Anonymous wrote:So, married now for over 15 years. I would imagine it’s because they get the fun and excitement and don’t have to deal with the crap.

Anonymous wrote:I don't really get it -- but people have affairs, get divorced, get remarried all the time.

I don't think the blame is on the affair partner -- but that's an unpopular opinion on this board. I think the blame is on the person who is married.

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Anonymous wrote:I've never slept with a married man, to my knowledge. That said, the sexism and judgement here is hilarious.

If I were to sleep with a married man it would not be because I thought he loved me and I loved the thrill, wouldnt be because of my daddy issues or deep emotional wounds......it would be because I wanted him, physically. I wanted to have sex with him and take him as a lover.

I'd love him going back home to get his ego massaged, his underwear washed, and his mothers christmas present bought from his wife, I have no time for such things.

For some weird reason, you clearly feel you're superior to his wife, who is there only to wash his underwear and buy his mother's christmas presents. You, on the other hand, are a great free spirit...something?

Quotation marks go outside the period.

Not at all superior, just at a juncture where I can choose how I spend my time. I choose not to spend it on spousal duties for a man, so if another woman wanted to do that, awesome, I would not feel superior to her I would feel grateful to her. Anyway, I'm not sleeping with married men, so its a non issue. Was just presenting a different opinion than the "low self esteem, thrill of the danger, believes its LOOOVE, wants your man" narriative so often spun about the "other woman".

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Anonymous wrote:Because the 80/20 dating rule is true. And that top 20% of men are always married.

It's basically this. women can get a much hotter and more accomplished man for an affair than if he was single.

Anonymous wrote:Because the 80/20 dating rule is true. And that top 20% of men are always married.

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Anonymous wrote:One of my good friends is now doing this for the second time. I don’t get it because she could do so much better. She’s pretty, great career, etc. yet she finds herself being the other woman for now a second time. Please help me understand. Finding it more difficult to hear her vent because I just don’t understand it.

Look closely at how her dad abused her in her childhood. That is the clue to why women get into such positions even when they are not sex-trafficed. They consider themselves soiled goods and so don't care if a non-relative male disrespects them. In fact they see it as a form of love.

Anonymous wrote:I never could understand the psychology. I would never want a man that sleeps with another woman every night.

I wouldn't want someone that could only get away certain times and had to create a 'cover story' and we couldn't be seen in public.

ESPECIALLY as a single woman. It's weird.

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Anonymous wrote:Funny that you put her down, but your husbands reaction was to put his penis inside of her

That’s what men do to whores that offer it up for free without even having to spring for dinner or a hotel. Too bad her own husband won’t put her penis in her.

No, that's what YOUR man did to her. Not all men. But you know, brag away about your houses.

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Anonymous wrote:One of my good friends is now doing this for the second time. I don’t get it because she could do so much better. She’s pretty, great career, etc. yet she finds herself being the other woman for now a second time. Please help me understand. Finding it more difficult to hear her vent because I just don’t understand it.

Look closely at how her dad abused her in her childhood. That is the clue to why women get into such positions even when they are not sex-trafficed. They consider themselves soiled goods and so don't care if a non-relative male disrespects them. In fact they see it as a form of love.

Shut up, you pathetic, sexist, wannabe Freud.

Someones triggered! PP is right it's a symptom of low self esteem for some reason, abuse in some form is not far off.

Anyone decent is “triggered” by the misogyny in that post. Grow up for Christ’s sake.

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Anonymous wrote:Low self esteem. Prior trauma.

^This and mental disorders (bipolar, BPD, NPD, histrionic personality disorder, depression, addiction).

Family of origin issues. Cheaters beget cheaters. It’s what they learn is normal.

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Anonymous wrote:I've never slept with a married man, to my knowledge. That said, the sexism and judgement here is hilarious.

If I were to sleep with a married man it would not be because I thought he loved me and I loved the thrill, wouldnt be because of my daddy issues or deep emotional wounds......it would be because I wanted him, physically. I wanted to have sex with him and take him as a lover.

I'd love him going back home to get his ego massaged, his underwear washed, and his mothers christmas present bought from his wife, I have no time for such things.

That's you. There are many that actively look for 'mate poaching'. I don't know why. I mean...they are getting a liar and a cheater, but they want the wife's lifestyle.

My exH's AP was 100% this person. Not only was she my friend, but she complained constantly that her husband didn't make enough money for her to cut back at work. She wanted him to leave his secure government job for private sector SO badly. My exH made at least 4 times hers and she wanted my lifestyle. Not even close to how it worked out for her.

Ex's AP wanted our location in the city and the multiple homes we owned, vacations we took instead of her boring life right outside the beltway with a husband that never wanted to go out with her. Didn't work out to good for her since ex was just looking for a free bang.