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Anonymous
If you stood by for three minutes, that is too long for the baby to be unattended. I think you should definitely tell the family.
Anonymous
Thanks, all. OP here.

I wrote a note to the parents, and I am going to drop it off at their house. In the note, I detailed only the facts (I saw the child in the stroller, unattended, and three minutes passed between the time I saw the child/stroller and the time when the nanny retrieved the child/stroller). I also wrote that I knew nothing of the background or any extenuating circumstances, and that the caregiver may have been able to see the child from the inside. I explained that I was only telling them because I would want to know if they saw my child in a similar situation.

Thanks again for your input!

Anonymous
Good, OP! Make sure the parents get it, not the nanny! The people here who are telling you to MYOB are nannies who would do the same thing -- not parents, who absolutely would want to know so that they could immediately fire this nanny!
Anonymous
OP again. By chance, I ran into the mother when I was walking down her street, so I told her (in objective terms) what I saw, and I also handed the letter to her (so she could have it in writing). She was incredibly thankful. Thanks again, DCUM posters!
Anonymous
[quote=Anonymous]OP again. By chance, I ran into the mother when I was walking down her street, so I told her (in objective terms) what I saw, and I also handed the letter to her (so she could have it in writing). She was incredibly thankful. Thanks again, DCUM posters![/quote]

You knew nothing about this family before, and didn't know if the woman with the baby was a mom or a nanny yet now you can pick mom out on the street without ever meeting her? That's amazing!
Anonymous
OP here. Those with good deduction skills would have been able to figure out that I employed some sort of strategy to determine that the woman is the mother before telling her what I witnessed.

In this case, as I was walking, letter in hand, toward the house this evening: (1) I saw the caregiver leave the house, followed shortly thereafter by a woman, with an infant in a baby carrier/sling, who walked in the opposite direction, and (2) I crossed the street and asked the woman if she is the mother of the child in the carrier/sling on her chest, to which she responded affirmatively.

Further, I verified the color/type of stroller owned by the family; I verified that the first woman who I saw is indeed the caregiver; I verified that the caregiver was home alone with the child yesterday during the day.

Pretty amazing, indeed (insert eye roll).
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Good, OP! Make sure the parents get it, not the nanny! The people here who are telling you to MYOB are nannies who would do the same thing -- not parents, who absolutely would want to know so that they could immediately fire this nanny!


Nope, I'm the nanny, and I have told parents when I've seen unattended strollers and babies or toddlers. Normally, the parent corroborates with my MB/DB by having them ask the kids what they did on the walk to/from school and kids talk about playing with and talking to the child.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Good, OP! Make sure the parents get it, not the nanny! The people here who are telling you to MYOB are nannies who would do the same thing -- not parents, who absolutely would want to know so that they could immediately fire this nanny!


You do not know that, PP. The worst neglect I have personally ever witnessed is from parents not babysitters or nannies.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good, OP! Make sure the parents get it, not the nanny! The people here who are telling you to MYOB are nannies who would do the same thing -- not parents, who absolutely would want to know so that they could immediately fire this nanny!


You do not know that, PP. The worst neglect I have personally ever witnessed is from parents not babysitters or nannies.


+1 And I already posted that OP should tell the parents and I am a nanny.
Anonymous
It never ceases to amaze me how casual some parents and nannies are with their kids. I would without a doubt 100% want to know and i would tell my neighbor if I saw something like that.
Anonymous
I am a nanny and I would contact the parents in a hot New York minute.
Anonymous
I would want to know.
MrsFloridaAvenue

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I would absolutely want to be told.
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