Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 17:10     Subject: Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go
Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who I have known for nearly 20 years from the time we were18 until now. She's not DCUM definition of pretty, tall white, blonde, and big breasted.

She's tall and thin though. She's AA, flat-chested, has had hair of varying lengths. She is totally gorgeous. Men fall all over themselves for her. I'm talking tongues pretty much hanging out of their mouths and staring. When we were in college and I was a little more insecure this would make me a little bit jealous. I actually recall one of my other friends declaring when we were all out in a group " That if Larla was coming the rest of us aren't going to get any attention"

She's not a super stylish dresser, doesn't wear makeup, and is not overly friendly, is actually fairly shy. . Still gets checked out,hit on at work, grocery stores, at the pizza shop or playground, church, bars etc. and you can tell it's not just the guys being nice."

The funny thing is she never makes a big deal about it, Certainly doesn't brag about it, in fact, she most often can be described as being annoyed and embarrassed by it.

She's sadly had to deal with workplace harassment too. So I definitely think it happens, but I don't think it's the women who are constantly saying it happens like it's something to brag about that it is happening to



I also have a friend similar to this. Not DCUM definition of pretty with heavy makeup and blonde etc. She does not wear makeup, but she is really pretty. She legitimately gets checked out, hit on, and flirted with everywhere she goes, . What gets me is she doesn't seem to notice at all.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 16:22     Subject: Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A lot of big egos in here. Men rarely ask a woman out in person now- I find all these claiming to be "hit on" all the time either exaggerations, imaginary/preceived, or gross men cat calling that make no distinction between beautiful woman and other.


Agreed. I don't see this happening anywhere. Random strangers aren't chatting each other up in any grocery store I'm in. Even on the dating sites people complain about people just wanting to text constantly without ever meeting in person. Who are all these people asking strangers on dates and actually going on dates? This does not make a lot of sense. Or are people remembering the good old days decades ago because none of this matches the dating reality of today.


Well, I am someone who got asked out at Wegman's last year, during the pandemic. I can't help it if I am adorable and friendly! Maybe you should try it?!


You must have had your mask on since this probably never happened to you pre-pandemic.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 16:21     Subject: Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ha!!! Until they remove their makeup.


Haha so true. I used to work as a cocktail waitress and had to dress up, do full makeup hair etc. I would get hit on all night long. Sometimes I’d see guys that were begging for my number the night before at the grocery store the next day and they would walk right past me. Some guys love a very sexy “done up” look and I think they perceive girls who have it as easier to get into bed. I was a cute girl back in my 20s but, when not at work, was definitely not the overtly sexy, flirty type at all. I’ve always preferred attracting men I know and like to strangers. Too many creepy guys out there.


It's really true. I dont know why but a lot of men are kind of stupid and truly cant see women unless they have heavy makeup on. I get checked out quite a lot, but when I went through a no maekup period and would tie my hair back, it was like being invisible. And I have great skin, no zits, and don't wear a ton of makeup. But it's like some kind of symbol for men. So strange.


+1 I have an acquaintance that talks a big game about only dating “super hot” women but what he means by this is average women who do the whole fake hair, lots of makeup, very body conscious clothing look. There are definitely symbols of beauty that some men react to without actually noticing the actual appearance of the woman they are looking at.


I had a roommate in college who wore a full face of make-up every day to class. Took her about 2 hours to get ready. She also slept in the makeup whenever she had a guy or boyfriend over. Told them it kept her skin healthy and her doctor recommended it. The reality was she didn't want them to see what she looked like without makeup on. When she was alone, she definitely took it off at night. I guess the guys believed what they wanted to believe.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 16:18     Subject: Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ha!!! Until they remove their makeup.


Haha so true. I used to work as a cocktail waitress and had to dress up, do full makeup hair etc. I would get hit on all night long. Sometimes I’d see guys that were begging for my number the night before at the grocery store the next day and they would walk right past me. Some guys love a very sexy “done up” look and I think they perceive girls who have it as easier to get into bed. I was a cute girl back in my 20s but, when not at work, was definitely not the overtly sexy, flirty type at all. I’ve always preferred attracting men I know and like to strangers. Too many creepy guys out there.


