Fire Nanny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP answer the question. Did you hire her for a full time position after she had turned down other interested potential clients and then spring part time on her at the last minute? Did you reduce the pay you agreed upon at that time? Well guess what happened-she thought she had a full time paying job but suddenly now has a part time paying job but her bills are still full time!!!!! I can't believe you haven't figured this out. She's working for you part time cuz some money is better than no money until she can find a reliable full time employer. DUH

OP here. She might most of the first week due to illness and that’s when we decided we didn’t want to pay full-time when we only needed part-time. I ended up taking another week for my maternity leave, and she started working two days a week. We are only paying her for the hours worked. She agreed part-time. We told her we understood if she wanted to back out, but she said she was still interested.

Horse hockey!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP answer the question. Did you hire her for a full time position after she had turned down other interested potential clients and then spring part time on her at the last minute? Did you reduce the pay you agreed upon at that time? Well guess what happened-she thought she had a full time paying job but suddenly now has a part time paying job but her bills are still full time!!!!! I can't believe you haven't figured this out. She's working for you part time cuz some money is better than no money until she can find a reliable full time employer. DUH

OP here. She might most of the first week due to illness and that’s when we decided we didn’t want to pay full-time when we only needed part-time. I ended up taking another week for my maternity leave, and she started working two days a week. We are only paying her for the hours worked. She agreed part-time. We told her we understood if she wanted to back out, but she said she was still interested.

That was pretty crummy of you to do. You should have paid her full time.

[Anonymous]

Okay, OP, let me see if I have got this straight:

You hired a nanny for full time. You agreed on a start date and she possibly turned down other offers. Then, you decided to only use her part time. And she agreed. And now you want to fire her without ever giving her a chance to do the job she was initially hired to do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, OP, let me see if I have got this straight:

You hired a nanny for full time. You agreed on a start date and she possibly turned down other offers. Then, you decided to only use her part time. And she agreed. And now you want to fire her without ever giving her a chance to do the job she was initially hired to do?

OP here. It's been almost six weeks. She has missed a 1 or both days almost every week. I know she was sick twice but we need someone reliable. We already had a talk with her and then she missed the two days after she said she wouldn't miss any other days because she was sick. I don't feel we have done anything wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We hired an early thirties nanny with over a decade of experience to care for our infant. We originally planned to have her start out FT but then my husband was forced to take his paternity leave in the full amount and has 8 weeks off. She started 6 weeks ago working 2 days a week, and has missed a day almost every week. She is usually on time but has been late once by almost an hour when the weather was bad. I know it’s not in her control as she came down with a stomach bug and then a bad respiratory infection. Then she ended up with a family emergency in between the illnesses. She has missed both days this week because she said she is still sick with bronchitis. My husband is starting back at work in two weeks and we are getting concerned about her reliability. We do love her and she is amazing with our child, but we can’t afford to miss any days of work once he starts back at work. I don’t know if we should give her another chance or fire her.

Your husband being forced to take the time off was your problem and you made it hers. Would you find it acceptable if your employer did this to you? She's looking for another job . When it's time for her to go full time with you she may just treat you like you treated her and change up the hours. Get some backup in place. You're going to need it.

[Anonymous]

Hard to fire someone who doesn’t seem to actually be working for you.

I would ask her straight up if she’s working somewhere else until her real start date and if so she wants to just come back when her job really starts. A open convo about what happened so far could save the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay, OP, let me see if I have got this straight:

You hired a nanny for full time. You agreed on a start date and she possibly turned down other offers. Then, you decided to only use her part time. And she agreed. And now you want to fire her without ever giving her a chance to do the job she was initially hired to do?

OP here. It's been almost six weeks. She has missed a 1 or both days almost every week. I know she was sick twice but we need someone reliable. We already had a talk with her and then she missed the two days after she said she wouldn't miss any other days because she was sick. I don't feel we have done anything wrong.

Are you dim? She is missing those days because she is taking work elsewhere. How would you feel if your job went to only two dats a week? Unless you’re paying $100/hr how do you think the nanny is paying her bills? I hope she quits!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay, OP, let me see if I have got this straight:

You hired a nanny for full time. You agreed on a start date and she possibly turned down other offers. Then, you decided to only use her part time. And she agreed. And now you want to fire her without ever giving her a chance to do the job she was initially hired to do?

OP here. It's been almost six weeks. She has missed a 1 or both days almost every week. I know she was sick twice but we need someone reliable. We already had a talk with her and then she missed the two days after she said she wouldn't miss any other days because she was sick. I don't feel we have done anything wrong.

Well, frankly, you are wrong. You hired her for full time and changed the terms of her employment. She needs employers who are reliable. I’m fairly certain she took another job out of necessity and called in sick so she wouldn’t have to admit it. She needed the money. I would absolutely give her a month of full time to see how it works out for all of you.

You have a responsibility as an employer, OP. This is not some teenage babysitter trying to earn pocket-money - this is an adult who is supporting herself and perhaps a family.

[Anonymous]

OP here. She doesn't have a family. I know she was really sick since she provided us with papers from the ER that she had bronchitis. I'm not sure about the other illness, but we don't think she is lying about that. We did she was online and the thought that she is looking did cross my mind. I know it wasn't ideal for her to go from FT to PT, but she agreed to it. There is also not set start date - it depends on when my husband finds a job, but we feel that will be soon. We have decided to fire her once we find someone else. She will not be working for us again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She doesn't have a family. I know she was really sick since she provided us with papers from the ER that she had bronchitis. I'm not sure about the other illness, but we don't think she is lying about that. We did she was online and the thought that she is looking did cross my mind. I know it wasn't ideal for her to go from FT to PT, but she agreed to it. There is also not set start date - it depends on when my husband finds a job, but we feel that will be soon. We have decided to fire her once we find someone else. She will not be working for us again.

You are truly a horrible woman. I honestly feel so sorry for your poor child.

[Anonymous]

So actually your husband lost his job?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She doesn't have a family. I know she was really sick since she provided us with papers from the ER that she had bronchitis. I'm not sure about the other illness, but we don't think she is lying about that. We did she was online and the thought that she is looking did cross my mind. I know it wasn't ideal for her to go from FT to PT, but she agreed to it. There is also not set start date - it depends on when my husband finds a job, but we feel that will be soon. We have decided to fire her once we find someone else. She will not be working for us again.

I suspect she will be quitting very soon and I predict that you will go through nanny after nanny because no one will stay with you very long.

[Anonymous]

I’m calling it. Troll post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m calling it. Troll post.

I hope it is a troll post. However there really are horrid women out there (and OP definitely falls into that category).