The childcare crisis has not helped nannies

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stop trying to undervalue nanny's work. It's a really hard work and requires lots of physical and emotional work daily. It's really difficult for a very experienced Nanny and very qualified accept offers with rates under market. It's doesn't make sense families pretend they can care their children almost for the same rate than a day care. A nanny an a daycare It's a different environment and quality of care. To those families who pretend offer those low rates to a Nanny; it's simple. Go for a day care. But no pretend to look for a nanny if you this is not in your budget.

God good you are insane. We paid 28 for one child, gas plus Healthcare and 30 paid leave days

If you are paying this to your Nanny; Awesome since you can
afford it this high rate for one child. I'm meant and I'm talking about families who wants a very experience Nanny and they pretend to pay $20. per 1 child. Since now the going rate for 1 child $25 per child now; and good for you if you can also give a gas stipend and healthcare; that's it's up to you. And btw.. I'm not insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The shortage of daycares really doesn’t benefit nannies at all. While it may seem that there are more nanny jobs available, only a small portion are at all decent.

I now have to sludge through dozens of jobs from mid-low earning families who cannot afford a nanny but believe they are entitled to one because of the childcare shortage.

It’s absolutely infuriating.

The amount of times I hear, “I can’t pay that, I don’t even make that much.” Then a nanny is not in your budget, my friend.

I’m empathetic to the need to find quality, affordable, safe childcare but we (nannies) also have bills. I’ll do my volunteering on the weekends, not on the weekdays.

Your skills and time are worth whatever someone is willing to pay. Everyone is struggling nowadays. A nanny can really fit into most budgets, just realize that when a nanny advertises her "experience", it's not worth much since your kids are different and unique so it's a fresh start for everyone. Having at least 2-3years experience with kids is helpful but there's really no difference between a 2yr experienced nanny and a 10yr experienced. Pay what you can, and you will find someone reliable and kind who is willing to accept that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The shortage of daycares really doesn’t benefit nannies at all. While it may seem that there are more nanny jobs available, only a small portion are at all decent.

I now have to sludge through dozens of jobs from mid-low earning families who cannot afford a nanny but believe they are entitled to one because of the childcare shortage.

It’s absolutely infuriating.

The amount of times I hear, “I can’t pay that, I don’t even make that much.” Then a nanny is not in your budget, my friend.

I’m empathetic to the need to find quality, affordable, safe childcare but we (nannies) also have bills. I’ll do my volunteering on the weekends, not on the weekdays.

Your skills and time are worth whatever someone is willing to pay. Everyone is struggling nowadays. A nanny can really fit into most budgets, just realize that when a nanny advertises her "experience", it's not worth much since your kids are different and unique so it's a fresh start for everyone. Having at least 2-3years experience with kids is helpful but there's really no difference between a 2yr experienced nanny and a 10yr experienced. Pay what you can, and you will find someone reliable and kind who is willing to accept that.

Are you kidding ? Yep.. I see how many families want to interview nannies with less than 5 years lol. Not even a family will trust so much on an inexperienced nanny over someone with lots of experience and super qualified. Ohh maybe a former AP who just for staying 1 or maybe 2 years with a family with school age children already; and maybe sometime have watched a infant for 1 or 2 hours like mother's helper; they can not say they have enough experience with children all ages. They have not done all the hard work and care that a newborn requiere until this newborn become a school age kid. But this is another story.

So for you, it's not that easy to find a job when a family require just a bit of experience; families who love their children so much will always look the best for them at all cost; and willing to pay a fair rate and what are willing to pay but giving also the real value to a great nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop trying to undervalue nanny's work. It's a really hard work and requires lots of physical and emotional work daily. It's really difficult for a very experienced Nanny and very qualified accept offers with rates under market. It's doesn't make sense families pretend they can care their children almost for the same rate than a day care. A nanny an a daycare It's a different environment and quality of care. To those families who pretend offer those low rates to a Nanny; it's simple. Go for a day care. But no pretend to look for a nanny if you this is not in your budget.

God good you are insane. We paid 28 for one child, gas plus Healthcare and 30 paid leave days

If you are paying this to your Nanny; Awesome since you can
afford it this high rate for one child. I'm meant and I'm talking about families who wants a very experience Nanny and they pretend to pay $20. per 1 child. Since now the going rate for 1 child $25 per child now; and good for you if you can also give a gas stipend and healthcare; that's it's up to you. And btw.. I'm not insane.

Please understand that even when we paid this we didn't get an astounding nanny who made our life easier- quite the opposite. we gave a good rate so we could get the best care for our child.

[Anonymous]

Most parents don’t know how to interview, in my experience. Agencies aren’t much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most parents don’t know how to interview, in my experience. Agencies aren’t much better.

Ha!! Again the nanny pool in the dmv sucks. Same people floating around. Many people wanting to nanny who really shouldn't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With multiple kids, many cannot afford day care. You are only worth what someone is willing to pay you.

