Would you give her a second chance?

[Anonymous]

She responded to my Care.com ad in our native language. We talked on the phone and she seemed nice. She offered her references and I said it would be nice to meet first then if we clicked I'd contact them.

Well, I sent her an email with a place, date and time she said she would be there. I stayed there for 30 minutes she didn't show up. I texted her she apologized for not shown up. She said since we didn't talk over the weekend she thought the plans were off.

I reminded her of our conversation that it was set we would meet. She apologized and offered a free evening of babysitting.

The problem is, my son has severe allergies and we can't take Chances with misunderstandings. It was not even in English... The whole thing was in our native language. It's so hard to find someone with this skill.

Would you give her a second chance? Should I contact her references?

[Anonymous]

...only if she has actual experience with allergies. Those who don't, usually don't "get it".

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. Kick her to the curb and find someone else. She sounds like an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Contact her references, double check all her information and look into her background with allergies and maybe set up a trial period then make your decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not. Kick her to the curb and find someone else. She sounds like an idiot.

+1

[Anonymous]

Most parents I know would not risk a highly allergic child with a person who isn't personally well known to the family for an extended time period. They even look for special schools (eventually) that have lots of experience with this.

[Anonymous]

She just assumed plans were off without contacting you to double check? She didn't' even have the common sense to stop by the meeting place to make sure, she just assumed she would rather not 'waste her time' because you didn't double check? She has a flaky mindset. Dump her and move on..

[Anonymous]

Yeah I guess I'll pass on her.

[Anonymous]

You sent an email with all the details of the meeting and she acknowledged that she received it and would be there. Why would you assume that the meeting was off just because you didn't speak over the weekend? What is there to speak about? Why didn't she contact you if she had a concern? Sounds like she lacks common sense, which is not someone I would want caring for my kid, let alone a kid with serious allergies.

[Anonymous]

Nope, I wouldn't. Apart from the medical concerns (which should be major) this demonstrated poor communication, poor judgment, and a lack of awareness about how she is perceived by a possible employer. Not to mention extreme passivity.

None of those are good qualities in a nanny - especially if you have a child who might need someone to be smart, responsive, capable and able to think on their feet or potentially deal w/ a medical situation (and therefore other people who will only speak English.)

I think you should thank whatever higher power you believe in for revealing her fully to you so you can walk away before hiring her.

[Anonymous]

Nope, I would not give a second chance.

[Anonymous]

Heck no.

She sounds too scatterbrained and stupid to even care for a goldfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Heck no.

She sounds too scatterbrained and stupid to even care for a goldfish.

it was 3 months ago. I think OP has probably moved on.

[Anonymous]

She probably couldn't even care for a goldfish cracker.