jabs from MB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anybody else get these digs comments from MB? My boss just said to me "hey, what is wrong? You don't have your normal energy today" and I know she is not being genuine, she just noticed all the laundry hasn't been put away and instead of asking straight "why hasn't the laundry been put away yet", she makes this comment and it is just aggravating. I guess I am just venting but I'm wondering if other MBs in general act this way..

MB here. Do you mean express concern in a polite and considerate way for my nanny if I notice it seems like something is wrong with her? Yes, I do.

[Anonymous]

Anybody else get these digs comments from MB? My boss just said to me "hey, what is wrong? You don't have your normal energy today" and I know she is not being genuine, she just noticed all the laundry hasn't been put away and instead of asking straight "why hasn't the laundry been put away yet", she makes this comment and it is just aggravating. I guess I am just venting but I'm wondering if other MBs in general act this way..

Are you doing your job? It isn't a dig if you aren't doing what you're contracted to do.

[Anonymous]

If OP is indeed a nanny as she states, the household laundry is NOT her job. You may lookup "nanny". If it's just the children's laundry, she does it when she can. The children must NEVER be neglected in favor of other nonessential tasks.

I'd fire a parent who wanted the nanny to neglect the children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If OP is indeed a nanny as she states, the household laundry is NOT her job. You may lookup "nanny". If it's just the children's laundry, she does it when she can. The children must NEVER be neglected in favor of other nonessential tasks.

I'd fire a parent who wanted the nanny to neglect the children.

Household laundry is her job if she agreed to that task upon hire. Just b/c some nannies refuse to do household laundry doesn't mean all nannies should strike this from their work agreements. How is folding and putting laundry away neglectful to the children? Unless there are 10 people in this family the laundry shouldn't be terribly time consuming task. At most it takes 10 minutes to fold a load and about the same to put it away. The two don't have to be completed consecutively.

Most of the employers I've had have felt it's essential for the kids to see people (including the parents) engage in household tasks (laundry, dishes, organizing, etc...). This helps the children see that everyone pitches in to keep a household running smoothly. It's also a way to promote independent play within children so that they don't get used to having an adult entertain them during all their waking hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anybody else get these digs comments from MB? My boss just said to me "hey, what is wrong? You don't have your normal energy today" and I know she is not being genuine, she just noticed all the laundry hasn't been put away and instead of asking straight "why hasn't the laundry been put away yet", she makes this comment and it is just aggravating. I guess I am just venting but I'm wondering if other MBs in general act this way..

It sounds like you're being overly sensitive regarding this comment. Unless this was said in a snide tone or your MB has a history of making passive-aggressive comments I think you might be overreacting. If my MB said this to me I would take it to mean that she's noticed I'm not quite myself and is voicing her concern.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If OP is indeed a nanny as she states, the household laundry is NOT her job. You may lookup "nanny". If it's just the children's laundry, she does it when she can. The children must NEVER be neglected in favor of other nonessential tasks.

I'd fire a parent who wanted the nanny to neglect the children.

Household laundry is her job if she agreed to that task upon hire. Just b/c some nannies refuse to do household laundry doesn't mean all nannies should strike this from their work agreements. How is folding and putting laundry away neglectful to the children? Unless there are 10 people in this family the laundry shouldn't be terribly time consuming task. At most it takes 10 minutes to fold a load and about the same to put it away. The two don't have to be completed consecutively.

Most of the employers I've had have felt it's essential for the kids to see people (including the parents) engage in household tasks (laundry, dishes, organizing, etc...). This helps the children see that everyone pitches in to keep a household running smoothly. It's also a way to promote independent play within children so that they don't get used to having an adult entertain them during all their waking hours.

When your contract says you clean the house, you are a housecleaner. Throwing you a kid to "watch" while you clean the house, doesn't make a housekeeper, a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If OP is indeed a nanny as she states, the household laundry is NOT her job. You may lookup "nanny". If it's just the children's laundry, she does it when she can. The children must NEVER be neglected in favor of other nonessential tasks.

I'd fire a parent who wanted the nanny to neglect the children.

Any form of laundry can be a nanny's job if she and her employers agreed upon it in the work contract. And while I absolutely agree that children must never be neglected in favor of other nonessential tasks, unless her charges don't nap at all, are never in school, and do not play independently for even ten minutes in a day, a nanny will have time to throw in a load of laundry and fold it, and maybe even rinse her and her charges lunch dishes, load the dishwasher, wipe down the counters, etc. Frankly, even if her charges never nap, never are in school, and do not engage in independent play, a good nanny can still do all of those tasks WITH her charges and make it a learning experience for them.

Of course, if a nanny's charges don't nap at all, are never in school, and it's your position that a nanny should be engaging her charges every second of the day and never allow independent play, then I could see how you'd think a parent would be asking her to "neglect" her charges to engage in "nonessential" tasks. But then do you also think it's neglect if the nanny checks her phone for any sort of personal call or reason for even a minute, chats with other nannies on the playground, or even takes a bathroom break? Just taking your position to it's logical conclusion ...

[Anonymous]

Any unrelated contract mandated task, can easily result in child neglect. If you hired a decent helper, she'll do what she can, when she can, minus the child neglect.
If you hired a lazy slob instead of a nanny, you had better spell out every required thing, least she sit on her a** all day, and still neglect the child.

[Anonymous]

The "nannies" on this forum really ruin it for so many of us. Expecting $20 an hour for one child and act as if it's the end of the world to do a little laundry.

For the record: OP never said it was the family's laundry! She said it was "all the laundry". That could easily mean "all the children's laundry."

[Anonymous]

Hmmm...that doesn't sound like a jab to me.

[Anonymous]

Neglect? That's ridiculous. I hope if you're not "neglecting" the child, you're closely interacting with him or her every waking moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If OP is indeed a nanny as she states, the household laundry is NOT her job. You may lookup "nanny". If it's just the children's laundry, she does it when she can. The children must NEVER be neglected in favor of other nonessential tasks.

I'd fire a parent who wanted the nanny to neglect the children.

Household laundry is her job if she agreed to that task upon hire. Just b/c some nannies refuse to do household laundry doesn't mean all nannies should strike this from their work agreements. How is folding and putting laundry away neglectful to the children? Unless there are 10 people in this family the laundry shouldn't be terribly time consuming task. At most it takes 10 minutes to fold a load and about the same to put it away. The two don't have to be completed consecutively.

Most of the employers I've had have felt it's essential for the kids to see people (including the parents) engage in household tasks (laundry, dishes, organizing, etc...). This helps the children see that everyone pitches in to keep a household running smoothly. It's also a way to promote independent play within children so that they don't get used to having an adult entertain them during all their waking hours.

When your contract says you clean the house, you are a housecleaner. Throwing you a kid to "watch" while you clean the house, doesn't make a housekeeper, a nanny.

How did you get cleaning the house from doing household laundry. Last I checked cleaning the house is very different than doing the family's laundry. It really sounds like you've either had some really bad experiences (in which case you either need to ask better questions at your interviews or learn to stand up for yourself in a less hostile manner) or are just looking to pick any old fight.