Anonymous wrote:How much money would you give to a niece for her wedding? We are very set financially, but do not want sister in law to feel she has to reciprocate equally when our children marry. Just wondering what a nice amount would be.

$1000 for a niece an extended family member!! Shoot my MIL gave us a $500 check for her son’s wedding and no she isn’t struggling financially at all. The kicker is she mailed it a few months but just addressed it to my husband. I still made sure to text her and think her for the wedding gift for US.

Man, this is 1% stuff. I do $150-$200 for weddings.

Anonymous wrote:This is what i just found from Dec of '23
For those that are giving thousnds, Im guessing your last name is Jones. Good grief.

THE ETIQUETTE

She offers these guidelines to wedding-goers wherever they might be: A distant relative or co-worker should give $75-$100; a friend or relative, $100-$125; a closer relative, up to $150. If you are wealthy, are you expected to inflate the gift? No, Cooper says

Omg why did you revive a 3 year old thread? That list didn't exist when this question was originally asked.

We are Indian and planning to give my younger cousin $1k but he is my favorite cousin and I don’t except additional family weddings.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my niece $3000

Very generous. None of my family would expect even $1k and everyone is a doctor, lawyer or software engineer.

It would probably be your incomes are middle class and might have a hard time with that plus other expenses of the wedding or you’re all really cheap.

Expensive weddings have never been a priority. We’d rather spend our money on our children, education, real estate, travel, and retirement savings.

+1. Do none of you have college or expenses to pay for? We have our own home, cars, living expenses, colleges, and a list of things to pay for on our own. Our siblings are retired, traveling, doing big renovations on their homes, buying new furniture, living the high life and throwing elaborate weddings. No way can we afford enormous checks for weddings, nor do we expect them, when our time comes.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my niece $3000

Very generous. None of my family would expect even $1k and everyone is a doctor, lawyer or software engineer.

It would probably be your incomes are middle class and might have a hard time with that plus other expenses of the wedding or you’re all really cheap.

Expensive weddings have never been a priority. We’d rather spend our money on our children, education, real estate, travel, and retirement savings.

Anonymous wrote:We gave my cousin $400 when he got married 2 years ago. 2 adults in NYC, no kids invited (yay!) I have another cousin getting married this summer and I think that will be $500.

Those are good amounts for the same generation cousins. I think the older generation should be given more as a gift.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my niece $3000

Very generous. None of my family would expect even $1k and everyone is a doctor, lawyer or software engineer.

It would probably be your incomes are middle class and might have a hard time with that plus other expenses of the wedding or you’re all really cheap.

Our nieces and nephews are all at the marriage age as well. We do between $250-$300, choosing from their registry

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Anonymous wrote:When I married three years ago, my aunts/uncles gave $100. Wondering if $1,000 is a typo??

Same!!

Depends how you are financially. Most of my aunts and uncles gave between $200-$400 (10 years ago when I was married).

The wealthiest tech uncle (plus his wife and kids who all attended) worth 10s of millions, (probably more) gave me a clearly regifted cheap salad utensil. It was regifted because inside it had a card with his name on it. We are also close with that family so it was just funny more than anything.

I really appreciated meaningful gifts. A relative is a composer so she wrote a short composition for me, my sister went above and beyond and gifted me something sentimental.

My husband and I married not that long ago and the most was $600-750. I don't at all believe this many people give $1000

We gave my cousin $400 when he got married 2 years ago. 2 adults in NYC, no kids invited (yay!) I have another cousin getting married this summer and I think that will be $500.

Anonymous wrote:I gave my niece $3000

Very generous. None of my family would expect even $1k and everyone is a doctor, lawyer or software engineer.

I give $300 for graduations and weddings.

I gave my niece $3000