Anonymous
Post 05/10/2021 12:48     Subject: Spend Mothers' Day Not Mothering?
I had brunch with DH and DS and then I went to hi
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2021 12:32     Subject: Spend Mothers' Day Not Mothering?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Well I came downstairs to a note from dh and cold coffee. He’d taken the kids out hiking for the day. So bummed and crying now. I guess I had thought I’d wake up to toddler snuggles and breakfast in bed. I’d even stayed in bed until 9:30 waiting. I would have gone hiking. I’m sure it pregnancy hormone but I’m just sad to not see them


See this would be my dream come true! If my husband got the kids out of the house without me, to plan it and pack food. Wow. That’d be awesome.


My husband took our daughter on a "special adventure" while I watched a movie, napped, and read a book. It was lovely. We had breakfast and dinner together, and then I got some peace and quiet in the middle of the day.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2021 12:27     Subject: Re:Spend Mothers' Day Not Mothering?
As a result of the pandemic, I spend all day, every day with my kids no more than a few feet away from me, while they do distance learning and I work. I enjoyed having time to myself on Mother's Day. My "mama's" boys were fine with me spending half the day without them. I've done this for years. Sometimes I even go to brunch with friends. Perhaps you were just a very, very, very sensitive kid.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2021 09:12     Subject: Spend Mothers' Day Not Mothering?
Nobody tells their kids they don’t want to spend time with them on Mother’s Day. Are you that uncreative or just dumb?

We had a lovely breakfast together. Kids were excited to give me their gifts. Then their dad took them to give grandma her gift and to play on the playground while I got a mani/pedi and took a nap. My girls were excited to see my color choice when they got back. Not a single one of us was sad and nobody thought we didn’t want to spend time together.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2021 09:06     Subject: Spend Mothers' Day Not Mothering?
Anonymous wrote:Hi from a retreat with my fully vaccinated closest friends! We are nurses and teachers who been through pandemic hell and will be home in time for Mother’s Day dinner with our families.

We’re enjoying hikes, hot tubs, and wineries. Enjoy your martyrdom and judgment. We don’t give a fig what you think of us.


God bless you all (I’m not even religious). You guys freaking deserve this. And I hope you had the time of your lives!
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2021 08:33     Subject: Spend Mothers' Day Not Mothering?
Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP, and it sends a REALLY bad message to our young children that we don't want to be with them. We would not be mothers if it wasn't for them.


I sincerely hope you're being facetious. If not, I hope I never meet you or your kids.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2021 08:32     Subject: Re:Spend Mothers' Day Not Mothering?
Anonymous wrote:I'm divorced and share joint physical custody. When we wrote the settlement agreement, we made sure that it explicitly stated that the children would be with mom on Mothers Day, and with dad on Fathers Day. Neither lawyer, the mediators, nor the judge raised questions about the desire of the parents to be in the presence of their children on those special days. The assumption seems to be that being with one's children on a special occasion or holiday is a positive experience that a parent would claim the right to, not a negative thing to be avoided. In fact, I wish now that we'd included language about each parent having the children for the parents' birthdays so that it were clear that I'd have my loved ones around on my special day. This isn't about martyrdom. It's about who you want at your side when you celebrate.


This is completely different. If I only saw my kids half the time then sure, I'd want to make sure I saw them on Mother's Day. You are being intentionally obtuse and it's not a good look.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2021 23:59     Subject: Spend Mothers' Day Not Mothering?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Well I came downstairs to a note from dh and cold coffee. He’d taken the kids out hiking for the day. So bummed and crying now. I guess I had thought I’d wake up to toddler snuggles and breakfast in bed. I’d even stayed in bed until 9:30 waiting. I would have gone hiking. I’m sure it pregnancy hormone but I’m just sad to not see them


See this would be my dream come true! If my husband got the kids out of the house without me, to plan it and pack food. Wow. That’d be awesome.

+1 be glad for the peace and quiet sure you wouldn't be procreating multiple times if your DH wasn't good enough for you
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2021 23:08     Subject: Re:Spend Mothers' Day Not Mothering?
A bit tangential, but I spend a decent amount of my Mother's Day honoring my mother, my two MILs and my two grandmothers! I am incredibly lucky but also don't have time for a half day w/kids and a half day getting coffee and a manicure.

It occurs to me that my own mom has been a mom for 43 years and has always had, and continues to have, obligations to both her mother and MIL.

Again-- lucky. But also... busy.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2021 22:51     Subject: Spend Mothers' Day Not Mothering?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Well I came downstairs to a note from dh and cold coffee. He’d taken the kids out hiking for the day. So bummed and crying now. I guess I had thought I’d wake up to toddler snuggles and breakfast in bed. I’d even stayed in bed until 9:30 waiting. I would have gone hiking. I’m sure it pregnancy hormone but I’m just sad to not see them


Your husband took a toddler hiking?

This doesn’t add up...


Why doesn't that add up?
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2021 22:49     Subject: Spend Mothers' Day Not Mothering?
Anonymous wrote:Well I came downstairs to a note from dh and cold coffee. He’d taken the kids out hiking for the day. So bummed and crying now. I guess I had thought I’d wake up to toddler snuggles and breakfast in bed. I’d even stayed in bed until 9:30 waiting. I would have gone hiking. I’m sure it pregnancy hormone but I’m just sad to not see them


Your husband took a toddler hiking?

This doesn’t add up...
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2021 22:43     Subject: Spend Mothers' Day Not Mothering?
My kids had baseball games today and I decided to stay home in bed and catch up on my reading. Apparently I was the only mom not at the games! Oh well, I enjoyed my day and didn't feel an ounce of guilt. We had breakfast and dinner as a family. It was a really nice day.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2021 20:53     Subject: Spend Mothers' Day Not Mothering?
Cripes, a day not planning, making, and cleaning up after three meals a day would be the least they could do. If we got to "mother" and not "maid" all the time, then I can see your point.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2021 20:51     Subject: Re:Spend Mothers' Day Not Mothering?
I'd love the day off or any day off. I'm a single parent with 24/7 custody. A day off would be a wonderful gift.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2021 20:49     Subject: Spend Mothers' Day Not Mothering?
I got to work out and DH made a great breakfast with beautiful flowers. The rest of the day was full of the kids arguing and yelling and ended with me crying. I could use a break.