Have you changed nannies in the past year and have a child between 0-6?

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Anonymous wrote:My mothervdued when I was 4 yrs okd. My father was military stations in a war zone) and overnight everything that was familiar to me changes. Siblings all sent off to private schools. I was sent to live with an aunt I had never met. A year later he came back and hired a live-in nanny, next year I was sent to boarding school.

I can assure you that these changes had a tremendously deleterious effect on my life. You are deluding yourselves if you think changing caregivers frequently has no effect on your child.

That sounds awful - I am so sorry.

It is also COMPLETELY different than a change in nanny. You lost parents. There is nothing more fundamental, and potentially damaging.

A nanny is not a parent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There are no lasting effects on changing caregivers. Kids understand they aren't family.

Depends on their age of instability of primary caregivers, incompetence of caregiver, or lack of a loving care-giver. Children absolutely require all three during their foundational years, from birth to age three.

Children require instability, incompetence, and love?

During their foundational years of early childhood, from birth through age three, children require a primary caregiver who is

1. Stable
2. Competent
3. Loving

Without these basics of building a solid foundation, there can easily be devastating long-range consequences. It's not pretty, people, but it's a fact. This is why we hear about "The Hell of American Daycare". Google it.

Mental health, or lack thereof, is often rooted in early childhood. This can include some of the increasingly common disabilities that are now being treated by psychiatrists who usually prescribe risky psychiatric prescription medications. Sometimes these medications can help a child cope with their conditions, but often they don't help. This is not to mention the fact that it can take months, if not years for the psychiatrists to figure out the best drug, and then to figure out the best dose. Because your child's brain is still in its development, these drugs can have undesirable consequences.

Of course the parents' mental health and genes have a strong influence has well.

[Anonymous]

I don't have the time to do the survey but I know my son would be devastated if he lost his nanny and I think it could cause some psychological damage/issues for him. Hopefully that will not happen until he is ready.

I am a psychologist and I can tell when a person comes to me if he/she had a loss in their early years - or the opposite: a stable person when their parents were not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't have the time to do the survey but I know my son would be devastated if he lost his nanny and I think it could cause some psychological damage/issues for him. Hopefully that will not happen until he is ready.

I am a psychologist and I can tell when a person comes to me if he/she had a loss in their early years - or the opposite: a stable person when their parents were not.

Thank you for speaking the truth.