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Anonymous wrote:Why do teenage girls want to wear revealing clothing? Let’s not pretend it is to express their “style.” It is, has, and always will be about the attraction and attention it puts on them. Spin it any way you want but this is all it is.

Um, you do not speak for every person. That is, perhaps, what was going through your mind.

And, even if that is the case, so effing what? What is it your business? I know lots of young women and teenagers who dress in a way you would disapprove of but who are athletes, smart, nice kids. You think that they way they dress makes them less that way?

Why don't you worry about yourself. There's plenty to keep you busy there.

Anonymous wrote:We’ve had a lot of conversations about this topic at our house and it’s one I struggle with. We’ve definitely loosened things up based on feedback from our daughters. They should be able to wear what they want without fearing unwanted male attention. But changing boy behavior is hard and it makes me really uncomfortable thinking about men or teen boys ogling my daughters. I don’t know the answer. We are just tryin FTI keep the conversation going about us wanting our daughters to date someone who likes who they are as people and not just how they look in crop tops or short shorts. Dyed hair is a lot easier for me to support!

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Anonymous wrote:Why do teenage girls want to wear revealing clothing? Let’s not pretend it is to express their “style.” It is, has, and always will be about the attraction and attention it puts on them. Spin it any way you want but this is all it is.

And so what?

This thread is ridiculous

OP's daughter will be pregnant at 15 or abused, either way, it's because she's a judgemental idiot instead of being a good parent.

Duggars perfect example of disgusting horrible ultra-conservative religious parents.

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Anonymous wrote:I suggest you spend more time thinking about WHO your daughter is than what she wears.

What she wears is a reflection of how she chooses to present who she is to the rest of the world. Surely you know that, PP.

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Yeah - she’s presenting as a freaking teenager. How many adult women are still wearing goth or Madonna wear? IMO if they are who I want them to be inside I don’t care about the outside. This is just the first step and the way that we teach our daughters to minimize who they are and what they say and do because “what will people say?”

DP. “Freaking teenager” is a broad category, just like “freaking adult”. “Cool moms” are exhausting.

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Anonymous wrote:It is unwise of you to limit her because by doing so you invest clothing with more importance than it otherwise would have. You also deny her the chance to connect consequences with choices. If she goes out skimpily dressed she will likely receive lots of unwelcome attention that she will have to decide how to handle. Let that process naturally unfold. Clothing selection for Western teens is a critical part of identity formation.

Ew, let your teen be sexually harrassed so she can figure out her fashion style.

You can alert her to this possibility but do you really think she has not observed the effect that wearing certain styles has on some people? Teens are anything but clueless about fashion. I refuse to turn style into a battleground as my parents did. I went to college and wore exactly what I wanted and decided on my own to shift to a more conservative look. Let your DD grow.

+1 and don't forget that some of us received unwanted attention no matter WHAT we were wearing. Don't you moms remember that? I sure do. Prepare them for that!

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Anonymous wrote:It is unwise of you to limit her because by doing so you invest clothing with more importance than it otherwise would have. You also deny her the chance to connect consequences with choices. If she goes out skimpily dressed she will likely receive lots of unwelcome attention that she will have to decide how to handle. Let that process naturally unfold. Clothing selection for Western teens is a critical part of identity formation.

Ew, let your teen be sexually harrassed so she can figure out her fashion style.

You can alert her to this possibility but do you really think she has not observed the effect that wearing certain styles has on some people? Teens are anything but clueless about fashion. I refuse to turn style into a battleground as my parents did. I went to college and wore exactly what I wanted and decided on my own to shift to a more conservative look. Let your DD grow.

+1 and don't forget that some of us received unwanted attention no matter WHAT we were wearing. Don't you moms remember that? I sure do. Prepare them for that!

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Anonymous wrote:It is unwise of you to limit her because by doing so you invest clothing with more importance than it otherwise would have. You also deny her the chance to connect consequences with choices. If she goes out skimpily dressed she will likely receive lots of unwelcome attention that she will have to decide how to handle. Let that process naturally unfold. Clothing selection for Western teens is a critical part of identity formation.

Ew, let your teen be sexually harrassed so she can figure out her fashion style.

You can alert her to this possibility but do you really think she has not observed the effect that wearing certain styles has on some people? Teens are anything but clueless about fashion. I refuse to turn style into a battleground as my parents did. I went to college and wore exactly what I wanted and decided on my own to shift to a more conservative look. Let your DD grow.

Anonymous wrote:Why do teenage girls want to wear revealing clothing? Let’s not pretend it is to express their “style.” It is, has, and always will be about the attraction and attention it puts on them. Spin it any way you want but this is all it is.

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Anonymous wrote:It is unwise of you to limit her because by doing so you invest clothing with more importance than it otherwise would have. You also deny her the chance to connect consequences with choices. If she goes out skimpily dressed she will likely receive lots of unwelcome attention that she will have to decide how to handle. Let that process naturally unfold. Clothing selection for Western teens is a critical part of identity formation.

Ew, let your teen be sexually harrassed so she can figure out her fashion style.

Anonymous wrote:I find it interesting that many of the responders on this thread are like "yes you should control how your teenage daughter dresses; her autonomy in this regard means nothing." Whereas on the thread about a teen choosing her safety over her reach school, the consensus was "you should trust her judgment." But the latter is a much more momentous decision than what shirt she picks out. A disturbing number of you seem to view the female body as inherently sexual and entirely through the prism of the male view. I hope you're not raising sons.

Anonymous wrote:I don't care. Some teens will be sex traded anyways. If they take away the negative male attention and thus make other kids safer, then society wins. Besides, someone has to take on the job of the stripper too. Better someone else's kid.

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Anonymous wrote:I suggest you spend more time thinking about WHO your daughter is than what she wears.

What she wears is a reflection of how she chooses to present who she is to the rest of the world. Surely you know that, PP.

+1

Yeah - she’s presenting as a freaking teenager. How many adult women are still wearing goth or Madonna wear? IMO if they are who I want them to be inside I don’t care about the outside. This is just the first step and the way that we teach our daughters to minimize who they are and what they say and do because “what will people say?”