Statistically most will gain it back, so no.

"By some estimates, 80% of people who successfully lose at least 10% of their body weight will gradually regain it to end up as large or even larger than they were before they went on a diet." https://www.webmd.com/diet/news/20161014/how-your-appetite-can-sabotage-weight-loss#1

It's not purely aesthetic for me. I am very active/athletic and eat healthily, and those things are important to me. Given that they are likely to gain it back, I would worry that they would get into habits that were incompatible with my lifestyle and I know it would be frustrating to me. I would have a very hard time being supportive of a spouse who brought junk food into the house, spent free time doing sedentary activities, and serving up huge portions. They would be unhappy (because I am judge-y about lifestyle habits), and I would be unhappy (because it would feel unsupportive of my health goals to be around habits that were not conducive to my diet and exercise efforts).

My brother met my SIL when he was at his lowest weight. He only stayed there for maybe a year? Now he’s almost 400 pounds and has bigger boobs than me.

I lost 140 pounds on WW and never tell the men I date. I learned early on even the good guys will leave after they find out. I have very minimal stretch marks on my stomach but no other evidence of my former large self. Thankfully no loose skin and my stretch marks are basically 4 small lines. No need to share this information.

Anonymous wrote:Want those big fat legs around my body. My wife is anorexic.

Come on man! THat is so unhelpful.

Anonymous wrote:I'd date someone who was currently overweight.

This. My husband lost a lot of weight and when we met, he was at his lowest weight in years. I knew going in that he would likely struggle with weight, and he does. I love him! We have a great sex life too. Your story is part of who you are, and someone who loves you will love you with that story.

Its kind of that simple.

Anonymous wrote:I had gastric bypass. My body looks great. I have no problem with attracting men. They dont want to know. They dont care.

Nor will they care so long as it's a casual relationship that includes sex.

40 years ago, in my 20s, I lost 70 lbs and got to a weight that was just above normal. Since then my weight has fluctuated by 10 to 20 lbs but always took it back and now weigh 80 lbs less than I did at the peak. However, when you look at the percentage of those who have weight issues and lost a sizable amount, that is very rare.

With that in mind if I were to date someone who has lost that kind of weight I would have to consider whether the added weight would make a difference to me.

Want those big fat legs around my body. My wife is anorexic.

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Anonymous wrote:I had gastric bypass. My body looks great. I have no problem with attracting men. They dont want to know. They dont care.

I think they would want to know. That is a major surgery that can have life long medical complications, sometimes down the road several years.

NP-so what? Lifelong good health is not a guarantee for anyone.

Anonymous wrote:I would never marry a woman I thought would gain a substantial amount. Complete deal breaker.

Completely agree. I broke up with my type A college boyfriend guy like you because I wanted to be loved for who I am, not my size. He is doing well, but getting a divorce 20+ years later.

Anonymous wrote:I had gastric bypass. My body looks great. I have no problem with attracting men. They dont want to know. They dont care.

I think they would want to know. That is a major surgery that can have life long medical complications, sometimes down the road several years.

I had gastric bypass. My body looks great. I have no problem with attracting men. They dont want to know. They dont care.