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Anonymous wrote:Apparently I was in the minority, but my ES age kid did aftercare even though we had a hybrid schedule / someone is WFH most days. I don’t want my kid around when I am still working!

+1. DH and I work in private sector and one or the other is WFH every day. We still have a nanny for after school. If we couldn’t afford a nanny we would have signed up for aftercare at one of the 1,000 karate places or tutoring centers that offers them.

I have a hard time believing all these ESers are so independent after school. The fact is, the WFH parents are barely paying attention to work in the afternoons because they are transporting their children to activities, supervising them at home, etc. Which is fine if they can make it work (eg logging back in at night to compensate). But it’s a benefit they were taking advantage of, not something they were entitled to long term. So they shouldn’t act like the rug was pulled out from under them. They should have had childcare all along.

Well said

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I work from home and still have a nanny in the afternoons bc no one can sincerely work and do the after school stuff. They are dropping one of the balls. We have some government clients, and most of them are hard to reach from about 2pm on and don’t respond to emails until the next day. I’m as anti-trump as anyone but happy for this graft to be cut.

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Anonymous wrote:Apparently I was in the minority, but my ES age kid did aftercare even though we had a hybrid schedule / someone is WFH most days. I don’t want my kid around when I am still working!

+1. DH and I work in private sector and one or the other is WFH every day. We still have a nanny for after school. If we couldn’t afford a nanny we would have signed up for aftercare at one of the 1,000 karate places or tutoring centers that offers them.

I have a hard time believing all these ESers are so independent after school. The fact is, the WFH parents are barely paying attention to work in the afternoons because they are transporting their children to activities, supervising them at home, etc. Which is fine if they can make it work (eg logging back in at night to compensate). But it’s a benefit they were taking advantage of, not something they were entitled to long term. So they shouldn’t act like the rug was pulled out from under them. They should have had childcare all along.

Well said

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I work from home and still have a nanny in the afternoons bc no one can sincerely work and do the after school stuff. They are dropping one of the balls. We have some government clients, and most of them are hard to reach from about 2pm on and don’t respond to emails until the next day. I’m as anti-trump as anyone but happy for this graft to be cut.

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Anonymous wrote:Apparently I was in the minority, but my ES age kid did aftercare even though we had a hybrid schedule / someone is WFH most days. I don’t want my kid around when I am still working!

+1. DH and I work in private sector and one or the other is WFH every day. We still have a nanny for after school. If we couldn’t afford a nanny we would have signed up for aftercare at one of the 1,000 karate places or tutoring centers that offers them.

I have a hard time believing all these ESers are so independent after school. The fact is, the WFH parents are barely paying attention to work in the afternoons because they are transporting their children to activities, supervising them at home, etc. Which is fine if they can make it work (eg logging back in at night to compensate). But it’s a benefit they were taking advantage of, not something they were entitled to long term. So they shouldn’t act like the rug was pulled out from under them. They should have had childcare all along.

Well said

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Anonymous wrote:I remember hustling pick up and drop off logistics with DH during our kids early years. Both of us had inflexible jobs. Very stressful and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

We are supposed to evolve. Just because I did it 15 years ago doesn’t mean today’s generation should have to as well. Why are Americans so infatuated with punishment?

Once again, no one is. It’s the whining and the hysterics of it all.

If we could wave our magic wand, we’d keep at least regular telework, if not full telework. But it’s not happening and a lot of people here are saying it’s impossible to figure out childcare. That their lives are being turned upside down. It’s perspective that is missing.

My kids were in full time daycare, and then before and after care, and yeah it’s expensive. And there are wait lists. BTDT. The hours with a commute are tough too, so I found a daycare that was closer to my office so we could manage the daycare’s hours. I have a long commute and getting my toddler out of bed at 6:30am was hard.

We staggered our tours of duty, we used a lot of leave, we hired high schooler to shuttle one kid to her sport when we weren’t home in time to get her there. We had zero telework then.

I don’t begrudge anyone who doesn’t have to do that. But reality is this is what’s happening now.