It's really true. I dont know why but a lot of men are kind of stupid and truly cant see women unless they have heavy makeup on. I get checked out quite a lot, but when I went through a no maekup period and would tie my hair back, it was like being invisible. And I have great skin, no zits, and don't wear a ton of makeup. But it's like some kind of symbol for men. So strange.


+1 I have an acquaintance that talks a big game about only dating “super hot” women but what he means by this is average women who do the whole fake hair, lots of makeup, very body conscious clothing look. There are definitely symbols of beauty that some men react to without actually noticing the actual appearance of the woman they are looking at.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 16:15     Subject: Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A lot of big egos in here. Men rarely ask a woman out in person now- I find all these claiming to be "hit on" all the time either exaggerations, imaginary/preceived, or gross men cat calling that make no distinction between beautiful woman and other.


Agreed. I don't see this happening anywhere. Random strangers aren't chatting each other up in any grocery store I'm in. Even on the dating sites people complain about people just wanting to text constantly without ever meeting in person. Who are all these people asking strangers on dates and actually going on dates? This does not make a lot of sense. Or are people remembering the good old days decades ago because none of this matches the dating reality of today.


Well, I am someone who got asked out at Wegman's last year, during the pandemic. I can't help it if I am adorable and friendly! Maybe you should try it?!


Well I'm not single so, no, cheating isn't really for me. Which is why I said I never see *strangers* chatting it up. But if cheating is your thing, then go for it.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 16:12     Subject: Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A lot of big egos in here. Men rarely ask a woman out in person now- I find all these claiming to be "hit on" all the time either exaggerations, imaginary/preceived, or gross men cat calling that make no distinction between beautiful woman and other.


Agreed. I don't see this happening anywhere. Random strangers aren't chatting each other up in any grocery store I'm in. Even on the dating sites people complain about people just wanting to text constantly without ever meeting in person. Who are all these people asking strangers on dates and actually going on dates? This does not make a lot of sense. Or are people remembering the good old days decades ago because none of this matches the dating reality of today.


Well, I am someone who got asked out at Wegman's last year, during the pandemic. I can't help it if I am adorable and friendly! Maybe you should try it?!


Were you standing by the wine section when it happened? If you had been standing by the canned beans you might not have been asked out. Location, location, location...
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 16:10     Subject: Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A lot of big egos in here. Men rarely ask a woman out in person now- I find all these claiming to be "hit on" all the time either exaggerations, imaginary/preceived, or gross men cat calling that make no distinction between beautiful woman and other.


Agreed. I don't see this happening anywhere. Random strangers aren't chatting each other up in any grocery store I'm in. Even on the dating sites people complain about people just wanting to text constantly without ever meeting in person. Who are all these people asking strangers on dates and actually going on dates? This does not make a lot of sense. Or are people remembering the good old days decades ago because none of this matches the dating reality of today.


Well, I am someone who got asked out at Wegman's last year, during the pandemic. I can't help it if I am adorable and friendly! Maybe you should try it?!
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 15:42     Subject: Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ha!!! Until they remove their makeup.


Haha so true. I used to work as a cocktail waitress and had to dress up, do full makeup hair etc. I would get hit on all night long. Sometimes I’d see guys that were begging for my number the night before at the grocery store the next day and they would walk right past me. Some guys love a very sexy “done up” look and I think they perceive girls who have it as easier to get into bed. I was a cute girl back in my 20s but, when not at work, was definitely not the overtly sexy, flirty type at all. I’ve always preferred attracting men I know and like to strangers. Too many creepy guys out there.


