies who resent their employers are generally not the nannies working for full-time working moms (who do as much as a parents when possible), the resentment is bread when it is clear that a nanny is not needed, rather they are there as a luxury so the parents don't have to do any of the work of parenting. In these cases, it's really hard not to judge (mainly-why have children that you have no interest in taking care of?).

[Anonymous]

Being there for them for as long as you can is the best you can do for those kids. Isn't that obvious?

[Anonymous]

Tosh is sounds similar to my last position. I attended parent teacher conferences, I brought snacks to sports practices, I was at every child's function, I figured out the schedules, bought the kids clothes and school supplies, brought them to ever pediatrician apt, etc. MB was a single mom and very well off in her job. she traveled about 3 weeks of the month and the one week she was home she was very preoccupied, so it was mostly me and the 4 kids. I was a live in.
My current job is very different and I honestly miss my last job and charges. I loved that position and gained a lot of full time live in experience as a nanny and household manager.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only a mindless person has zero judgement. What we call judgemental is judgement we don't like.

+1

Only a heartless person wouldn't be sad to see these kids deprived of their parents do consistently and, it sounds like, unnecessarily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I spend about 2 waking hours with my baby too. Half hour of nursing her and getting her dressed for the day in the morning, and an hour and a half after I get home from work if I'm lucky.

Honestly, if you're going to judge people for hiring you maybe this is not the right profession?

Obviously, you should never have chosen to be a biological mother because you are terrible in every other way. Having a child requires sa rifice on the parents part and I am not a nanny.