Thank you, sounds perfect. This is how i will present this to her. Sounds extremely professional and rational. |
Lol yes I wondered the same thing before i met him. His mother insisted. I actually still have to wake him up. Without his nap he is quite a handful. Im thinking when he starts half day school in the fall i will lay him down a little later everyday and get him up at the same time until it has shortened to more of a cat nap. Ive also been trying to get MB to sign him up for some afternoon activities. |
She is bit of a control freak. Her best friend came to town for a week with her kids and MB still had to work. The entire time she was texting us and trying to suggest what we should do with our time. I have just been rolling with it so far because she is a very sweet and generous woman but i worry now. |
I'm starting back to school in a masters program in the fall and was a nanny on and off during during college and until I found a teaching job. When i was teaching before my days rarely ended when i left my class and i struggled with lesson plans, grading etc. So I decided to go back to nannying until I'm done. All of the other teaching jobs at daycares etc pay 3 times less than i make now unfortunately. Thank you for your response and perspective. I needed it! |
This is what I was afraid of hearing. My gut is telling me it may always be something if not this |
She is trying to stretch her dollar here and get her money's worth. Tenfold.
Shame on her. As a parent, I would want my children in the care of a nanny who is well-rested and not burned out to the max. My primary focus would be on my children and I would advocate for them to get the best optimal care as possible. I think you should bring up this issue NOW vs. keeping your feelings to yourself. If you discuss it now with her, perhaps she can change her mind. If you sweep it under the rug, trust me, it will cause you to be angry, bitter and very resentful and that is not in anyone's best interest here. If your MomBoss still demands you work eleven hours straight, then you need to leave her and tell her to go hire a robot. |
Just want to offer another perspective that if you generally find her to be sweet and generous, albeit a control freak, then you should at least give her a chance. Have an honest conversation with her about the challenges of an 11 hour day, and your suggestions/plan for handling that in a way that 1) honors her wishes, 2) makes sense for the temperament and ages of the kids, and 3) makes it possible for you to happily manage a long day.
Frame all of your suggestions in support of those three things and see if she's receptive. If not, then start looking. But give her a chance first. - MB |
I hope you're well-paid to put up with all of this. Are you? |
A 6 year old is too old to have quiet time in the afternoon. That's for kids who have outgrown the nap but still get a bit tired. She shouldn't have to regress her development so you can get downtime. Moms deal with this just fine. A six year old is pretty independent. What is your problem? Do your job. |
+1000 Also, a 4 year old should not be napping. That is really odd. I am thinking the MB wants the 4 year old nap so the 6 year old can get some individual attention on academics, not so you can "rest" during a paid work time. |
You are expected to get your downtime when you get off work at 6:45. Be thankful you have that. SAH moms go through this 24 hours a day.
I know it is a long day, but this is what caretakers (nannies and mothers) do. If you don't think it is fair, then honestly think about another profession. |
I cannot fathom why you can't clean up and have a sane day when the kids are 4 and 6. At that age, they are pretty independent and should have plenty of time to each your lunch and do clean up, if you are a decent nanny.
It makes me think you don't know how to handle the children. My charges are 2 and 4 and I still get my lunch, coffee and cleanup time in. |
Poop in her shoe. |
Op here I don't agree with a 4 year old napping at all. Like I said previously it's not my idea and I found it strange that they BOTH still napped a few months ago when I started. The 4 year old acts up ridiculously throughout the day if he doesn't rest. I've been trying to wing him off. This is not my idea for him to nap and not the point of this post. |
I can't fathom why you think I don't have a "sane" day. I get my time in as long as the 6 year old is allowed to play quietly separately from me for a few minutes. Otherwise she literally follows me around saying "look at this" etc and I have to constantly remind her to play quietly for a minute while I do XYZ. As long as she is in the playroom right off the kitchen or in her room, this doesn't happen. My issue was the mb specifically wanting me to have her with me the entire day and work with her on tutoring during the entire time. Learn to read. Thanks |