Incident with Au Pair - Help me get through this week!

[Anonymous]

This sounds so fake. This was a work trip for her, not vacation. You should thank her, not she thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds so fake. This was a work trip for her, not vacation. You should thank her, not she thank you.

Were you dropped on your head or are you deliberately obtuse?

[Anonymous]

Good luck this week- you can do it! I wouldn't have her watch your kids again but I would also throw the farewell dinner and try to make the transition of her leaving the best scenario for your kids.I know I feel that we kept our current au pair much longer than we would have due to covid. As much as she was a blessing, it has been very difficult with personalities in our house too. Just a few more days!

[Anonymous]

Please post outcome

[Anonymous]

Wow, the trolls in this forum are more obvious than most. They don't even try.

[Anonymous]

Document with the lcc
Host the dinner
No gifts or cash, and let her know you won’t be a reference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a similar situation with an au pair and sucked it up for way too long. I am now very angry at myself for not advocating for my children.

There is no reason you need to put up with that behavior or disrespect. I would call the LCC and get her out now. She can go to a hotel for the last few days.

this. i would pay for a hotel for the last 4 days and would want her out of my house ASAP. she hit a child in front of you, was not remorseful, mody for housrs, took off with the car without even saying anything and when comes back slams door? just out.

[Anonymous]

I don’t see where she did anything wrong. Hopefully her next family appreciates her better.

[Anonymous]

Her wrong reaction was to a wrong behavior from your children. Typical American kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her wrong reaction was to a wrong behavior from your children. Typical American kids.

Wow.

Why are you posting on here? You have the emotional maturity of a child--where are your parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see where she did anything wrong. Hopefully her next family appreciates her better.

Double wow.

[Anonymous]

From the words mom used you can tell her kid is a little snot. Hopefully no other aupair are placed with such annoying kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From the words mom used you can tell her kid is a little snot. Hopefully no other aupair are placed with such annoying kids

Wow. And this is why there are au pairs in their home country posting on social media and wondering why there are no host families anymore. They're fleeing the program after seeing this is what au pairs are really like because they've lied when claiming they love kids to get here.

[Anonymous]

No dinner and definitely no bonus. I would not let her watch your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From the words mom used you can tell her kid is a little snot. Hopefully no other aupair are placed with such annoying kids

Wow. And this is why there are au pairs in their home country posting on social media and wondering why there are no host families anymore. They're fleeing the program after seeing this is what au pairs are really like because they've lied when claiming they love kids to get here.

Wake up and smell the coffee. They don't come to America because they "love kids".
They want the experience of traveling, seeing the USA etc and probably meet a husband.

It doesn't mean they won't be good au pairs...but at some point you have to understand they don't come for the sole purpose of childcare.
If that's what a family wants they should get a professional nanny.

Former AP.