Possible to find a nanny that matches our style?
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Sorry, meant to say 10:30 here, as in I'm the 10:30 poster. Who is rapidly eradicating any impression of competence the more she posts. 
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Part of my approach to nannying is that I am flexible and try to go along with whatever style the family I am working for would prefer. Of course, there are certain things that I would never do, such as spanking, but I let my NF decide on basically anything else. I have preferences on how I would raise my own children, but it is my job to be an extension of the parents I am working for, and kids need that sort of stability.
With my own kids, I would definitely ask if they are okay first, and then if they are crying simply because they feel they should, I tell them I'm going to call the ambulance. That usually makes them laugh and they stop crying. If I were working for you, I would do what you want me to in terms of minor injuries. |
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OP, I understand where you are coming from, but I think you are going to be disappointed if you approach it from the exact perspective you seem to have.
Why? Because it seems like you want a nanny who is going to be laid back in EXACTLY the same way that you are and not laid back in EXACTLY the same way you are, and this is IMPOSSIBLE. It's usually even impossible for two parents to find a totally perfect match on this. You can find someone who shares your general philosophy, but you cannot find someone who will do everything just exactly the way that you would. It would be impossible for anyone to know that you are laid back about your child running the water in the sink for 10 minutes but don't want him to pull all the issues out of a box, for example (not saying you want either to happen, but just as an example). The main thing to think about in terms of language is what language your nanny is speaking and whether she is a native English speakers if she's going to be using English with your child. I say this because a nanny speaking her native Spanish may say exactly what you want (though in Spanish), but she may not be as fluent and comfortable with exact phrasings if she's using English. The connotations of little things may or may not come through with someone speaking a second language. However, I don't think this will harm the child in any way, as it will be obvious what the nanny MEANS emotionally, even if she's saying something that could be taken the wrong way by a native speaker. |
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| I had a mother that told me to spank her child. Of course I made her find someone else. |
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| You can find someone who matches your style. For me personally, I wouldn't want to work with you because I would be worried about censoring every syllable that comes out of my mouth wondering which one you're going to disapprove of and fire me over. But you'll definitely find someone who never has to worry about that. |
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I am a nanny and wouldn't personally let my charge pull all the tissues out of the box.
Were you present? If not, this may be a sign that your child was not being properly supervised at the time. Anyway, I wouldn't be so uptight about things the nanny says or doesn't say because she is not a carbon copy of you and there are probably going to be a few phrases she will use that you wouldn't. And this should not be a deal-breaker since anyone who has someone watch their child knows for sure that the person watching their kid isn't going to say everything that the parent would say. It's too high of an expectation OP. |