Rant for short weeks!!

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Anonymous wrote:I hope your love for these kids is within a normal "nanny loving" range. Truthfully, you sound kinda creepy getting this emotional when you will still see them in the very near future.

+1 Creepy and I would keep an eye on you. Maybe you wouldn't but there have been care givers that have taken off with kids because they become delusional and think the kids are really theirs or that they are "saving" them.

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OP sounds like a troll. Here, have an arsenic donut.

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12:32 Nowhere did she say she was crying hysterically.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny who took I over from a baby nurse (she was with little one for over a year). She had no loving emotion to baby, very robotic. On her last day just before her can got here to take her to the airport, she put LO down for his nap for the last time. I waited outside the room for her. She came out with completely dry eyes, picked up her bag and left. I spoke to MB about this observation, and MB said because BN was a pediatric nurse for a few years, she was taught to be stone cold.

Don't you think this is super creepy? Being a 24/7 baby nurse for over a year and being dead inside? I think this so sad for the child. They need to see love from all directions, especially the one they with the most.

I love my little guy, and I let him know!

How do you know she was "dead inside"? Some people just express emotions in different ways. I will be very sad when I have to leave my charges of 2 years (been with them since they were 6 weeks) at the end of the summer, but I am not the kind of person to cry in front of others. This does not mean I love them any less than you love your charges...I tell them I love them all the time too!
It would be nice if we could all stop being so instantly judgmental of people who do things differently than ourselves.

+1

Yes, some people can just compartmentalize much better than others can. When you are working closely with children that are not yours and you are not expecting to be around for a long time (like many years while they grow up), it is easier to not let yourself get attached too much, so that it is easier when you do leave. If you are a baby/newborn nurse that is constantly leaving charges after anywhere from a few months to a year, it can be very difficult to deal with the emotions that come with that if you let yourself get attached. So not forming a deep bond/attachment, or learning to turn off your emotions at the end of the day, can be the best thing to do at times.

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Anonymous wrote:Gosh!!! Op here! I forgot to mention I won't see them for another 6 days!! Any less creppy? How can loving your job be creepy?

Yes it is still creepy. There is a difference between missing your charges and becoming so attached that you are crying hysterically over not seeing them for a couple of days. It is creepy because THEY ARE NOT YOUR KIDS. They are not related to you. You really need to learn boundaries.

Yes, I miss my charges when I don't get to see them longer than normal, but not in the way that I would be having to post to a message board about how much I miss them. You might be getting too attached if this is happening to you. Maybe you need to work on your compartmentalization skills, you seem to have less than the average person does.

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I am a loving and dedicated nanny who loves all the children she cares for.

However to be near tears enough to vent on an online blog how much you will miss the kids is very abnormal.

While it is great for us nannies to love our charges, ultimately we have to be able to function normally outside work hours.

The fact that you will most likely be thinking of these kids during your conference is abnormal.

If I was your MB, this would be a huge red flag to me and I would try to find another nanny.

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I don't love the children I care for. I care about them deeply and want to ensure their well-being. I enjoy the time I spend with them and support them in every way I can.

However, if I had a couple extra days off I would be jumping for joy. I really do appreciate my time off and the leisure to do whatever I choose for a couple days. It's important to have balance in your life. By all means don't be a detached caregiver but OP, I really think you need a hobby.

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I went away for a long vacation and didn't see the kids for 9 days.

I was happy to see them when I got back, but I didn't bat an eye when I left before my trip nor think much about them while I was away (aside from conversations such as the "what do you do?" and "who's that a picture of on your phone?" type stuff).

This post does sound pretty weird to me.

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OP, how old are you and do you have any friends in your area? It sounds like your entire life is about your charges. While it is great that you love them, and I'm sure you are a great nanny, ultimately this is just a job. Do you do things outside of work? Like PP, when I get a couple of days off in a row, I jump for joy! Do I miss my charges? Yes, but I'm also really excited to be able to hang out with friends, my bf, do some shopping, go on a long weekend trip with friends, etc. I think if you get an active life outside of your charges, you will be able to compartmentalize better.

My biggest concern is what will happen when this job ends. What happens if in Monday, MB or DB loses their job and can no longer afford you. THey give you 2 months notice and severance, but then that's it. I worry what you would do if you get this worked up by not seeing them for a few days. Jobs end. It is a fact of life. Nanny jobs are hard because you do grow attached to the kids, and usually the jobs are not as long term as we'd like because they age out of needing a nanny. Please OP, for the sake of your mental health, find some outside interests that are not your charges.

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I was not in tears. I wrote this post late late in the night. All I was trying to say is I miss having a full week with them and am looking forward to spending time with them again soon. It's funny that it came across as creepy!!! Have a nice Saturday everyone

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Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny who took I over from a baby nurse (she was with little one for over a year). She had no loving emotion to baby, very robotic. On her last day just before her can got here to take her to the airport, she put LO down for his nap for the last time. I waited outside the room for her. She came out with completely dry eyes, picked up her bag and left. I spoke to MB about this observation, and MB said because BN was a pediatric nurse for a few years, she was taught to be stone cold.

Don't you think this is super creepy? Being a 24/7 baby nurse for over a year and being dead inside? I think this so sad for the child. They need to see love from all directions, especially the one they with the most.

I love my little guy, and I let him know!

I'm a BN and I would definitely be fighting tears at that point- and I hate to show emotion in front of others!

I'm with you- I think it creepy/sad that she was so unfeeling about it. Maybe she just got good at compartmentalizing though.

I also think the OP of this thread is weird on the other side though. I love my charges and miss them when I don't see them... But to cry over vacation time?! That seems a little unhealthy/unhinged.

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I thought it was creepy too lmao.. Maybe OP's just being dramatic and over-doing her feelings which can come off as creepy.

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Yikes. I get the week off for every school break (thanksgiving, Xmas, Easter) bc the family I work for goes away. Sure, it's nice to see the kids the first day back but I am not particularly sad to have time off. It's def weird to CRY over... I don't cry when I don't see my cats for 3 days bc I stay at my bf's place, lol.. And my cats are my babies! But my mom takes care of them.. I moved home w my parents while my dad was sick (he's since passed away) and when I would go to my bf's for the weekend and not see my dad for 3 days, I didn't CRY. And that's my FAMILY. So crying abt the kids you nanny, yeah, I think it's pretty strange.