Some of us don’t even know where our office will be so it’s hard to pick a daycare that aligns with commute. Not to mention people normally get on daycare waitlists while they’re still pregnant.

I'm confused. Have you been working from home full-time with a daycare aged child? Because that's not allowed. Everyone I know that teleworks but has an infant or toddler has someone caring for them during the day.

You trolls have been warned.

Nope, not a troll - anyone that is stressed out about having to find DAYCARE right now is in the wrong and they know it. I absolutely understand the people stressing about before and after care. It's impossible to find elementary-aged before and after care, the waitlists are long, but someone who has a child under the age of 5 who is looking for DAYCARE should have had their child in daycare this whole time. WTF?

The daycare post was in reference to commute time and the new work location: "a daycare that aligns with commute" when you don't know where you'll be reporting. Read.

I’m the PP who mentioned daycare and not knowing office location. My kids are school aged and I have a WAH spouse so we’ll be fine if we stagger hours, it will just be less time with my family despite the fact I chose this as a telework-friendly job 12 years ago but I digress.

I was simply replying to the person above me who mentioned how they found daycare and figured everything out. And I was pointing out reasons it may not be so easy to find daycare quickly.

I wasn’t implying that anyone is working without daycare. But you have no idea if someone’s daycare doesn’t stay open late enough to accommodate a long commute (I’ve had friends tell me about childcare hours being shortened). Some people on here have been swearing the market will adapt and they’ll stay open later again, so we’ll see.

Or perhaps the daycare they’re using would no longer be convenient if their office location is now changing compared to where they went into an office pre-COVID.

There are so many variables, and childcare plus dual spouse career choices is usually a logic puzzle to begin with. So no, I’m not saying anyone is working without daycare. Just that we aren’t simply going back to pre-COVID life and that childcare isn’t always easy to coordinate with short notice.

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Anonymous wrote:I remember hustling pick up and drop off logistics with DH during our kids early years. Both of us had inflexible jobs. Very stressful and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

We are supposed to evolve. Just because I did it 15 years ago doesn’t mean today’s generation should have to as well. Why are Americans so infatuated with punishment?

Once again, no one is. It’s the whining and the hysterics of it all.

If we could wave our magic wand, we’d keep at least regular telework, if not full telework. But it’s not happening and a lot of people here are saying it’s impossible to figure out childcare. That their lives are being turned upside down. It’s perspective that is missing.

My kids were in full time daycare, and then before and after care, and yeah it’s expensive. And there are wait lists. BTDT. The hours with a commute are tough too, so I found a daycare that was closer to my office so we could manage the daycare’s hours. I have a long commute and getting my toddler out of bed at 6:30am was hard.

We staggered our tours of duty, we used a lot of leave, we hired high schooler to shuttle one kid to her sport when we weren’t home in time to get her there. We had zero telework then.

I don’t begrudge anyone who doesn’t have to do that. But reality is this is what’s happening now.

Some of us don’t even know where our office will be so it’s hard to pick a daycare that aligns with commute. Not to mention people normally get on daycare waitlists while they’re still pregnant.

You can keep them in their current daycare for the time being. Are they not in daycare?

If your new office is a couple of hours from your day care, which it easily can be, that's not going to work because it's not going to cover enough hours.

Do you normally have these types of problems understanding basic things?

A couple of hours?!?! Then you move. No one sane commutes a couple of hours every single day, you look for housing (and child care) closer to your work.

I work 7 miles from my job, and it takes me an hour to get there. That’s a two hour commute each day. Are you in some rural area?

My daycare was open from 6:30am - 6:00pm. Wasn't ever a problem when I had a one hour commute each day. When my husband was traveling, I dropped my children off at 7:00, picked them up at 5:30. When my older one started K, we got her on the list for before and after care as early as possible and same thing, they were open from 6:30am to 6:00pm. Two pick ups and drop offs was challenging, but I made it work. There was only one day when I was stuck in massive traffic and didn't arrive until 6:15. I called and explained and they stayed late for me, I gave the woman who stayed a $50 gift card the next day. You'll find a way!

