Hanging out after babysitting hours

[Anonymous]

Walk her to the door. "See you tomorrow. "

[Anonymous]

Of you're on conference calls could she be waiting around in case your child wakes up so he doesn't disturb you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's probably lonely. Just be honest with her. Or, maybe she's waiting to make sure he actually went to sleep.

I would wait at least 30 minutes, depending on the age of the child. Some wake up and easy to soothe back to sleep, but other kids require more help. If I know a parent is working, I’m trying to make sure they won’t be interrupted. I can check my email on their couch (on my time) just as easily as I can from my car once I get away from their home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You appear to have a mouth so why don't you use it to tell her that she is to leave immediately at her quitting time.

How would you know whether I have a mouth from a typed post on an online discussion board?

Well, if you are mute, we know that you can write so write, or type (and you can type?) telling her to leave the minute you walk in the door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's probably lonely. Just be honest with her. Or, maybe she's waiting to make sure he actually went to sleep.

She’s probably waiting to make sure baby is sleeping

[Anonymous]

We have an extremely lonely occasional sitter. She is in her 60s, lives alone, and is a little odd. (But awesome with the kids.) She often stays to chat and we do not want her to. She goes on and on. This is usually at 10:30 or 11 PM when my husband and I are getting home from a date. She does this to my friend who uses her too. I've become much bolder in getting her to go home. My husband completely avoids her now.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she is lonely and doesn't want to go back home alone and is looking for company and doesn't realize she is bothering you.

Maybe gently reminder her , her time ends at 1 pm and you have work to do and walk her to the door if need be.

[Anonymous]

Why not trying to be grateful that you have someone who has
agreed to take care of your child as you do not sound like a particularly nice person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have an extremely lonely occasional sitter. She is in her 60s, lives alone, and is a little odd. (But awesome with the kids.) She often stays to chat and we do not want her to. She goes on and on. This is usually at 10:30 or 11 PM when my husband and I are getting home from a date. She does this to my friend who uses her too. I've become much bolder in getting her to go home. My husband completely avoids her now.

I also had a former part time nanny like this. I even posted here about it and tried the tips but never really worked. Once you go down that path it’s hard to retract. We eventually let her go (nicely) due to it. I talked to her on the phone last week
and was quickly reminded why I couldn’t handle her anymore. Older divorced or widowed women who live alone do this IMO.