Sounds like something they should have considered before they chose to have multiple children. if you don't have a nanny budget, you don't get a nanny. You're a daycare mom.

Lol what a terrible bunch you are

That's my post. I'm a parent, not a nanny, and it's 100% the truth. Sorry if you don't like it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The shortage of daycares really doesn’t benefit nannies at all. While it may seem that there are more nanny jobs available, only a small portion are at all decent.

I now have to sludge through dozens of jobs from mid-low earning families who cannot afford a nanny but believe they are entitled to one because of the childcare shortage.

It’s absolutely infuriating.

The amount of times I hear, “I can’t pay that, I don’t even make that much.” Then a nanny is not in your budget, my friend.

I’m empathetic to the need to find quality, affordable, safe childcare but we (nannies) also have bills. I’ll do my volunteering on the weekends, not on the weekdays.

Your skills and time are worth whatever someone is willing to pay. Everyone is struggling nowadays. A nanny can really fit into most budgets, just realize that when a nanny advertises her "experience", it's not worth much since your kids are different and unique so it's a fresh start for everyone. Having at least 2-3years experience with kids is helpful but there's really no difference between a 2yr experienced nanny and a 10yr experienced. Pay what you can, and you will find someone reliable and kind who is willing to accept that.

HAHAHAHA. Not even remotely true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most parents don’t know how to interview, in my experience. Agencies aren’t much better.

Ha!! Again the nanny pool in the dmv sucks. Same people floating around. Many people wanting to nanny who really shouldn't.

We will also say Ha! You can not say that nanny pool in the DVM sucks. Same Families floating around to lol, who really shouldn't try to get a nanny if they can not afford it, their expectations are unrealistic and the work environment it's not ok to let a nanny to their job. So it's better of both parties don't say anything (as you complain) and just keep looking what's the best for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most parents don’t know how to interview, in my experience. Agencies aren’t much better.

Ha!! Again the nanny pool in the dmv sucks. Same people floating around. Many people wanting to nanny who really shouldn't.

We will also say Ha! You can not say that nanny pool in the DVM sucks. Same Families floating around to lol, who really shouldn't try to get a nanny if they can not afford it, their expectations are unrealistic and the work environment it's not ok to let a nanny to their job. So it's better of both parties don't say anything (as you complain) and just keep looking what's the best for everyone.

I am not in DC and only know your world from this forum. My impression is that the nanny pool and those employing nannies are far better where we live (Beverly Hills, West Hollywood, CA). I don’t see nannies on their phones in the park or know terrible employers who treat their nannies like crap. I WFH and often accompany our wonderful nanny on outings and classes and see dedicated, loving nannies.

Also we and a number of my friends have American nannies with college degrees and teaching experience. We also expect to pay (and do pay) well in comparison to rates quoted here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most parents don’t know how to interview, in my experience. Agencies aren’t much better.

Ha!! Again the nanny pool in the dmv sucks. Same people floating around. Many people wanting to nanny who really shouldn't.

We will also say Ha! You can not say that nanny pool in the DVM sucks. Same Families floating around to lol, who really shouldn't try to get a nanny if they can not afford it, their expectations are unrealistic and the work environment it's not ok to let a nanny to their job. So it's better of both parties don't say anything (as you complain) and just keep looking what's the best for everyone.

I am not in DC and only know your world from this forum. My impression is that the nanny pool and those employing nannies are far better where we live (Beverly Hills, West Hollywood, CA). I don’t see nannies on their phones in the park or know terrible employers who treat their nannies like crap. I WFH and often accompany our wonderful nanny on outings and classes and see dedicated, loving nannies.

Also we and a number of my friends have American nannies with college degrees and teaching experience. We also expect to pay (and do pay) well in comparison to rates quoted here.

+1. Another Los Angeles nanny but further west (Malibu, Santa Monica) and I agree. It’s very different here than the DVM.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t. Those who use daycare do so because they can’t afford a nanny.

A couple years ago, I had a profile on care.com with my rate clearly stated. I had one mother call me and say she saw my profile and was exactly what they were looking for “… but I’m not paying x an hour!” I actually laughed and said “then I’m not working for you”. I always wondered why she even went through the trouble to seek me out.

Absolutely not true. We can afford a nanny but prefer daycare especially when those who call out sick a lot leave parents in the lurch
Also I will say same goes for parents. We are also finding everyone and their mother wants to be a nanny since the pandemic. And not all those who post should

Your situation is very rare. It’s a question of group care vs individual care. The vast, vast majority of people who can afford individual care for their babies would choose it.

And for the record, our nanny has never once called in sick. But my sister’s daycare has closed with hours notice for weeks at a time several times over the last two years.

So not true. I live in a wealthy neighborhood in NYC and know TONS of parents who could afford nannies but opt for daycare. They prefer the reliability of care, the socialization, and that there are multiple pairs of eyes on their kids. It’s simply a different mindset. Neither is superior.