Letting Nanny Go During Trial Period

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, I just want to hug you and give you the
"Mother of the Year" award!
Congratulations for taking on the hardest job there is,
twins, no less. Bless you.

The nanny did everything the mother will do - so doesn't a nanny have the hardest job there is?

Good question. Who ever wishes a blessing on the nanny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure the nanny assumed (as I would) that the "trial period" was concerning her work performance - not yours. I'm sure it never occurred to her that you would decide to leave your job and put her out of a job thru no fault of her own. You have done this nanny a disservice. You definitely owe her generous severance and a brilliant recommendation.


All the best as a SAHM.

Don't be so hard on OP. Many of us nannies wonder why two very nice parents would both want to miss out on the first years of their baby's life. More and more parents are doing everything in creation to have a baby, and then they both just leave for 50 hours every week.

I'm not being hard on OP - I am actually stating the obvious. "Trial Period" is a test of the employees performance not the employers. While it's great she wants to stay home with her own children, she is firing a hard working employee who upheld her part of the bargain. The nanny needs to be compensated well and given a great recommendation.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, I just want to hug you and give you the
"Mother of the Year" award!
Congratulations for taking on the hardest job there is,
twins, no less. Bless you.

The nanny did everything the mother will do - so doesn't a nanny have the hardest job there is?

Good question. Who ever wishes a blessing on the nanny?

I'm a nanny and often on here saying that nannies need more respect from their employers, but nannies ABSOLUTELY do not do everything that a mother/parent does. You're nuts to think that.

[Anonymous]

OP here - thanks all for the comments and suggestions. We plan to give her a bonus, great recommendation and I'm going to put her on our local listserv. I actually never thought I would become a SAHM; I figured I would actually go back to work early. But right now is just too soon for me.

[Anonymous]

No offense OP, but to give you the badge of honor as "Mother of the Year" is a little over the top for me. While I do not fault you for what you have decided to do, I also cannot commend you either. You made a contract/job offer to someone and it looks like she held up her side of things beautifully and now you are bowing out. Sure, you have the "trial period" clause, but I wouldn't think it would include change of mind for career purposes.

Anyway, it is what it is.

Yes, offer her a wonderful letter of recommendation and if you can also help her via word of mouth get another position that would be great too.

Not required, but definitely appreciated would be a week's pay as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No offense OP, but to give you the badge of honor as "Mother of the Year" is a little over the top for me. While I do not fault you for what you have decided to do, I also cannot commend you either. You made a contract/job offer to someone and it looks like she held up her side of things beautifully and now you are bowing out. Sure, you have the "trial period" clause, but I wouldn't think it would include change of mind for career purposes.

Anyway, it is what it is.

Yes, offer her a wonderful letter of recommendation and if you can also help her via word of mouth get another position that would be great too.

Not required, but definitely appreciated would be a week's pay as well.

Anyone willing to put the needs
of a little child in front of her own,
gets the badge of honor from me.

[Anonymous]

I will hire her. No kidding. How can I contact her or you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will hire her. No kidding. How can I contact her or you?

Please tell us you'll pay her well, and treat her kindly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, I just want to hug you and give you the
"Mother of the Year" award!
Congratulations for taking on the hardest job there is,
twins, no less. Bless you.

The nanny did everything the mother will do - so doesn't a nanny have the hardest job there is?

Good question. Who ever wishes a blessing on the nanny?

I'm a nanny and often on here saying that nannies need more respect from their employers, but nannies ABSOLUTELY do not do everything that a mother/parent does. You're nuts to think that.

Well, I once had a father tell me right in front of his wife, that I DID everything that needed doing, except have sex with him. For all I know, they may be divorced by now, poor children. Yes, I was the nanny.

[Anonymous]

As a nanny, I agree with a lot of what the other posters are saying. Give a glowing recommendation, assist her in finding a new job to the best of your ability, a healthy payout would be beneficial to her bills, and offer her hours here and there until she finds a new position. Those are the best next few steps!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nannies, parents, any advice for how to handle this situation? The nanny we hired for our 7-month old twins has been great. She started two weeks ago, and is reliable and does everything we ask of her. Our daughters seem to be OK with her too. Though I jus returned to work, I have realized that I can't bear to be away from our babies. I will be resigning (and becoming a stay at home mom) in one week. The work agreement we have with our nanny has a 1-month trial period spelled out, during which either party can bow out for any reason --- with no hard feelings or consequences.

We will provide her a reference letter and would definitely give her a positive review. I really feel bad about having to let her go so soon, but I didn't realize how hard it would be for me to be away from my daughters. Is there anything else we can do to help our nanny out? She will have two weeks' notice of our decision, I suppose I'm just trying to ask if there's anything else parents/nannies have experienced in situations like this; especially since she has done a great job so far.

Yes. Give her a month's severance pay. You are really a shitty person. She may well have turned down other good jobs and now has to start looking again. Do not insult her by suggesting that she can babysit on your date nights or any other occasion.

[Anonymous]

This is a 7 year old thread folks. OP's kids are in school now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG, I just want to hug you and give you the
"Mother of the Year" award!
Congratulations for taking on the hardest job there is,
twins, no less. Bless you.

Vomit. And I was a.SAHM.