When my 9yo charge hit me I quit.

[Anonymous]

I have been working for this family for almost 1 year, and I am taking care of 3 early school aged kids (twin boys 9yo and a girl 10yo).
I decided to leave this position because I think I am no more good fit for them. Children don't behave well, and thats something I have tried to deal with on many ways (with little success). They are very bright children and they can be sweet, but they are acting spoiled most of the time. They talk back, use vulgar words, and if they are not entertained every moment of their life they would cry and whine, they get into trouble in school (recent reasons; hitting, racism comments/commenting other kid's appearance, using words "hell", again hitting). Their parents are delusional. I have no other words. They literally have excuse for all those things but in sense :"Its not excuse but (boy's name) got teased and then he hit, I know its wrong but I would rather he know how to defend himself.." and similar. I reached the point when I don't want to deal with that kind of behavior anymore. Last week I got embarrassed by being hit several times by one of the boys in front of other parents and caregivers (group playdate). It wasn't the first time that he had done that to me (maybe 3rd) but this time i cannot tolerate it anymore, even though I do need a job. (however this is not the only income for me)

My issue - I already said that I am leaving and the MB asked me to think about it, and she mentioned that she would increase my salary. Well, my hourly wage is on the lower end, and bumping couple of dollars would definitely would not make me want to stay. However, she also asked if i can stay until the end of the school because after that they will anyway go to 2 months long vacation (they do it every year, they are not originally from USA and they have their vacation home overseas) I had nice communication and fairly nice relationship with her (on side that she refused to pay last year for the time when she is on vacation/this year she said she will try to do something). I am not sure If i want to do it or not. I really don't want to be around anymore, and I like to remove myself from situation where i became resentful because its unhealthy, however my mb had some health issues and this will bring her additional stress and I know it will be hard for her to find another nanny for 2 months only. I would like to hear what other people think? Thanks

[Anonymous]

WARNING to all: This is a classic example of the early stages of rage. These parents have in effect, abandoned their children. The revolving nanny door is an understandable cause for rage. Of course there are other contributing factors, as well.

Nannies are often in a no-win situation such as this.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am sorry for this heart-wrenching situation. You are right to get out.

[Anonymous]

A 9YO who has hit you - multiple times! - has issues beyond what it sounds like you're trained to cope with or paid to deal with. Get out now, you don't owe them any favors.

[Anonymous]

GET OUT before he tries to kill you. Do not stay another two months.

[Anonymous]

I already said I ll give her more than 2 weeks notice but I that I would think more. Mb sounded desperate and in a moment I felt sorry. Also she was sick in last 3 weeks and in and out of hospital and I feel horrible that she will have to go through looking for a new nanny right now. They will go on vacation this week. I though to give 1 month notice (its 3 working weeks + vacation week) starting tomorrow. I cannot do more than this and even this is too long because I really don't feel comfortable coming back.

[Anonymous]

It's not another 2 months, my bad - it's by the end if June, a little more than 3 months.

[Anonymous]

Three months seems like a long time to stay in a job that is making you miserable. I think you should start searching for another job an dleave when you find one you like. Give a maximum of two wks notices....and if the other family needs you sooner, then start sooner.

[Anonymous]

It's sad that she waited until this occured to offer to raise you. If she could offered to raise you before, knowing she had 3 out of control kids with behavior issues, she should have. -- She's looking out for herself and you need to look out for yourself. She didn't care when they left last year for two months and you were out of the job.

You'll get run over in life if you 'feel bad' for other people instead of yourself.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are an enabler and an idiot.