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Anonymous wrote:I'm asexual

What does that mean exactly?

I grew up in a small town and married a guy I love. I'm not aromantic, I genuinely did fall in love, and still am in love with my husband. After a few years of having no interest in sex and finding it a bit repulsive, with no interest in being sexually touched, I figured it was just the usual "getting to know my body" stuff. Then I had a few years of thinking possibly I was lesbian, and finally came to realize that I'm just not sexually attracted to people. My husband has had other sexual partners, which I okayed (no need to ask further questions about that.) Basically, I don't like sexual contact. It's not obvious or anything, and I masturbate occasionally (don't know why I have no problem with that. Confuses me somewhat, still) It really isn't a big deal in my life, and I think it's more common than it seems. I can't quite define it, but I don't really mind it. Just is.

I have a few serious questions to ask you.
Where you ever sexually abused?
Did you grow up in a strict and religious household that viewed sex as repulsive?
Do you think that you and your husband were never sexually compatible?
Have you ever had sex with another person to see if you like it or not? The reason I ask this is because you seem to have no problem with masturbating. So, I wouldn't say that you're asexual. You don't seem to like sex with your husband. Do you think that his technique just doesn't do it for you or are you just repulsive about the act of sex itself?

The answer is no to all but the last (yes, I met my husband several years after losing my virginity) Apparently, says my therapist, there are asexual people who masturbate. I'll go to the internet to further explore this, just never bothered.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't give a flying duck about saving for college.

Just lazy, or selfish with your money?

Would rather not have to come begging to my kids later in life.

Also what if my DDs aren't college material? My DHL was made to go before she was ready and everyone suffered.

Nothing wrong with community college.

No, there is absolutely nothing wrong with community college. It is a very smart way to get your intro classes out of the way, with great teachers and low cost. We have a good HHI and we have saved more than enough for college. My kids will not have to take student loans for anything. They are also very high achieving students with great academic records in magnet programs in the public school systems.

While many balk at the thought of going to community college, I feel that being an exceptional student and having the money for college (both true in our case), should make more options open for you - so you are being shortsighted if the option of community college is dismissed because of some perceived "loser" value attached to it. My DC got into the college of choice because of EA/ED, and will not go to community college, but that was a real option available to DC.

Now, as far as the choice is to save for retirement vs. college is concerned - retirement trumps. However, if you have the money, why would you not save for college?

Lastly, you do have a hand in ensuring that your kids are good students. Stating that they may not be college material does not seem as if you are delegating the responsibility of being good students to your children, it seems more like it is a dereliction of duty as a parent.

Anonymous wrote:My unpopular opinion is that tall boots aren't for everyone. It seems like everywhere I go, women of all sizes, shapes and heights are wearing them, and a lot of the time, they don't look very good. Some women can really pull it off by wearing the right outfit and having the right body type for the boots and outfit they are wearing, but not everyone can. The reason I think this opinion is unpopular is that it seems everyone is wearing them.

+1000

Just like skinny jeans...not a good look for most people...

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Anonymous wrote:I don't give a flying duck about saving for college.

Just lazy, or selfish with your money?

Would rather not have to come begging to my kids later in life.

Also what if my DDs aren't college material? My DHL was made to go before she was ready and everyone suffered.

Nothing wrong with community college.

My unpopular opinion is that tall boots aren't for everyone. It seems like everywhere I go, women of all sizes, shapes and heights are wearing them, and a lot of the time, they don't look very good. Some women can really pull it off by wearing the right outfit and having the right body type for the boots and outfit they are wearing, but not everyone can. The reason I think this opinion is unpopular is that it seems everyone is wearing them.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm asexual

What does that mean exactly?

I grew up in a small town and married a guy I love. I'm not aromantic, I genuinely did fall in love, and still am in love with my husband. After a few years of having no interest in sex and finding it a bit repulsive, with no interest in being sexually touched, I figured it was just the usual "getting to know my body" stuff. Then I had a few years of thinking possibly I was lesbian, and finally came to realize that I'm just not sexually attracted to people. My husband has had other sexual partners, which I okayed (no need to ask further questions about that.) Basically, I don't like sexual contact. It's not obvious or anything, and I masturbate occasionally (don't know why I have no problem with that. Confuses me somewhat, still) It really isn't a big deal in my life, and I think it's more common than it seems. I can't quite define it, but I don't really mind it. Just is.

I have a few serious questions to ask you.
Where you ever sexually abused?
Did you grow up in a strict and religious household that viewed sex as repulsive?
Do you think that you and your husband were never sexually compatible?
Have you ever had sex with another person to see if you like it or not? The reason I ask this is because you seem to have no problem with masturbating. So, I wouldn't say that you're asexual. You don't seem to like sex with your husband. Do you think that his technique just doesn't do it for you or are you just repulsive about the act of sex itself?

