She didn't even ask

[Anonymous]

I work from 7:30 to 6:30 every day and today is no exception. I expected to get off at 6:30. MB just sent me a text saying that DB will be home first because she decided to go by one of her children's preschool for a parent social night. WTH. She didn't even ask just simply told me that he will be home first because she is going there. I would have appreciated being asked instead of just being told I am staying late. She was really bad about this in the past and we talked about it back in July and she got much better and now all of a sudden is doing it again. I will start looking for a new job as soon as I get home tonight. I texted her back saying I had dinner plans for 7:15 and DB doesn't get home til 7 every night and occasionally a bit later. No way I can get there on time and she texted me back saying that she was sure they wouldn't mind if I was just a little late. Not her decision to make. I would have been happy to stay and let everyone know I would be a tad late if she had just asked but now I am stuck here because she decided it's ok for me to be stuck here. It's not like I can just leave. I am really disappointed that she just threw our conversation out the window and is back to being her same old self again. Please excuse any grammar errors I am really upset and I'm sure it shows in my writing.

[Anonymous]

What a bitch! It's not the point if they mind. When you quit tell her why you are!

[Anonymous]

This is ridiculous! I'm sorry Op that your MB is so inconsiderate.

[Anonymous]

OP I am really mad for you!!! So sorry. I'd be tempted to say something like I'm leaving at 6:45 whether you're home or not.

[Anonymous]

Or charge at $50 late fee. Don't day cares charge $1/min?

[Anonymous]

I would have brought the child to the preschool and left him with his mother, but that's just me

[thewildbaby]

Wow. That is incredibly rude and disrespectful, OP. Good luck finding another job - I wouldn't be able to handle an MB like that for even a week!

[Anonymous]

Yeah, that's really not okay. I would be looking for a new job ASAP.

[Anonymous]

Not cool My employers are late sometimes - but ALWAYS ask, (and they know I'm flexible). If they just made a statement like yours, I'd be upset too. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Just tell her that this isn't ok. It's uncomfortable, but you have to set your boundaries with parents just like you do with kids. They will push you as far as they can.

[Anonymous]

-Charge a late fee
-Tell her you need at least a day notice if she wants you to stay late again

Parents like this are so fucking entitled. Let her know ASAP this can't happen without your approval again. Or it WILL keep happening.

[Anonymous]

18;06, I completely agree with you except, if OP did not spell out her late fees and it isn't in the contract, she can't collect.

Hear this, nannies. Consider these situations and make sure your policies are hard wired in the contract. You can't, after the fact, decide to charge a late fee and expect a parent to agree to it. All these details need to be worked out before you take the job. Full stop,

[Anonymous]

I would tell her that your contract states you work 7:30-6:30pm (which is already a LONG DAY). If she needs care after hours scheduled in your contract then the rate will be $1 per minute after 5 minutes past scheduled time that has to be paid upon arrival. If she doesn't agree to your terms then you will not be working past 6:30pm. End of discussion. Then in the meantime look for another job. If she fires you, claim unemployment.

[Anonymous]

OP what was the outcome? Did you quit or address the issues?

[Anonymous]

OP here: I did talk to my MB and let her know that I am ok with staying late when asked in advance. It turns out she spoke with DB that afternoon and told him she would be late so even he knew she wouldn't be home on time and no one bothered to tell me til a half hour before my day was supposed to be over. I told her that either she or DB need to let me know within 3 hours of my work shift ending if they will need me to stay late. I also told her that she cannot just assume that I can stay. She did say that she would be paying me for the extra time I stayed and I told her that was not the point. I knew she would pay me but that doesn't mean she can take advantage of me. I told her that if I told her I couldn't stay late and neither parent arrived home I would be dropping the children off wherever they were at and she could deal with them there. I also told her that she would be paying for the gas that it took me to drop the children off wherever she is at. She said it wouldn't happen again and she would ask earlier in the day. I am still going to continue my search for another position because I have talked with her many times in the past over various different issues and things get better for a short amount of time and then go back to the way they were. I am just done with this.