Can I hold my NF's keys until I get my things back?

[Anonymous]

^^for OP NOT ForgOT

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many shitty parents out there.

They're mad. She quit after two weeks because she got a better offer. They can't hold her stuff, but she also sounds like she doesn't get why they would be angry since she gave her two week's notice

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Anonymous wrote:You have their keys. Go and get your stuff. If they are not home let yourself in and leave the keys on the counter....easy peasy.

No, I wouldn't enter someone's house without permission, even when you have a key. I would try to set something up with her to get your stuff and give back her key. If you try for about 2 weeks and get no response, so if it is clear that she is ignoring your request on purpose, then talk to the police. Explain the situation and ask if you can have an officer meet you at the house when you know they are there. He can stand there while you get your bag and give back the key. They will probably behave themselves then.

I would do this. Meet a police officer at the house to get my stuff. I wouldn't wait two weeks though. I'd give her a few days before she had a chance to throw my things out.

[Anonymous]

PP, you would seriously have a police man escort you to pick of some sample sized lotion and shirts that are grungy enough you're willing to let a baby spit up on them? That's a waste of resources. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So many shitty parents out there.

They're mad. She quit after two weeks because she got a better offer. They can't hold her stuff, but she also sounds like she doesn't get why they would be angry since she gave her two week's notice

This seems well within the realm of a trial period which is usually about a month. Sure they can be disappointed, but that doesn't mean you get to be a brat. OP gave a professional amount of notice for a job she hasn't been at long. How much notice would you expect from a person you employed for 2 weeks?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So many shitty parents out there.

They're mad. She quit after two weeks because she got a better offer. They can't hold her stuff, but she also sounds like she doesn't get why they would be angry since she gave her two week's notice

When I read her post, I can't tell either way whether she understands why they are mad or not. She just tells the facts, and doesn't tell what she thinks about them. I would not be happy if a nanny did this either. However, it is right to give her stuff back. Holding it, not responding to calls/texts, etc., is childish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP, you would seriously have a police man escort you to pick of some sample sized lotion and shirts that are grungy enough you're willing to let a baby spit up on them? That's a waste of resources. Let it go.

It will take him 5 mins. They will send one that works in the neighborhood. Seriously, it's not wasting resources to a huge extent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP, you would seriously have a police man escort you to pick of some sample sized lotion and shirts that are grungy enough you're willing to let a baby spit up on them? That's a waste of resources. Let it go.

It's the principle of it, not the actual value of the items. Why should some mom get to hold OP's belongings hostage just because she is butthurt that OP quit? She should be a grown up and return the nanny's things if she expects to have hers returned as well, regardless of the items in question. This is just plain immaturity and OP does not need to play into it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So many shitty parents out there.

They're mad. She quit after two weeks because she got a better offer. They can't hold her stuff, but she also sounds like she doesn't get why they would be angry since she gave her two week's notice

Op here. I understand they are a little angry but thats not my problem. I took this job because it was closer, but I would have quit either way. DB and MB fight a lot in front of me and they are always late ( in that short time). I could of easily quit on the spot but I gave two weeks notice. I did the right thing. They can be mad all they want, it doesn't give them the right to keep my belongings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many shitty parents out there.

They're mad. She quit after two weeks because she got a better offer. They can't hold her stuff, but she also sounds like she doesn't get why they would be angry since she gave her two week's notice

Op here. I understand they are a little angry but thats not my problem. I took this job because it was closer, but I would have quit either way. DB and MB fight a lot in front of me and they are always late ( in that short time). I could of easily quit on the spot but I gave two weeks notice. I did the right thing. They can be mad all they want, it doesn't give them the right to keep my belongings.

Oh I have worked for the ones who fight in front of the nanny and not on time right away. These people do not have boundaries. Thus the immature attitude when you gave notice. Besides the principle of the thing, I would also be concerned about having their key. If they are not nice people, you don't want them to accuse you of something one day "because that nanny kept our key". If I were you, I wouldn't even want to be responsible for mailing it to them. They could easily claim they never got it. Seriously, explain that to the police too. That they are acting sketchy, and you need a witness with you when you give their key back (keep the officer's name). In addition, the officer will be there so they will not make a scene when you get your stuff back.

[Anonymous]

That is a tough situation. You can ask for them to mail back your things just like they asked you to mail you the key. The cost of mailing your items does not matter.

However, if they don't, your possible legal action costs will be much more than the cost of things you left there so you are in a bad spot.

They are in a bad spot too if you keep the key.

Seems like they do want to avoid confrontation with you or any personal meeting. I think it would be best if both parties just mailed the things they have to each other. As far as waiting to see if they've mailed your stuff first before mailing the key... well.... that is up to you but morally, I think you should return the key eventually.

[Anonymous]

Well that is crummy OP. But the truth is that I bet they've already changed the locks so the key is irrelevant, and if they're spiteful and nasty then you'll never get your stuff back.

Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Has this situation been resolved?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have their keys. Go and get your stuff. If they are not home let yourself in and leave the keys on the counter....easy peasy.

No, I wouldn't enter someone's house without permission, even when you have a key. I would try to set something up with her to get your stuff and give back her key. If you try for about 2 weeks and get no response, so if it is clear that she is ignoring your request on purpose, then talk to the police. Explain the situation and ask if you can have an officer meet you at the house when you know they are there. He can stand there while you get your bag and give back the key. They will probably behave themselves then.

I would do this. Meet a police officer at the house to get my stuff. I wouldn't wait two weeks though. I'd give her a few days before she had a chance to throw my things out.

Our police would laugh your ass out of the station. You can't even get them to show up when there is a car accident or burglar alarm going off. Handle this yourself by being persistent with calling and emailing.