Fabulous nanny- school aged child. What should she do with her days?

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Anonymous wrote:Do you even have enough household duties to occupy her for a full eight hour school day?

Perhaps she can do some more chores, like ironing and organizing.

She us a nanny not a laundress.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you even have enough household duties to occupy her for a full eight hour school day?

Perhaps she can do some more chores, like ironing and organizing.

She us a nanny not a laundress.

Agree, most Americans have no real understanding of what a nanny is.

[Anonymous]

Agree that talking to your nanny is important, as is identifying what you need and want her to do. Maybe she would be interested in volunteering a couple hours a week in your child's classroom.

[Anonymous]

I don't see how she has any spare time, considering everything she's already doing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, talk to her.

I know a nanny who's been with the same family for over 12 years; both children are now in middle or high-school. She does the basic housekeeping and food prep and is then invited to lounge by the pool, watch tv, etc. Now, that isn't standard, but it is the reason she's stayed so long. She wants to nanny, not garden, so if they didn't need her to do household management she'd just switch to a family with younger kids. Your nanny might have something in mind she'd enjoy doing to help out but you'll have to ask her. Please don't try to compile a list of chores for her, sit down, have a discussion about your needs and her preferences, take some time reflect, then chat again to go over what you'd like her days to look like.

This is about your needs, not hers. Figure out what you need the person in her position to do now that your kids are getting older, write up a new job description, tell her you love her and would like her to stay if she is interested. If she's not, you've outgrown each other and it's time for you both to move on. But no, she doesn't get to select her duties. This is a job, not a country club.

Yes, this is a job but OP also wants the stability of her nanny for her children. She needs the nanny to do pick up and drop off as well as be available for holidays, vacation days as well as sick days at a moment's notice. This is a nanny job - and you cannot ask your nanny to wash your car or mow your lawn just because she has a few hours free.

Exactly. As a nanny, I will not morph into a housekeeper any more than my doctor will morph into my chauffeur.

You might not, but many do. We have 4 children. My oldest is 16 and my youngest is 5. She's been with us for 16 years and has always done an amazing job keeping the house organized and as the kids have gotten older has done more housekeeping duties. We have plans to keep her employed for another 10 years. And yes, she is a high end nanny. She does no heavy cleaning, we have other people who do that.

Just my guess, but most nannies would not walk away from her kind of set up. We're a 7 figure family and could nor have accomplished what we have without her and she's rewarded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did she tell you she's bored?

I'm not paying her to sit around on her ass all day for that rare time I need her to watch my son when he's sick. All I'm asking for is ideas of things to make her do to justify paying her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, talk to her.

I know a nanny who's been with the same family for over 12 years; both children are now in middle or high-school. She does the basic housekeeping and food prep and is then invited to lounge by the pool, watch tv, etc. Now, that isn't standard, but it is the reason she's stayed so long. She wants to nanny, not garden, so if they didn't need her to do household management she'd just switch to a family with younger kids. Your nanny might have something in mind she'd enjoy doing to help out but you'll have to ask her. Please don't try to compile a list of chores for her, sit down, have a discussion about your needs and her preferences, take some time reflect, then chat again to go over what you'd like her days to look like.

This is about your needs, not hers. Figure out what you need the person in her position to do now that your kids are getting older, write up a new job description, tell her you love her and would like her to stay if she is interested. If she's not, you've outgrown each other and it's time for you both to move on. But no, she doesn't get to select her duties. This is a job, not a country club.

Yes, this is a job but OP also wants the stability of her nanny for her children. She needs the nanny to do pick up and drop off as well as be available for holidays, vacation days as well as sick days at a moment's notice. This is a nanny job - and you cannot ask your nanny to wash your car or mow your lawn just because she has a few hours free.

Exactly. As a nanny, I will not morph into a housekeeper any more than my doctor will morph into my chauffeur.

You might not, but many do. We have 4 children. My oldest is 16 and my youngest is 5. She's been with us for 16 years and has always done an amazing job keeping the house organized and as the kids have gotten older has done more housekeeping duties. We have plans to keep her employed for another 10 years. And yes, she is a high end nanny. She does no heavy cleaning, we have other people who do that.

