Nanny is upset we don't use her as a weekend babysitter

[Anonymous]

Ridiculous. We often go with other ppl for the weekend or evening. I sometimes say, Oh, everyone needs a break, or so-and-so's cheaper or whatever. If you pay a great salary, she should be very happy and uncranky. make sure that you convey that you like her professionalism (if you do). And as a professional employer, don't let the childish stinky-face pouting get to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ridiculous. We often go with other ppl for the weekend or evening. I sometimes say, Oh, everyone needs a break, or so-and-so's cheaper or whatever. If you pay a great salary, she should be very happy and uncranky. make sure that you convey that you like her professionalism (if you do). And as a professional employer, don't let the childish stinky-face pouting get to you.

You're the one who always sounds like a crank.

[Anonymous]

I don't think she should be angry. Number one, she needs the time off to relax since working 40 hours a week caring for young children is hard work. Number two, yes, I agree...No matter what part of the country you reside at, $26/Hr is pretty high for babysitting regardless if the children are asleep or not.

It sounds like she is just trying to squeeze every nickel she can from you, but don't let her make you feel guilty.

You are entitled to choose who you want to watch your kids on weekends and you don't owe her a thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP also has every right to fire the complaining nanny, and move on to another happy nanny. Except how many nannies do you want to make your kids "get used to"? Good luck.

Nowhere did OP say she is considering firing the nanny over this.

Hello. Nowhere did I say OP was considering firing the nanny over this. I said, "She has every right to."

[Anonymous]

As the parents, you don't have to get her approval for hiring anyone for any reason outside her normal work hours. If she has the expectation of having dibs on this, she's wrong.

If you want, you can offer her the rate you pay the sitter as cash and let her decide if she's willing to take it. But you are in no way required to offer this. Fwiw, I'm a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Unless you initially told her you planned to frequently hire her at OT rate on weekends, she is a turd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As the parents, you don't have to get her approval for hiring anyone for any reason outside her normal work hours. If she has the expectation of having dibs on this, she's wrong.

If you want, you can offer her the rate you pay the sitter as cash and let her decide if she's willing to take it. But you are in no way required to offer this. Fwiw, I'm a nanny.

They already know that. But they don't want her to quit. That's why they're concerned.

[Anonymous]

LOL I would tell your nanny that you guys love her but that is doesn't financially make sense to pay OT rates for weekend care when you can get a baby sitter for half the price. Talk about an expensive date night!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was very upfront with her and told her that she is awfully expensive for a weekend babysitter -- with her OT rate she is a tad bit above $26. Our kids are asleep for the vast majority of the time we are out (if we actually ever go out!) and that is just too high a rate to pay.

Am I wrong?

What made you think she's upset?