Help! really upset with our nanny and I'm thinking of letting her go

[Anonymous]

Our nanny is not who I thought she was.

When we interviewed we specifically asked for nannies who love animals.

When we interviewed her, she ranted and raved about her 'pets' and didn't seemed bother by our dogs. We have two dogs and a cat.

I know like clock work when they eat because they seem to have a routine of when they're hungry. I started first noticing she might not as pet friendly when our dog wanted to cuddle on the couch with her. Baby was sleeping and I was upstairs finishing work up. As I was making my way down, I heard a commotion. I heard her call my dog stinky and said 'I dont know why they let you on here, you make a mess everywhere with your fur'. She seemed annoyed. I chalked it up as her just wanting to be alone. Then my husband noticed her behavior changed when she thought no one was looking with the dogs, as I did too overtime. He noticed our dogs, had not touched their food like they use to, concerned he asked nanny if they seemed ok. She said they seemed fine. Turns out, she had been locking them up for no good reason so when they were to eat they didn't as they were being crated. My husband would come home for a lunch breakand find the food untouched several times and then thought it was odd, its not like them. He forgot something once, recently and came home on a whim and without notice and of course he sae them crated, so he was able to put two and two together. Our dogs love to cuddle, get on furniture and just play with baby, which I understand can be frustrating to someone when they're in your face all day, but they mean no harm. Do to how hyperactive they are, and just because we also want our pets to be safe, they are part of our family we wanted someone who loves animals and kids! We also pay far more then average for one child, do to the animal interaction. She agreed to this, signed a contracted and then seems to have lied about liking animals for the pay. Don't get me wrong,she is amazing with DD, but I don't know why I need to let her teach our child to not treat our animals with respect. It saddens and words can't explain how betrayed I feel. Now we have to let her go. There's a nanny down the street who also wintessed some of the lack of care for our dogs. She's been working for 2 years down the road. Always knew like clock work our dogs when out and she stopped seeing them come out for their potty time. Makes sense as to why they were having accidents in the house. This nanny has been gracious enough to watch our DD while we search, as her eldest charge is in school full time now and she just has a baby to watch. Just a vent. But nannies, why would someone do this? It is very hurtful. I paid very high for dealing with our active pets, as we do not like to crate them.

[Anonymous]

She wanted the money and didn't think the dogs would be a big deal. Side note I love dogs but have worked for people who don't bathe or clean up after their dogs like I do and want done. I don't exactly want a stinky dog laying next to me either.

[Anonymous]

"Turns out, she had been locking them up for no good reason so when they were to eat they didn't as they were being crated."

big trust breaker and cruel to the dogs if they are not used to this (as is the case). You DO need to let her go. I'm not a huge dog person, FWIW, but if she had a problem with them she needed to talk to you not unilaterally decide to start crating them.

[Anonymous]

I fired a nanny who told me she was allergic to pollen and loved pets - I caught her kicking our cat off the couch and surprise it got cold and her allergies stayed the same - she finally admitted she was violently allergic but had really needed the job and lied

[Anonymous]

Pp here. Fire nanny ASAP and nanny cam the next one

[Anonymous]

I agree that she was not a good fit, and it sounds like she wasn't honest with you, but...

Before you look for a new nanny, please ask some close friends for the honest truth: Are your dogs badly behaved? I know several couples who got a dog and treated it more as their pseudo-baby, consequently the dogs were incredibly spoiled and poorly trained. As a nanny who is truly a dog lover, I find untrained dogs to be really annoying. If the problem is that your dogs are spoiled, you don't just need a nanny who has dogs and loves dogs, you need a nanny who understands that you consider the dogs to be children, not pets, and is willing to treat them accordingly. Be sure you are clear about your expectations, and be clear with your new nanny that if the dogs are interfering with her ability to care for the baby (such as climbing on the play mat on the floor, barking incessantly during naptime, chewing baby's toys) you will not reprimand her for including the dogs at the expense of the baby.

[Anonymous]

I'm a many who truly likes did and walls my employers digg, Thrips balls at the park etc. I also dog sit for a friends very spoiled English bulldog. First you're justified in feeling betrayed and like you're not getting what you asked for. Second, I would really look at the situation from her side...do the did stunk? Are they greasy? At they gassy? do they slobber a lot? Are they generally high maintenance? are they constantly under foot? These are things that might make a casual dog lover into a dog hater.

[Anonymous]

Did you hire a nanny for your kid or your pets? It's not in the job description of a nanny to 'love' your pet. Be kind to your pet, yes. Cuddle with a stinky fog? Fuck that.

[Anonymous]

Unless you're paying $30+ per hour, you're unreasonable to expect a dog entertainer and a nanny. Do you know how annoying it is to have a baby wake up from nap cranky becaus of barking dogs? Hyper running around the house? Call PETA and maybe they have someone who wants to nanny and be a spouse to your dogs.

FREAK

[Anonymous]

I love dogs, but could never own one. I hate smelly dogs that drool and shed all over my clothing/furniture. I don't blame her.

However, putting them in a crate all day is mean.

Considering you put such a emphasis on helping with the dogs as well as your child, I find it stupid of the nanny to lie. It's easy to pretend you like cats or something - as they hardly care for your attention or need attention. Dogs are like kids.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Our dogs are not stinky. We take them to the groomers. She said that because she was annoyed with them. We love our pets so much, we take good care of them. Also she signed a contract and knew the terms. We don't expect a pet sitter, but the animals do need to be let out to potty. Water was from an electric water bowl and my husband came home from lunch everyday to feed them again and then I'd be home in just a few hours after that. This is their home and cuddling is not something to dislike. She just didn't want their hair in her. But there's lent roller for that. We are already looking for someone new and of course I'm letting her go. Pretty sad she would be so cruel to someone innocent. She knew the terms. She was paid overpaid for just taking our dogs to pee. It wasn't that hard. But she lied and abused our pets so she's done. Anyone else thinking she had a right to do what she did, just wait until you get someone to hurt somebody you care for, I think then you'll think twice. I get some people are not animal lovers, but why does that make it ok to not respect them? I'm sure some people don't like you, but they tolerate you and don't think of hurting you because they find you annoying.

[Anonymous]

Putting the dogs in the crate isn't right and a deal breaker imo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless you're paying $30+ per hour, you're unreasonable to expect a dog entertainer and a nanny. Do you know how annoying it is to have a baby wake up from nap cranky becaus of barking dogs? Hyper running around the house? Call PETA and maybe they have someone who wants to nanny and be a spouse to your dogs.

FREAK

You work with children? Dear lord help us all!

[Anonymous]

OP, something about this isn't working for me. I think it's the part where you say your husband comes home from work to feed the dogs lunch. Dogs don't eat lunch. Dogs eat every 12 hours (give or take) - breakfast and dinner. Not lunch.

[Anonymous]

If you are already looking for someone new... then don't post here for advice. You just want sympathy. It's annoying.