How do I tell my employers that I am leaving?
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Anonymous
| I am planning on making a career change at the end of my 2 year commitment to the family that I currently work for. How do I explain to them, without making them upset, that I will be leaving in August but need occassional time off to interview this spring (when schools are interviewing teachers for fall 2013 jobs)? |
Anonymous
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You don't need to explain. Just take your PTO and interview when you need to. When you get an offer, give your contracted notice. Depersonalize it, in your head and in your interactions with the family.
I'm not sure where you are located, but many schools interview in summer right up to the beginning of the school year, so plan your time accordingly. |
Anonymous
| You tell them nothing until you are ready to give your notice because they will find cause to let you go and you will be out of a job. All you owe them is notice and legally you don't owe that. |
Anonymous
| What you told us. Very reasonable. |
Anonymous
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Ditto 19:26. As a MB I would be thrilled I had so much notice and would try to work with you for the interviews. I'd much rather deal w/ something I can plan for (occasional time off, planned departure) than guessing what you're doing or dealing w/ last minute requests. Plus I'll giv eyou a much better recommendation if you've given me this courtesy.
If they get upset that's on them - not you. |
Anonymous
| What do you do if you give them the agreed upon notice and they're so vindictive and mad that they fire you immediately? Any realistic recourse? |
Anonymous
No, and unfortunetly there are alot of parents who do this. Instead of being happy for you they deny you a decent reference. If they find someone who needs to start right away they will do whats best for them and let you go early. So do whats best for you. If you believe they're the type who will freak then wait until 2-3 weeks. If they're the understanding type and you have a great relationship then give them a decent amount of notice. If they end up freaking anyways then theres nothing legally you can do. Some people will always be like that so shrug it off and go head with your life. You will prevail. |
Anonymous
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OP - is the family generally reasonable and good to you? If so, agree with this:
"Ditto 19:26. As a MB I would be thrilled I had so much notice and would try to work with you for the interviews. I'd much rather deal w/ something I can plan for (occasional time off, planned departure) than guessing what you're doing or dealing w/ last minute requests. Plus I'll giv eyou a much better recommendation if you've given me this courtesy. " If you know they are bad employers and will go nuts on you over something as reasonable as a career change after 2 years then interview w/o giving the reason and give 2 to 3 weeks notice at the end. |
Anonymous
| If there's no way to enforce a contract (either party agrees to a minimum of 2 weeks notice), what's the point of having a contract??? Is it just stupid nannies who think they actually have to put up with an abusive family for an entire year, because that's what they agreed to in the contract?? |
Anonymous
| My nanny gave us this kind of notice for making a career change. I was thrilled (not about the career change, but about the generous notice). We're keeping her until the last possible minute, but this gives us time to do a great job interviewing for her replacement. |
Anonymous
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Thank you for all of your wonderful advice!
I think I will let them know when I have my first or second interview. I'm pretty sure the mom is going to take it personally and is expecting me to stay for a 3rd year. If she lets me go early, oh well! I will miss the kids very much but know that I have to finally do this for myself! Thanks again! |
Anonymous
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When I know I'm going to leave a position I have a meeting with both parents and tell them my intentions.
We set an end date and I am open about needing time off for interviews etc.. I stay later and I am more flexible while the parents interview nannies. Its a little emotional but everyone knows that nannies don't stay with families for ever. |