It's really true. I dont know why but a lot of men are kind of stupid and truly cant see women unless they have heavy makeup on. I get checked out quite a lot, but when I went through a no maekup period and would tie my hair back, it was like being invisible. And I have great skin, no zits, and don't wear a ton of makeup. But it's like some kind of symbol for men. So strange.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 15:26     Subject: Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A lot of big egos in here. Men rarely ask a woman out in person now- I find all these claiming to be "hit on" all the time either exaggerations, imaginary/preceived, or gross men cat calling that make no distinction between beautiful woman and other.


Agreed. I don't see this happening anywhere. Random strangers aren't chatting each other up in any grocery store I'm in. Even on the dating sites people complain about people just wanting to text constantly without ever meeting in person. Who are all these people asking strangers on dates and actually going on dates? This does not make a lot of sense. Or are people remembering the good old days decades ago because none of this matches the dating reality of today.


I think this is probably true. I am very attractive, 30s but look younger, and regularly get stared at by eligible young men but they never actually come over to ask me out. They'll just stare for a while, almost like they want YOU to come over.
This seems to be the case for most of my attractive friends, the one exception being a friend I had with EXTREMELY large implants (she did sex work on the side and gave out that vibe) that she would prop up in very tight, low cut shirts and miniskirts. She would wear really high heels and she did have men who would come up and hit on her, but they were mostly older men that i would consider undesirable, or very short ones that she towered over in her heels. No man I would want to date.
So, i dont know. I feel like a lot of young guys just dont have the courage to approach women anymore. It's easier to watch porn I guess.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 15:23     Subject: Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:A lot of big egos in here. Men rarely ask a woman out in person now- I find all these claiming to be "hit on" all the time either exaggerations, imaginary/preceived, or gross men cat calling that make no distinction between beautiful woman and other.


Agreed. I don't see this happening anywhere. Random strangers aren't chatting each other up in any grocery store I'm in. Even on the dating sites people complain about people just wanting to text constantly without ever meeting in person. Who are all these people asking strangers on dates and actually going on dates? This does not make a lot of sense. Or are people remembering the good old days decades ago because none of this matches the dating reality of today.


+1
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 14:34     Subject: Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go
Anonymous wrote:A lot of big egos in here. Men rarely ask a woman out in person now- I find all these claiming to be "hit on" all the time either exaggerations, imaginary/preceived, or gross men cat calling that make no distinction between beautiful woman and other.


Agreed. I don't see this happening anywhere. Random strangers aren't chatting each other up in any grocery store I'm in. Even on the dating sites people complain about people just wanting to text constantly without ever meeting in person. Who are all these people asking strangers on dates and actually going on dates? This does not make a lot of sense. Or are people remembering the good old days decades ago because none of this matches the dating reality of today.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 14:31     Subject: Re:Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go
I’m 37 and the mother of three and I never get hit on. I’m 5’7”, 125 pounds, long brown hair, small boobs and quite pretty. However, I’m usually mistaken for a baby sitter because I look seriously young. It doesn’t help that even when I’m not with my kids I never wear makeup and dress in leggings and tee shirts/tanks. Thanks to Covid I haven’t glammed up in well over a year. I know when I’m 50 looking young will be great but right now I feel invisible to all but my husband.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 14:07     Subject: Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go
Anonymous wrote:I'm late 30s, married (wear ring), and almost always have young kids with me...

So no, men are not lining up to ask me out in public. But I do generate long stares from men and occasional small talk. I take that to mean I'm still reasonably attractive.


Sounds like you’ve definitely still got it! What do you think guys find attractive about you?
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 13:16     Subject: Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go
I'm late 30s, married (wear ring), and almost always have young kids with me...

So no, men are not lining up to ask me out in public. But I do generate long stares from men and occasional small talk. I take that to mean I'm still reasonably attractive.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2021 13:13     Subject: Women who say they get hit on everywhere they go
A lot of big egos in here. Men rarely ask a woman out in person now- I find all these claiming to be "hit on" all the time either exaggerations, imaginary/preceived, or gross men cat calling that make no distinction between beautiful woman and other.