When was this? A lot of day cares cut back hours due to staffing issues.

Literally two years ago these were still their hours. My spouse travels for work, he got maybe a 6 month break from travel during Covid, but it has picked back up significantly, and we've had childcare this whole time (we started daycare again as soon as they opened, which was July 2020). We made it work then, we make it work now with ES-aged kids and after care. It will be hard, but I am confident you'll find a way!

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Anonymous wrote:I remember hustling pick up and drop off logistics with DH during our kids early years. Both of us had inflexible jobs. Very stressful and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

We are supposed to evolve. Just because I did it 15 years ago doesn’t mean today’s generation should have to as well. Why are Americans so infatuated with punishment?

Once again, no one is. It’s the whining and the hysterics of it all.

If we could wave our magic wand, we’d keep at least regular telework, if not full telework. But it’s not happening and a lot of people here are saying it’s impossible to figure out childcare. That their lives are being turned upside down. It’s perspective that is missing.

My kids were in full time daycare, and then before and after care, and yeah it’s expensive. And there are wait lists. BTDT. The hours with a commute are tough too, so I found a daycare that was closer to my office so we could manage the daycare’s hours. I have a long commute and getting my toddler out of bed at 6:30am was hard.

We staggered our tours of duty, we used a lot of leave, we hired high schooler to shuttle one kid to her sport when we weren’t home in time to get her there. We had zero telework then.

I don’t begrudge anyone who doesn’t have to do that. But reality is this is what’s happening now.

Some of us don’t even know where our office will be so it’s hard to pick a daycare that aligns with commute. Not to mention people normally get on daycare waitlists while they’re still pregnant.

I'm confused. Have you been working from home full-time with a daycare aged child? Because that's not allowed. Everyone I know that teleworks but has an infant or toddler has someone caring for them during the day.

You trolls have been warned.

Nope, not a troll - anyone that is stressed out about having to find DAYCARE right now is in the wrong and they know it. I absolutely understand the people stressing about before and after care. It's impossible to find elementary-aged before and after care, the waitlists are long, but someone who has a child under the age of 5 who is looking for DAYCARE should have had their child in daycare this whole time. WTF?

The daycare post was in reference to commute time and the new work location: "a daycare that aligns with commute" when you don't know where you'll be reporting. Read.

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Anonymous wrote:I remember hustling pick up and drop off logistics with DH during our kids early years. Both of us had inflexible jobs. Very stressful and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

We are supposed to evolve. Just because I did it 15 years ago doesn’t mean today’s generation should have to as well. Why are Americans so infatuated with punishment?

Once again, no one is. It’s the whining and the hysterics of it all.

If we could wave our magic wand, we’d keep at least regular telework, if not full telework. But it’s not happening and a lot of people here are saying it’s impossible to figure out childcare. That their lives are being turned upside down. It’s perspective that is missing.

My kids were in full time daycare, and then before and after care, and yeah it’s expensive. And there are wait lists. BTDT. The hours with a commute are tough too, so I found a daycare that was closer to my office so we could manage the daycare’s hours. I have a long commute and getting my toddler out of bed at 6:30am was hard.

We staggered our tours of duty, we used a lot of leave, we hired high schooler to shuttle one kid to her sport when we weren’t home in time to get her there. We had zero telework then.

I don’t begrudge anyone who doesn’t have to do that. But reality is this is what’s happening now.

Some of us don’t even know where our office will be so it’s hard to pick a daycare that aligns with commute. Not to mention people normally get on daycare waitlists while they’re still pregnant.

You can keep them in their current daycare for the time being. Are they not in daycare?

If your new office is a couple of hours from your day care, which it easily can be, that's not going to work because it's not going to cover enough hours.

Do you normally have these types of problems understanding basic things?

A couple of hours?!?! Then you move. No one sane commutes a couple of hours every single day, you look for housing (and child care) closer to your work.

I work 7 miles from my job, and it takes me an hour to get there. That’s a two hour commute each day. Are you in some rural area?