Anonymous wrote:I think pie is way more delicious than cake.

I agree!

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Anonymous wrote:Smoking marijuana is low-class and trashy.

Do you consider snorting cocaine high class and uppity?

Of course not, but that's not something people try to pass off as acceptable.

You don't get out much, do you?

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Anonymous wrote:Smoking marijuana is low-class and trashy.

Do you consider snorting cocaine high class and uppity?

Of course not, but that's not something people try to pass off as acceptable.

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Anonymous wrote:I think that people of color who don't think that Redskins is offensive missed the entire point of the civil rights movement.

Which was to have freedom from discrimination in employment, places of business, and housing. Not sure it had anything to do with football mascots, per se. That kind of started with an NCAA crackdown, but somehow the ridiculously racist Seminole mascot and tomahawk chop still exist.

It is my understanding that when the Florida's Women College was reinvented to become Florida State University, FSU sought tand received the approval from the Seminole Nation to use the name as the mascot.

I heard about that recently (on NPR?). Apparently the Florida Seminoles are cool with it but the Oklahoma Seminoles are not. Still, I was impressed that FSU actually reached out to the local tribe.

Here's a great article on the partnership between the Seminole Nation and FSU.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/sports/colleges/florida-states-unusual-bond-with-seminole-tribe-puts-mascot-debate-in-a-different-light/2014/12/29/5386841a-8eea-11e4-ba53-a477d66580ed_story.html

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Anonymous wrote:I think that people of color who don't think that Redskins is offensive missed the entire point of the civil rights movement.

Which was to have freedom from discrimination in employment, places of business, and housing. Not sure it had anything to do with football mascots, per se. That kind of started with an NCAA crackdown, but somehow the ridiculously racist Seminole mascot and tomahawk chop still exist.

It is my understanding that when the Florida's Women College was reinvented to become Florida State University, FSU sought tand received the approval from the Seminole Nation to use the name as the mascot.

I heard about that recently (on NPR?). Apparently the Florida Seminoles are cool with it but the Oklahoma Seminoles are not. Still, I was impressed that FSU actually reached out to the local tribe.

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Anonymous wrote:You can be single, never married, and happy.

I think this becomes less true the older a person gets. Maybe some people can be happy being single their whole lives, but I think by the time you hit your late 40's/early 50's, you get lonely. Most people by that age have settled down with someone and/or had kids and you end up being the "extra" person at holiday get-togethers. Your parents may have died and your siblings have their own lives and families. Your friends are busy/tied down/too tired to make plans. You are getting set in your ways. Let's face it, by middle age, you are probably not having a huge social life. You are not hitting the town every weekend or going on a big hiking or skiing trip. You are probably just hanging out at home with your pets.

Actually, it becomes more true the older one gets. I am single, never married, and very happy. I am in my early 50s. Many of my married contemporaries are unhappy, stressed out, financially strapped, and/or getting divorced. Maybe 10 or 15 years ago, those women were the smug marrieds of which you speak, but ten to fifteen years of marriage, children and career (or loss of it) have changed their perspectives. They all look 5 to 10 years older than me.
Now, I did adopt a child on my own, and I am an outgoing person who has always had an active social life. So, YMMV.

I totally believe this. I'm married and in a pretty good relationship but as I move into my 60s, I know I would be fine if something happened to dh and I would have absolutely no need to be in another relationship. I mean -- your libido slows down, you've accomplished a fair bit so you have some confidence, you care a lot less about what other people think (especially about your looks) and you aren't riding that overwhelming emotional rollercoaster that you rode in your 20s and 30s. I just don't think you need a relationship as much when you get older. But, of course, one might say that that's easy for me to say, since I have one.

I think profanity is gross and awful.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm asexual

What does that mean exactly?

I grew up in a small town and married a guy I love. I'm not aromantic, I genuinely did fall in love, and still am in love with my husband. After a few years of having no interest in sex and finding it a bit repulsive, with no interest in being sexually touched, I figured it was just the usual "getting to know my body" stuff. Then I had a few years of thinking possibly I was lesbian, and finally came to realize that I'm just not sexually attracted to people. My husband has had other sexual partners, which I okayed (no need to ask further questions about that.) Basically, I don't like sexual contact. It's not obvious or anything, and I masturbate occasionally (don't know why I have no problem with that. Confuses me somewhat, still) It really isn't a big deal in my life, and I think it's more common than it seems. I can't quite define it, but I don't really mind it. Just is.

Anonymous wrote:I wish it was still socially acceptable to say "that's retarded."

I grew up in Boston, and it was said and heard without connecting to people with mental disabilities.

Just like when people say "that's dumb" they're not specifically referring to deaf persons. Or "that's crazy/that's insane" and not in reference to people with mental illness. Words change, words evolve.

It's all the PC stuff we've fallen victim to.