Vegetarian Nanny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At 51 it's probably time to find a nanny who can keep up and cook. It's not hard. Replace her.

OP here. Our nanny runs marathons on weekends at 51. She is more energetic than either DH or I have ever been!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, it's sounds like your nanny is a very knowledgable and healthy vegetarian, who is also an excellent cook. Most educated individuals know that meat is not necessary with every meal or even every day. Your children are also very young and don't eat as much as an adult. You can either pre cook meat for the week, it shouldn't take more then an hour. Buy pre cooked meat or just let your children eat meat with you. This is not difficult and your husband is overreacting.

Your nanny has been a vegetarian for over 30 years, this is a deep rooted lifestyle for her. She will not change for you just because you're too lazy to cook your children's meals. She made you aware or her discomfort at hiring and you choose to overlook it. Now your choice is to continue on or risk your nanny leaving.

OP here again. I am not lazy! I have no problem cooking meat at night - it is DH who suddenly has an issue with it.

[Anonymous]

Mother of twins here.

If you have a great nanny then you work around an issue like this. The kids get meat on your watch and you work with the nanny to ensure they're getting a varied diet during the day.

Tell your husband to get over himself. Or go away for a few days and let him have primary responsibility for the 1,000 minute details a day that you handle.

That will help him better appreciate the value of a reliable good nanny and see the merit in working around dietary issues.

[Anonymous]

You said DH has been in a mood.

Much like toddler tantrums one must occasionally ignore a husband's outbursts until he is ready to talk through the real issue. Nanny is just the easy target.

As a vegetarian nanny it really isn't that difficult to learn to prep meat properly so if she wanted to learn she could unless it's based on her beliefs.

Since you are otherwise satisfied with her this isn't a hill I would die on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You said DH has been in a mood.

Much like toddler tantrums one must occasionally ignore a husband's outbursts until he is ready to talk through the real issue. Nanny is just the easy target.

As a vegetarian nanny it really isn't that difficult to learn to prep meat properly so if she wanted to learn she could unless it's based on her beliefs.

Since you are otherwise satisfied with her this isn't a hill I would die on.

I agree with everything you wrote, PP, except one thing - of course the nanny could learn to cook meat but said that she would prefer not to touch raw meat. I am a vegetarian too and I understand this completely. I don't even like looking at raw meat much less touching it. We are all vegetarians in my family but our nanny does bring her lunch to our house. Of course I have no problem if she brings a meat product for herself to eat.

[Anonymous]

Another MB here.

Your DH is being unreasonable. He isn't preparing the meat, you are. He has nothing to complain about and you need to tell him that you are handling it and it isn't up for debate.

PPs are right. Your kids can get meat at dinner with you and on the weekends. You can also buy prepared meat that she can warm up for the children.

Trader Joes has lovely frozen meatballs you could try.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 51 it's probably time to find a nanny who can keep up and cook. It's not hard. Replace her.

You clearly have reading comprehensions issues, PP. There is nothing to "keep up" with. The nanny is an excellent cook who chooses not to touch raw meat.

Your DH is wrong. The woman is 51 so being a vegetarian is not a fad for her. Make the meats yourself or let her give your toddlers all vegetarian foods during the day. If she makes them dinner as well then all weekday meals can be vegetarian. Probably more healthy for them anyway.

True, who needs those pesky proteins when you can just load up on bread and pasta.

You think vegetarians only eat bread and pasta? You're silly!

[Anonymous]

Your DH is WRONG and being a total jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You said DH has been in a mood.

Much like toddler tantrums one must occasionally ignore a husband's outbursts until he is ready to talk through the real issue. Nanny is just the easy target.

As a vegetarian nanny it really isn't that difficult to learn to prep meat properly so if she wanted to learn she could unless it's based on her beliefs.

Since you are otherwise satisfied with her this isn't a hill I would die on.

Just ignore people while they're "in a mood." They're dumping their own stuff wherever they think they'll be safely tolerated. This has nothing to do with the nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 51 it's probably time to find a nanny who can keep up and cook. It's not hard. Replace her.

OP here. Our nanny runs marathons on weekends at 51. She is more energetic than either DH or I have ever been!!!

DS's nanny is 61 and walks eight miles a day with him and also has more energy and patience with our very active 2.5 than I or DH has!!!


Ageism is a prejudice. Plain and simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At 51 it's probably time to find a nanny who can keep up and cook. It's not hard. Replace her.

OP here. Our nanny runs marathons on weekends at 51. She is more energetic than either DH or I have ever been!!!

DS's nanny is 61 and walks eight miles a day with him and also has more energy and patience with our very active 2.5 than I or DH has!!!


Ageism is a prejudice. Plain and simple.

+1


And your DH is being an ass, OP.

[Anonymous]

LOL. You people think soy is healthy for children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL. You people think soy is healthy for children?

You think animal protein is healthy for children? The only mention of soy was tofu, which is the least processed soy product available.
Most real vegetarians get their protein from vegetables, beans and whole grains...not processed soy products. These things won't clog your arteries with cholesterol and garbage like meat does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL. You people think soy is healthy for children?

You think animal protein is healthy for children? The only mention of soy was tofu, which is the least processed soy product available.
Most real vegetarians get their protein from vegetables, beans and whole grains...not processed soy products. These things won't clog your arteries with cholesterol and garbage like meat does.

Oh, look, another vegetarian who's never heard of phytoestrogens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL. You people think soy is healthy for children?

You think animal protein is healthy for children? The only mention of soy was tofu, which is the least processed soy product available.
Most real vegetarians get their protein from vegetables, beans and whole grains...not processed soy products. These things won't clog your arteries with cholesterol and garbage like meat does.

Oh, look, another vegetarian who's never heard of phytoestrogens.

PP here. Sweetheart, I know more about phytoestrogens than you ever will.
Please feel free to list your arguments against them so I can discredit you and get on with my day.
I want evidence too.