My daycare was open from 6:30am - 6:00pm. Wasn't ever a problem when I had a one hour commute each day. When my husband was traveling, I dropped my children off at 7:00, picked them up at 5:30. When my older one started K, we got her on the list for before and after care as early as possible and same thing, they were open from 6:30am to 6:00pm. Two pick ups and drop offs was challenging, but I made it work. There was only one day when I was stuck in massive traffic and didn't arrive until 6:15. I called and explained and they stayed late for me, I gave the woman who stayed a $50 gift card the next day. You'll find a way!

When was this? A lot of day cares cut back hours due to staffing issues.

Anonymous wrote:TL/DR but seeing all of the ill adjusted kids in my school right now makes perfect sense with the several pages I did read. All of these people working while “raising” kids at home! Sorry, but you can’t have it both ways. Something WILL suffer. Clearly many of you all have opted for unlimited screens as babysitters…and it shows in your kids. They have NO attention span, can’t have normal conversations with adults, and all they want to do is get back onto their laptops for games/youtube/chat/etc. Kids do not raise themselves and there is a limited window of time for engaging with them. It makes me sick to think of all of these parents “fitting in a few more hours” while their kids are just scrolling away. The answer is NOT more school or endless time/money for daycare. Ugh. They need quality time with a PARENT, real conversations, play, connection, stories of their ancestors, fun quality time. You don’t need the expensive zip code and fancy cars, feds. Consider a move to a cheaper area where you can afford for one parent to SAH and be present until your kids are more self-sufficient. *sigh*

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Anonymous wrote:I remember hustling pick up and drop off logistics with DH during our kids early years. Both of us had inflexible jobs. Very stressful and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

We are supposed to evolve. Just because I did it 15 years ago doesn’t mean today’s generation should have to as well. Why are Americans so infatuated with punishment?

Once again, no one is. It’s the whining and the hysterics of it all.

If we could wave our magic wand, we’d keep at least regular telework, if not full telework. But it’s not happening and a lot of people here are saying it’s impossible to figure out childcare. That their lives are being turned upside down. It’s perspective that is missing.

My kids were in full time daycare, and then before and after care, and yeah it’s expensive. And there are wait lists. BTDT. The hours with a commute are tough too, so I found a daycare that was closer to my office so we could manage the daycare’s hours. I have a long commute and getting my toddler out of bed at 6:30am was hard.

We staggered our tours of duty, we used a lot of leave, we hired high schooler to shuttle one kid to her sport when we weren’t home in time to get her there. We had zero telework then.

I don’t begrudge anyone who doesn’t have to do that. But reality is this is what’s happening now.

Some of us don’t even know where our office will be so it’s hard to pick a daycare that aligns with commute. Not to mention people normally get on daycare waitlists while they’re still pregnant.

I'm confused. Have you been working from home full-time with a daycare aged child? Because that's not allowed. Everyone I know that teleworks but has an infant or toddler has someone caring for them during the day.

You trolls have been warned.

Nope, not a troll - anyone that is stressed out about having to find DAYCARE right now is in the wrong and they know it. I absolutely understand the people stressing about before and after care. It's impossible to find elementary-aged before and after care, the waitlists are long, but someone who has a child under the age of 5 who is looking for DAYCARE should have had their child in daycare this whole time. WTF?

My kids aren’t in daycare anymore, but before the pandemic their daycare was 7 am - 6 pm. That one closed and the neighborhood daycare we could find (which was 8-6 pre-pandemic) reduced its hours to 8-5. We both work from home so could stagger work schedules and cover this - or take a little leave now and then if needed - but we couldn’t have managed this schedule if we were commuting.

look harder, there is more than 1 daycare option

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Anonymous wrote:I remember hustling pick up and drop off logistics with DH during our kids early years. Both of us had inflexible jobs. Very stressful and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

We are supposed to evolve. Just because I did it 15 years ago doesn’t mean today’s generation should have to as well. Why are Americans so infatuated with punishment?

Once again, no one is. It’s the whining and the hysterics of it all.

