Ever had a kid that is "too much for you"
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Anonymous
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Children that cannot amuse themselves at all are hard but would not make me want to leave.
I had a 7yo boy once, it was only a 3 mo temp gig he was the hardest I have ever had. He had a 5yo sister and a 2yo sister as well. He was very defiant and didn't do anything I asked him, would ignore me when I said it was time to leave for the bus, not get off the swing in the yard when I asked him, tell me he " didnt have to do things"....Not kind to siblings etc. His parents let him get away with it, I am sure he is a delight now he is in his teens. |
Anonymous
Every child needs space to be creative, learn to entertain themselves and learn to manage emotions without adults. For an infant, it might be 2-4 minutes of self-soothing. For a second grader, it might be reading or building legos in their room for 30-60 minutes. A child who is constantly entertained loses out, in the long term. |
Anonymous
The kid knows you can't stand her. Why would you "provide care" for a kid that you have such negative feelings about. Oh I know, it all about the money. You really should not be working with children. |
Anonymous
You sound delightful. Thanks for giving such sage advice. |
Anonymous
| Ifva kid ever hit me, I would call parents to come home immediately. No excuse . |
Anonymous
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I've had challenging kids and it is just matter of figuring them out and what makes them tick.
My current charge is the most difficult child I have ever watched. He absolutely tests people from go. I was the 4th nanny and have managed to stay 4 years. He drove everyone off. For him it was getting down on his level. He absolutely knows when someone is not into him. He went through a phase (and is really still in that phase) where he loved loved nerf guns. I started playing with him on his level and he really opened up and started to be sweet. Whenever he would step out of line, there was no nerf war for that day. Setting up science projects and such? No. My charge responds to physical activity. You'll see me jumping on the trampoline with him, throwing a football, playing hide and seek...ect. You just need to figure out how to get on a childs level, what their level is and it really comes easy after that. For my current "difficult" charge, it just took a bit longer and me trying a bunch of things. He also responds very well to hugs and physical touch. If you get aggressive back with him, he just will level you up 2xs . |
Anonymous
Frankly, I dislike playing with my own 4 year old or my 8 year old more than 20 minutes. I don't want to play Barbies or beyblades or hide and seek. I find it boring even though my kids are super cute and not difficult kids. Frankly, how many adults find playing with a 4 year old that enjoyable? Be honest. |
Anonymous
That’s the difference between a parent and a professional caregiver. Nannies and daycare should want to be around young children, even if it’s 2 hours of a toddler pretending to make and feed them the same foods. At the same time, we should be adept at incorporating education into the play. “Oh I love grapes! Grapes are round, and these are green. Do we have any purple grapes?” |
Anonymous
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Those are the SUPER easy ages
JUST WAIT UNTIL the preteens and teen age, iits utter HELL |
Anonymous
| Yup. An entitled 4 yr. old who knew everything. He was constant work from the start of the day til the end. Much like his mother…who micromanaged and was miserable. I stayed only because I needed the job. |
Anonymous
This. |