How I deal with constant lateness?

[Anonymous]

Or not and

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am getting OT but only if I hit over 40 hours. The other times are just regular rate. I am getting paid but that's not the point. They gave me set hours and they should abide by those. It's not just stuck in traffic. For instance, MB said she would be 10 late. I told her that was fine. She took my " that was fine" to mean she can be 45 minutes so she can pick up new clothes. WTF? If I were this late daily I wouldn't even have a job. Why should I compromise because they are the employers? I have just as much of a life and should enjoy it. I start school in June and I can't miss class. They need to get their act together and I need to leave.

Don't ever say, "That was fine" or "no problem" when they come home late. To some people the polite logical rejoinders signal approval. Give them the stick-eye and tell them what you have just missed by them being late. ("My 10 year old niece has been waiting for me to pick her up outside her school for the last twenty minutes.") Have the talk with them again and make certain that they understand how important their promptness is. Train them now before classes start. Or quit.

[Anonymous]

Were they last yesterday, OP? If so - how did you act?

Do not smile or act happy when they come in late. Rush out the door and never say, "it's fine". Tell them in the moment what you just missed or are now late for because of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Were they last yesterday, OP? If so - how did you act?

Do not smile or act happy when they come in late. Rush out the door and never say, "it's fine". Tell them in the moment what you just missed or are now late for because of them.

They were late by 35 yesterday. MB tried to chat but I told her I had to leave. Since she was late, she is making me miss my other obligations. She didn't say anything but " sorry".

[Anonymous]

If they aren't paying you appropriately, get a better job. That's all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Were they last yesterday, OP? If so - how did you act?

Do not smile or act happy when they come in late. Rush out the door and never say, "it's fine". Tell them in the moment what you just missed or are now late for because of them.

They were late by 35 yesterday. MB tried to chat but I told her I had to leave. Since she was late, she is making me miss my other obligations. She didn't say anything but " sorry".

I hope you had an unhappy face on you. Keep it up and see what happens. NEVER be accepting or polite about it - not with these people.

[Anonymous]

I'm working on a nanny share and charge $ 11/h I think it's a lot of work and responsability. I want to ask for a rise, but others nanny in the area is charging $10/h per family. Im earn an AAs in early child hood development and im very experiece with great reference. How much $ should I charge for a nanny share service?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm working on a nanny share and charge $ 11/h I think it's a lot of work and responsability. I want to ask for a rise, but others nanny in the area is charging $10/h per family. Im earn an AAs in early child hood development and im very experiece with great reference. How much $ should I charge for a nanny share service?

Repost as a new topic on a separate thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm working on a nanny share and charge $ 11/h I think it's a lot of work and responsability. I want to ask for a rise, but others nanny in the area is charging $10/h per family. Im earn an AAs in early child hood development and im very experiece with great reference. How much $ should I charge for a nanny share service?

Depends how well you do your work. If you're way better than other nannies, you should charge way more than they do. That's how it's done.

[Anonymous]

OP, you need to TALK TO THEM. Directly, and clearly.

Signals, hints, unhappy faces, etc... are not going to get this done.

Tell them you are unable to stay late without prior notice. You need fixed hours and you need compensation for time worked. Or, this is not a good fit and you will need to move on.

[Anonymous]

Talk to them plainly. You have had to cancel X number of appointments because of their lateness, etc. You start school in June and cannot miss classes. You cannot stay late without prior notice (and you can't always stay late even with prior notice, as when you have classes or doctor's appointments). Be very clear that this is not working for you. The next time they are late, you will either charge $X for each minute over or you will give notice, whichever works best for you.

[Anonymous]

You just need to talk with them about it and make it clear what you need. You mentioned that a class will be starting soon -- this is a great example to use for why you're bringing this up now. Tell them that you really need to stick with the core hours you agreed upon and that you need to leave right on time because your class is starting.

You can be firm but not rude about it. I know you talked with them about it once, but maybe they've gotten into the routine and think it's fine with you -- or even that you want the extra pay. I think it's worth telling them clearly that you don't. You could say that you are happy to work a little later if they need it once in a while, but ONLY if they plan for it with you ahead of time and ONLY if it's once in a while. Explain that you're busy and need time to do stuff outside of work and had not anticipated a lot of frequent late evenings based on your original discussion and work plan.

[Anonymous]

I would approach them from the stand point of your starting school soon. Tell them that you have been flexible thus far, but you will now need to have a set schedule for when you are in class because your education needs to be a priority. If I were you, I would tell them you start school a week or two sooner than you do so you can see if they change after you talk to them about it.

I would also call your MB whenever she is more than 15 minutes late. Tell her you wanted to make sure she is okay, and that you have an appt you can't miss, so you need to leave ASAP. She should get the hint then.

It's probable that both parents are just overwhelmed. They are both working and have premature newborn twins at home, and I'm sure they are just trying to squeeze some extra time away out of their child care, which is really sad. The worst part is that it is a great way to burn out their loving nanny since you don't get your down time.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I talked and they didn't listen. I gave two weeks notice and they let me go the same day by text. I'm happy I left!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I talked and they didn't listen. I gave two weeks notice and they let me go the same day by text. I'm happy I left!

MB here. Good for you! Hope you have much better luck w/ your next employers.