Just my guess, but most nannies would not walk away from her kind of set up. We're a 7 figure family and could nor have accomplished what we have without her and she's rewarded.

If you started her at a fair DC wage then she is making at LEAST $36/hr right now, and in another 10 years you will be paying her $46 an hour? You are the definition of a chump! If I was your nanny I would stay too, with a clueless MB like you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see how she has any spare time, considering everything she's already doing.

Most moms work full time and do all those chores and more when they get home, this nanny only has chores to occupy her for at most 2 hours a day, so I can see why OP is looking for more things because as it stands she is just paying her to sit idle.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't see how she has any spare time, considering everything she's already doing.

Most moms work full time and do all those chores and more when they get home, this nanny only has chores to occupy her for at most 2 hours a day, so I can see why OP is looking for more things because as it stands she is just paying her to sit idle.

One father told me in front of his wife, "The only thing Nanny isn't doing, is having sex with me."

Is that what you want? You're a fool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see how she has any spare time, considering everything she's already doing.

Most moms work full time and do all those chores and more when they get home, this nanny only has chores to occupy her for at most 2 hours a day, so I can see why OP is looking for more things because as it stands she is just paying her to sit idle.

One father told me in front of his wife, "The only thing Nanny isn't doing, is having sex with me."

Is that what you want? You're a fool.

That guy sounds like an asshole. And maybe he has watched one to many episodes of mad men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, talk to her.

I know a nanny who's been with the same family for over 12 years; both children are now in middle or high-school. She does the basic housekeeping and food prep and is then invited to lounge by the pool, watch tv, etc. Now, that isn't standard, but it is the reason she's stayed so long. She wants to nanny, not garden, so if they didn't need her to do household management she'd just switch to a family with younger kids. Your nanny might have something in mind she'd enjoy doing to help out but you'll have to ask her. Please don't try to compile a list of chores for her, sit down, have a discussion about your needs and her preferences, take some time reflect, then chat again to go over what you'd like her days to look like.

This is about your needs, not hers. Figure out what you need the person in her position to do now that your kids are getting older, write up a new job description, tell her you love her and would like her to stay if she is interested. If she's not, you've outgrown each other and it's time for you both to move on. But no, she doesn't get to select her duties. This is a job, not a country club.

Yes, this is a job but OP also wants the stability of her nanny for her children. She needs the nanny to do pick up and drop off as well as be available for holidays, vacation days as well as sick days at a moment's notice. This is a nanny job - and you cannot ask your nanny to wash your car or mow your lawn just because she has a few hours free.

Exactly. As a nanny, I will not morph into a housekeeper any more than my doctor will morph into my chauffeur.

You might not, but many do. We have 4 children. My oldest is 16 and my youngest is 5. She's been with us for 16 years and has always done an amazing job keeping the house organized and as the kids have gotten older has done more housekeeping duties. We have plans to keep her employed for another 10 years. And yes, she is a high end nanny. She does no heavy cleaning, we have other people who do that.

Just my guess, but most nannies would not walk away from her kind of set up. We're a 7 figure family and could nor have accomplished what we have without her and she's rewarded.

If you started her at a fair DC wage then she is making at LEAST $36/hr right now, and in another 10 years you will be paying her $46 an hour? You are the definition of a chump! If I was your nanny I would stay too, with a clueless MB like you!

Are you this dumb IRL, or do you just play one on the internet?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did she tell you she's bored?

I'm not paying her to sit around on her ass all day for that rare time I need her to watch my son when he's sick. All I'm asking for is ideas of things to make her do to justify paying her.

You actually eat with that mouth?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did she tell you she's bored?

I'm not paying her to sit around on her ass all day for that rare time I need her to watch my son when he's sick. All I'm asking for is ideas of things to make her do to justify paying her.

Some nannies are open to grocery shopping and meal prep, clean kids room, plan activities etc. when kids are in school. Either way yes she will be sitting on her ass but that is the price of providing stability for your child (assuming nanny has been with your child since infant). Otherwise post a new job with your requirements and go from there.

[Anonymous]

Just get a housekeeper if you want the help to stay in constant motion.

[Anonymous]

Our nanny does all that, plus take car to get oil changes, sometimes donate to good will, sometimes help organize the linen closet. She cooks dinner one or two nights a week too