If you are friends with your nanny on Facebook...

[Anonymous]

I'm just curious. If you are friends with your nanny on Facebook, and she posts a status that is to the extent of "having a bad day".. Or any type of status that she seems "down", do you ask her about it and see what's wrong, or just act like you never saw it?

[Anonymous]

If you are friends with your boss on face book, it's smart to limit what they can see. I am friends with three of my previous bosses as well as my current boss and I have limited what they can see on my page. I don't post on there that much but I don't want them seeing what I do post/what my friends post.

[Anonymous]

I think it's a bad idea to mix social networking with work. I would never be friends with my boss on Facebook. Some things I like to keep private.

[Anonymous]

I am friends with my nanny on Facebook. I know some think that is a boundary you shouldn't cross but my husband and I both friended her upon hiring her. We hired her from another state so it was kind of nice to get a sense of her personality through her Facebook before we were able to meet her in person.
Anyway-with that being said, there have been a few times where she has posted something hinting that there was something bothering her and each time I've simply sent her a text asking how she was doing and left it open for her to talk to me about it. Each time, she has opened up. I feel like there are enough privacy settings on FB now that if she didn't want me to see it, she could have hidden it from me but that may have been her way of telling me it was ok to ask. We are very close, I consider her to be like a younger sister to me so it's nice that she opens up.

[Anonymous]

Not friends with current employers, just not a good idea. I love my family, but...boundaries are necessary.

I AM however friends with all but 1 of my former employees. Love seeing pictures of the kids.

[Anonymous]

Horrible idea. I don't have my real last name on Facebook, and have it extremely private. I even go as far as finding all my current and previous employers to block them. Even giving them restricted access can cause damage because you won't always remember to put the setting on when you are posting. Plus making pictures private can be a pain too. You should just keep your personal life private or if you really want to create a second account solely for employers and family members.

[Anonymous]

Friends with bosses on Facebook. I hint things all the time. I highly respect them. Not to much to complain about

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Horrible idea. I don't have my real last name on Facebook, and have it extremely private. I even go as far as finding all my current and previous employers to block them. Even giving them restricted access can cause damage because you won't always remember to put the setting on when you are posting. Plus making pictures private can be a pain too. You should just keep your personal life private or if you really want to create a second account solely for employers and family members.

It doesn't always have to be such a negative thing as you defend. I'm friends w/ bot MB and DB and we have had a great relationship for years. In my opinion, if you have anything to hide you really shouldn't have a Facebook period. People can find out things about you whether it's private or not. Anyway, OP wasn't asking your opinion on being friends with bosses. Re-read the post.

[Anonymous]

I'm really not asking on your opinion on whether you should be FB friends, because honestly I don't care. I'm not even saying if you hint something about your job.I'm basically asking do you have a relationship with your employer/with your nanny where you/they would ask. Or do you think it's none of your business to ask?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm really not asking on your opinion on whether you should be FB friends, because honestly I don't care. I'm not even saying if you hint something about your job.I'm basically asking do you have a relationship with your employer/with your nanny where you/they would ask. Or do you think it's none of your business to ask?

Hi OP!! My input is similar to an MB who posted above..as a nanny I would not mind if my MB asked what was wrong. I have actually posted things before that may have hinted I was upset or homesick or something and my MB always shoots me an inbox on FB or texts my phone and asks if everything is ok. If you have a good relationship with your nanny go ahead and ask! The worst that could happen is that she says she is fine...but this might be her way of trying to open up! I always feel good when my MB asks because we can usually talk about whatever is going on.

[Anonymous]

My nanny friended me on Facebook back when we both joined. There have been a few minor problems. I asked her not to post photos of my child or details about their activities after she had practically a diary going on her page. I didn't want other people knowing about our family plans and activities. Otherwise, I consider her page her business and she has learned to keep our family and her workday off it.

[Anonymous]

I found mb and blocked her, but she found my page through her assistant. I found out because her assistant let it slip that I always have so many football pics... Uhhhh how would you know??? So now my page is only friends and no one can even find me or see my progile unless they're friends. Like get a life mb, why was she stalking me anyways???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found mb and blocked her, but she found my page through her assistant. I found out because her assistant let it slip that I always have so many football pics... Uhhhh how would you know??? So now my page is only friends and no one can even find me or see my progile unless they're friends. Like get a life mb, why was she stalking me anyways???

Like get a grammar lesson

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found mb and blocked her, but she found my page through her assistant. I found out because her assistant let it slip that I always have so many football pics... Uhhhh how would you know??? So now my page is only friends and no one can even find me or see my progile unless they're friends. Like get a life mb, why was she stalking me anyways???

It's a good idea to set your profile and wall to more private settings anyways. There are so many people out there that don't they never change a single privacy setting. I leave mine open just enough that friends of friends can see or post comments on certain things, but otherwise it is friends only. I don't post my pic as the user pic, I don't make the information like my job, age, high school, etc available for non-friends to see.

[Anonymous]

I am friend with my former employees nothing wrong with this, love to hear about them and see the pictures.