If we could wave our magic wand, we’d keep at least regular telework, if not full telework. But it’s not happening and a lot of people here are saying it’s impossible to figure out childcare. That their lives are being turned upside down. It’s perspective that is missing.

My kids were in full time daycare, and then before and after care, and yeah it’s expensive. And there are wait lists. BTDT. The hours with a commute are tough too, so I found a daycare that was closer to my office so we could manage the daycare’s hours. I have a long commute and getting my toddler out of bed at 6:30am was hard.

We staggered our tours of duty, we used a lot of leave, we hired high schooler to shuttle one kid to her sport when we weren’t home in time to get her there. We had zero telework then.

I don’t begrudge anyone who doesn’t have to do that. But reality is this is what’s happening now.

Some of us don’t even know where our office will be so it’s hard to pick a daycare that aligns with commute. Not to mention people normally get on daycare waitlists while they’re still pregnant.

You can keep them in their current daycare for the time being. Are they not in daycare?

If your new office is a couple of hours from your day care, which it easily can be, that's not going to work because it's not going to cover enough hours.

Do you normally have these types of problems understanding basic things?

A couple of hours?!?! Then you move. No one sane commutes a couple of hours every single day, you look for housing (and child care) closer to your work.

I work 7 miles from my job, and it takes me an hour to get there. That’s a two hour commute each day. Are you in some rural area?

My daycare was open from 6:30am - 6:00pm. Wasn't ever a problem when I had a one hour commute each day. When my husband was traveling, I dropped my children off at 7:00, picked them up at 5:30. When my older one started K, we got her on the list for before and after care as early as possible and same thing, they were open from 6:30am to 6:00pm. Two pick ups and drop offs was challenging, but I made it work. There was only one day when I was stuck in massive traffic and didn't arrive until 6:15. I called and explained and they stayed late for me, I gave the woman who stayed a $50 gift card the next day. You'll find a way!

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Anonymous wrote:I remember hustling pick up and drop off logistics with DH during our kids early years. Both of us had inflexible jobs. Very stressful and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

We are supposed to evolve. Just because I did it 15 years ago doesn’t mean today’s generation should have to as well. Why are Americans so infatuated with punishment?

Once again, no one is. It’s the whining and the hysterics of it all.

If we could wave our magic wand, we’d keep at least regular telework, if not full telework. But it’s not happening and a lot of people here are saying it’s impossible to figure out childcare. That their lives are being turned upside down. It’s perspective that is missing.

My kids were in full time daycare, and then before and after care, and yeah it’s expensive. And there are wait lists. BTDT. The hours with a commute are tough too, so I found a daycare that was closer to my office so we could manage the daycare’s hours. I have a long commute and getting my toddler out of bed at 6:30am was hard.

We staggered our tours of duty, we used a lot of leave, we hired high schooler to shuttle one kid to her sport when we weren’t home in time to get her there. We had zero telework then.

I don’t begrudge anyone who doesn’t have to do that. But reality is this is what’s happening now.

Some of us don’t even know where our office will be so it’s hard to pick a daycare that aligns with commute. Not to mention people normally get on daycare waitlists while they’re still pregnant.

I'm confused. Have you been working from home full-time with a daycare aged child? Because that's not allowed. Everyone I know that teleworks but has an infant or toddler has someone caring for them during the day.

You trolls have been warned.

Nope, not a troll - anyone that is stressed out about having to find DAYCARE right now is in the wrong and they know it. I absolutely understand the people stressing about before and after care. It's impossible to find elementary-aged before and after care, the waitlists are long, but someone who has a child under the age of 5 who is looking for DAYCARE should have had their child in daycare this whole time. WTF?

My kids aren’t in daycare anymore, but before the pandemic their daycare was 7 am - 6 pm. That one closed and the neighborhood daycare we could find (which was 8-6 pre-pandemic) reduced its hours to 8-5. We both work from home so could stagger work schedules and cover this - or take a little leave now and then if needed - but we couldn’t have managed this schedule if we were commuting.