Is my weight causing me to lose jobs?

[Anonymous]

I would withhold an offer from an overweight nanny, but only because my children are very active and outgoing and I want them to have good role models. But I can't tell from your post alone if you actually look heavy, it doesn't really sound like it. So it is probably your personality and attitude changes from your personal issues.

[Anonymous]

Have you purchased new clothing since your weight gain? If you are still wearing clothes that fit you 15 pounds ago, you may be making yourself look much heavier than you are.

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Anonymous wrote:How much do you weigh ? What is your hourly rate ? What areas are you looking in ?

I normally weigh 105/110. Now weigh 127. I don't live in DC but my rate is very normal for my area and qualifications. The families ( 3) that I met with were looking for my qualifications and already willing to pay my rate. They were so " excited" over the phone and then their demeanor changed when they saw me in person. That's why I'm worrying it's my weight. I'm hoping it's a run of bad luck. I'm very worried

You are so brave for posting your weight! If a family doesn't hire you because of weight that's crazy. I'm plus size and have never had a issue finding a nannying job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your weight would not cause me to withhold a job offer.
It sounds like you've lost your verve and vitality due to your brother's suicide. That's probably why you're not getting hired.

Yes, this.

If you are dealing with grief about your brother, self-image problems about your weight (I think your weight is an absolute non-issue), down about job prospects, and you're aware that you're judging other potential employers unfavorably compared to your current employers, etc.... that all adds up to an attitude or demeanor that might be extremely noticeable to a potential employer. I'm not saying you're wrong to be feeling any of those things, but you probably aren't aware of just how much you're not yourself right now.

I just hired a nanny and several candidates were overweight. The person I hired is definitely overweight, but she had the most upbeat, happy disposition - and that's what I wanted around my kids. So that kind of thing matters tremendously to me and if I sensed you were in a really difficult spot right now personally you might not be my top candidate.

Try to relax OP, allow yourself to grieve your brother, do not beat yourself up about your weight (truly - 15 pounds is nothing to worry about right now) and let time heal things a bit.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks everyone. I definitely dress appropriately. I think the stress is weighing on me and I'm giving a bad vibe. I'm a very happy and upbeat individual, but I think this has showed. Ive seen overweight nannies so I'm guessing it's not my weight. Thanks again!

[Anonymous]

Sorry for your loss OP.

I agree with the lthers. You're a healthy weight. That shouldn't be it.

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Anonymous wrote:When is the last time you interviewed for jobs? I found when I was looking for a job 2 years ago the market to be much more competitive than previous job searches. Took me a lot more interviews to find what I wanted.

I've been with this family for a year. I did get an offer four a fourth interview but the family was an awful fit. I've been interviewing a week so far. I feel no hope and very negative because of these rejections.

To pp. I'm 127. I know it's a low number but I'm slight below 5'2. To a petite frame, even 5-10lbs can really show.

I'm 5'0 I weigh about 150 and I havent ever thought twice about my weight and getting a nanny job. It's usually all about the right fit. You've only been interviewing a week ? Insecurities can really show through. Maybe the families sense that???? I have huge boobs like HH and I've never once noticed a potential employer staring at the largest part of my body. But I'm not insecure about it either. My advice is to lighten up on yourself and stay positive.

I've recently lost my brother to a suicide and that has taken a huge toll on me. I'm definitely not as lovely and energetic as I used to be. I may be sendibg out that signal unknowingly. One of my great friends is my height buy 170ish and she has no issues securing great jobs. I'm thinking it may be the vibe in putting out versus my weight. Thanks so much everyone! I can't win them all and that's okay. I love my current nf and that can also be hindering me finding a good fit. I noticed I tend to compare to them. I will just keep being positive and hope for the best. Thanks again.

Have you given up making yourself look nice? I don't want a fashion plate to show up or an interview, but it does put out a weird vibe when someone shows up not very put together. If you look/sound tired, that would be another problem. If you don't have the energy to take care of you, I worry that you won't be able to run around after my kids.

[Anonymous]

Ugh the fat shaming concern trolls are out to play

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When is the last time you interviewed for jobs? I found when I was looking for a job 2 years ago the market to be much more competitive than previous job searches. Took me a lot more interviews to find what I wanted.

I've been with this family for a year. I did get an offer four a fourth interview but the family was an awful fit. I've been interviewing a week so far. I feel no hope and very negative because of these rejections.

To pp. I'm 127. I know it's a low number but I'm slight below 5'2. To a petite frame, even 5-10lbs can really show.

I'm 5'0 I weigh about 150 and I havent ever thought twice about my weight and getting a nanny job. It's usually all about the right fit. You've only been interviewing a week ? Insecurities can really show through. Maybe the families sense that???? I have huge boobs like HH and I've never once noticed a potential employer staring at the largest part of my body. But I'm not insecure about it either. My advice is to lighten up on yourself and stay positive.

I've recently lost my brother to a suicide and that has taken a huge toll on me. I'm definitely not as lovely and energetic as I used to be. I may be sendibg out that signal unknowingly. One of my great friends is my height buy 170ish and she has no issues securing great jobs. I'm thinking it may be the vibe in putting out versus my weight. Thanks so much everyone! I can't win them all and that's okay. I love my current nf and that can also be hindering me finding a good fit. I noticed I tend to compare to them. I will just keep being positive and hope for the best. Thanks again.

Have you given up making yourself look nice? I don't want a fashion plate to show up or an interview, but it does put out a weird vibe when someone shows up not very put together. If you look/sound tired, that would be another problem. If you don't have the energy to take care of you, I worry that you won't be able to run around after my kids.

Definitely not. I do the same as I used to. Nice, neat hair, natural/minimal makeup, and a casual ( black slacks/pants, nice blouse, flats) and a portfolio of my resume, recommendation letters, certifications, etc.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. Please take good care of yourself and try not to worry -- that great next job is right around the corner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh the fat shaming concern trolls are out to play

In what reply? There has been nothing but helpful replies.

[Anonymous]

You do not sound overweight at all if you are 5'2 and weigh in at only 127 lbs.

It is highly unlikely due to any weight issues.

You state that families seem happy over the phone, then once they lay eyes on you, they seem not interested any more.

Could it be something else in your physical appearance that may turn them off?

I.e., numerous tattoos, piercings, revealing clothing, long talon fingernails, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh the fat shaming concern trolls are out to play

In what reply? There has been nothing but helpful replies.

I agree. All the replies have been helpful and supportive of OP. The only troll here is the person suggesting there is fat shaming going on here.