If a neighbor is in a tight spot once in a while, I would happily walk his 5 year old to school and wait with her until she gets in. If it were an everyday thing, I would definitely expect pay for my services (not much, but something). |
Of course I would do it in an emergency or as an occasional thing. It;s no big deal. However, I would not do it as a daily thing for any extra pay - I just wouldn't do it. |
No, I don't think adding another child into the mix would be an act of good faith considering you do not know how she personally would feel about doing this. And I wouldn't ask her because by just posing the question would send the wrong message that you would think it no big deal to add an extra kid.
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Children may not be commodities, but CHILDCARE most certainly is a commodity. It is offered, purchased and paid for. So it is not out of order to understand there is extra effort involved for the nanny, and should come with extra pya. |
Did you ask the nanny, OP? |
I did. She said that she was happy to do it. I offered to pay her a extra if it became a regular thing, which she blew off and said she wouldn't take it. I will probably get her a gift card to a store I know she likes to go to and/or add more to her Christmas bonus if it becomes a regular thing. I appreciate the insight from people who have had this turn into more and more time. There is no way the family could impose more than about 30 minutes on her because my nanny gets here 30 minutes before school, so anything before that would be on me, but even that would be a bigger deal than what I was thinking, so I will be sure to keep up on what's going on. Thanks so much for the responses! |
FYI, if you came to many silver spring elementary schools before they start there are tons of Hispanic children sitting around the playground and entranceway. And for a lot longer than 10 minutes.
Maybe some ESOL nanny should capitalize on that market. |
Your nanny sounds very reasonable, OP, unlike the nannies on this board, who care only about the money. |
Why are you butting in on another parent"s choice. If this child's parent is fine with letting her eat dry cereal and wait outside, it is none of your business. I would be livid with your assuming you know better than I what I should do with my child. |
It must be awesome to be you and never need help. |
The parent of the child eating dry cereal DID NOT ask for help, did she? |
Hence the high parental demands for bargain nannies. As long as she's cheap, she's good enough for you, huh? |
what is your point? Just because she didn't ask for it doesn't mean that she didn't need it. It sounds like you have never needed help, so you don't know how it feels. That's cool. But no one's parenting decision is to let their kid wait outside alone. Just like no one's decision is to struggle through a door with a double stroller. It works in a pinch, but it's nice if someone offers to open the door/walk your kid to school and make your life a tiny bit easier. |
Assuming this were not a regular occurance, I would be more than happy to do it uncompensated as long as I was happy woth my nannying arrangement overall. If were not particularly satusfied, well...I would do it but want something...kind of a give and take in the grand scheme of things |