Any other live-in wear their PJ's all day?
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Anonymous
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My nanny, God Bless her, is not a social person. When I leave for work at 7:30 she's still in her PJ's, uh, ok. It is early. DH comes home at 5:30, she's in the same PJ's. I come home around 8pm, still in the same PJ's.
I get it, you need to be comfortable with working with several young children, but, it seems a little bit lazy and disrespectful. Maybe it's just me. I get dressed EVERYDAY, I have too, but it really doesn't take THAT much effort. She pretty much spends her off hours in her room, never goes out. This isn't normal, right? |
Anonymous
| When I was a live-in nanny I stayed in my pajamas all day but so did MB. |
Anonymous
| Never even heard of that. What kind of example is that for your children? You need to fix that. |
Anonymous
| How old are your children? And how many that you would say "several"? |
Anonymous
| When I was a live in I got dressed everyday but I usually wore something VERY comfortable. As long as she isn't wearing her pajamas when she takes the kids on outings I'd say it's okay. Also, one reason I wore the cloths I did was because I would constantly be getting stuff on them. I remember when I first started and I dressed very nicely but then I did tie dieing with the kids and I completely ruined my whole outfit. As long as she does a great job with the kids and showers everyday I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. Nannies hate being told that they need to dress better. I mean look at what we do everyday and then add a baby that spits up to that. If you want to have an awkward conversation then go for it but if she is doing every thing else right I would leave it be. |
Anonymous
| As far as her not going out much, there really isn't anything wrong with that either. Some people are just homebodies. When she is working for you, your house is also her home so please let her relax the way she would like to. |
Anonymous
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Children need to go out everyday...
Are they getting dressed? |
Anonymous
| The thing that bother is not that she's staying in her PJ's, it's the fact that she can't possibly be going out in them! What are your children doing all day? |
Anonymous
| I would remind her this us a job and need to it with respect. That means getting dressed. Yoga pants and tees are comfortable and probably pretty cheap at old navy right now. I got a pair for.47 cents last year. They look a lot better than pjs but are still comfortable. Pajamas all day is just trashy. Why do you allow her to stay in all day? I'd be wanted her to get the kids out at some point,, even if its just foot a wagon ride around the neighborhood. Is she depressed? Sounds a little like it. |
Anonymous
| Eh, I'm a live in and I think that's kind of gross. Of course I've had PJ days but those are days where either I or my charge was feeling under the weather and we had a lazy sick day. Otherwise does this mean they don't do anything outside of the house all day? I need to shower and get dressed and at least feel a little put together for the day..and I think your nanny owes you the same. |
Anonymous
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That would be unacceptable to me. Firstly, getting dressed for work signals to the brain that a change has occurred - you're not lazing around anymore, you are working. Secondly, my child goes outside every day. She interacts with people outside the family every single day. Being that she's a child an adult needs to be with her, and we've chosen that adult to be her nanny. Walking around in public in pajamas is unacceptable to me, and not going out is unacceptable to me as well. Also, I want my nanny setting a good example for my child, and consider getting up, dressed, and ready to begin the day an important thing to do.
If the nanny wants to avoid being social in her personal life that's fine. That's in her own time. If she wants to go off duty from work at 6pm and immediately change into pjs that's (weird but) fine. Not while working. |
Anonymous
No, children do not need to go out everyday, however, the children should be getting dressed and not following in this lazy nannys footsteps. |
Anonymous
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OP, the ONE and ONLY time that I kept my pajamas on when I was a live-in was because both the children and I were all really sick with colds and I knew that we were just going to spend the day relaxing, watching a movie and doing some low key crafts/games. Other then that, I got dressed EVERY DAY. The majority of the time I just wore yoga pants but I still got dressed.
Your nanny needs to treat her job like any other job. She would never wear pajamas as a teacher, doctor, lawyer, bus driver, receptionist, etc. You need to tell her that she is expected to be upstairs, in normal clothes at the start of her job. |
Anonymous
| Not sure if this op is for real; her issue is so off the wall. |
Anonymous
| Does she ever take the kids outside the house? |