Medical condition aside, if your eating habits have a name then it's a no from me. People who are unadventurous in the kitchen are unadventurous everywhere.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it matters. Cook separately. Problem solved.

Seems impractical. How does this work if OP (eventually) has a family?

I'm an omnivore married to a longtime vegetarian. He is lucky that he happens to be a wonderful person, because take it from me: it is SUPER annoying (not always, because I enjoy many vegetarian meals, but often) to have to work around my spouse's diet as well as my kids' pickiness. I got so fed up at one point that I was close to telling him he had to try fish or SOMETHING to expand the slate of meals we could both eat.

Interesting. I’m a vegetarian DW and do most of the cooking. I make tons of vegetarian dishes (that they love) but my DH and kids are total carnivores so I regularly have meat on the side - grilled chicken, sausage, meatballs, etc. I also cook meat dishes for them and adapt it for myself — so if they are eating sloppy joes, I eat a veggie burger, or if they are eating a chicken dish I’ll have some marinated tofu in the fridge that I’ll substitute. It’s been a non-issue, but maybe I’m more flexible than your DH? I will admit I don’t make things like pot roast, rubs, brisket, etc. - it’s always just chicken or ground beef, which they love but might be boring to most - I’m just much better at cooking vegetarian than meat and my family doesn’t much care, thankfully.

I'm a longtime vegetarian and the usual cook. My kids and husband do eat meat. Usually I'll make a vegetarian meal and if my husband wants he will also grill up a steak or cook some fish, and I do grab a rotisserie chicken or turkey meatballs at the store when I grocery shop. If the meat is more the focus of the meal I make myself some tofu or a veggie burger. They all eat vegetarian food and aren't picky, and I will eat pretty much anything as long as it doesn't have meat in it. So it hasn't been hard at all for us.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH does not eat:
any kind of seafood
meat on the bone (non-filet)
blueberries, cherries, cranberries, grapefruit, pineapple
quinoa or oatmeal
eggplant, zucchini, artichokes, squash, pumpkin, capers, olives
garlic
cinnamon, cloves, dill
sweet potatoes
any cheese except cheddaresque types or mozzarella
raisins, prunes, dates
others I'm forgetting

We've been married for 15 years. It's impossible to eat as a family and give the kids the variety necessary for optimum health. He typically cooks meat and potatoes or pasta for himself and them. I cook my vegetarian meals separately but share veggies with the kids.

Did this come out overtime or did you know this before mariage. I;m curious how open people are with their pickiness.

I am this PP. It came out during our first two years together. We met in a big city in Asia and constantly dined out during the courtship phase. Understanding came gradually. I used to love to cook new dishes like shrimp curry, osso bucco, white chocolate mousse, pumpkin soup, etc. that met with tepid approval and the confession that one of the ingredients was on the "TO BE AVOIDED" list.

I would have expected that living in Asia converted your husband into a foodie?

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Anonymous wrote:My DH does not eat:
any kind of seafood
meat on the bone (non-filet)
blueberries, cherries, cranberries, grapefruit, pineapple
quinoa or oatmeal
eggplant, zucchini, artichokes, squash, pumpkin, capers, olives
garlic
cinnamon, cloves, dill
sweet potatoes
any cheese except cheddaresque types or mozzarella
raisins, prunes, dates
others I'm forgetting

We've been married for 15 years. It's impossible to eat as a family and give the kids the variety necessary for optimum health. He typically cooks meat and potatoes or pasta for himself and them. I cook my vegetarian meals separately but share veggies with the kids.

Did this come out overtime or did you know this before mariage. I;m curious how open people are with their pickiness.

I am this PP. It came out during our first two years together. We met in a big city in Asia and constantly dined out during the courtship phase. Understanding came gradually. I used to love to cook new dishes like shrimp curry, osso bucco, white chocolate mousse, pumpkin soup, etc. that met with tepid approval and the confession that one of the ingredients was on the "TO BE AVOIDED" list.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care about mac and cheese, red meat, or fried chicken, but the lack of herbs, spices, and vegetables would be a problem.

I think there is picky and then there is PICKY! This probably won't be a popular opinion but I actually don't even like going out to dinner with people who are extremely picky. I once had experience eating out to dinner with someone who couldn't find ANYTHING she would eat on the menu which had apps, salads, soup, sandwiches, fish, chicken, etc, and ended up ordering a grilled cheese and french fries from the kid's menu. It was weird! Couldn't imagine living with someone like this!

You’re the weird one!

-Not a picky eater

DP, no way. An adult without allergies should be able to find something acceptable on most any menu. To resort to eating a grilled cheese from the kid's menu is really bizarre. I am definitely not the weird one if we go to a restaurant and you sit there eating buttered toast because any of the other 25+ options was not ok.

You’re the weird one if it bothers you.

Yeah, sorry. It's really limiting. All ethnic options are out. Anything "fancy" is out. Call me weird, but I enjoy eating at restaurants with adults who don't require a children's menu.

DP—my family took DD to a French restaurant for a graduation. One of her friends couldn’t find anything on the menu except for Mac and cheese. She ordered it with a boatload of “instructions” to the waiter on what not to add, what to add, how to cook it, .... After the dish comes out, she takes one bite and complains to the waiter. They finally take it back, are very apologetic, and offer to comp her meal. She ate a salad without anything on it for the rest of the meal. It was so embarrassing that she treated the staff that way. I don’t care that she’s picky, but care that her behavior was so rude as our guest.

To me that's the result of poor parenting.Her parents likely let her get away with that crap.

Young women who eat like that have an eating disorder 98% of the time.

+1 I had the same thought. And similarly for the adult men, I would worry, like others have mentioned, that he’s rigid in other areas.

The list of things my BIL won't eat dwarfs the list of things he will eat. He got all excited when he read that Warren Buffet also refuses to eat "anything a 4 year old won't eat."

Apparently, even the world's greatest chefs are forced to make Buffet a hamburger and fries. It's all he will eat.

It's asinine.

I have cooked 3 different dinners in one night for: 1) DH and me 2) Stepson 3) our toddler. I hate that, because my idea of family is sharing the same meal at the table together, but whatever. It's OK.

I am just thinking that dealing with a picky DH or SO would be totally annoying once you also possibly have picky children. The pickiness does not necessarily align among the picky! And then holiday dinners are basically impossible, etc.

Lucky for me, my DH are similar eaters, versatile and adventurous. We bonded over food over fancy restaurant dinners and homecooked meals together when we dated.

That said, I probably could have adjusted to a vegetarian, pescatarian or gluten-free person, so long as they also were not overly picky.

I cannot eat the same as stepson (meat, cheese, bread only) or the toddler (nothing mixed up or spicy).

Having been married to a picky eater for 15 plus years, I would take a hard pass. It is frustrating and you miss out on so much. There is joy in cooking and trying new foods and you don’t have a partner to share that with.

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Anonymous wrote:That level of picky eater would be a dealbreaker for me.

I don’t eat everything—I’m a pescatarian for one—but I like to try new cuisines and couldn’t deal with someone like that.

Is this the new " I'm a vegan" " I'm gluten free" I keep seeing it in people's profiles?

It means they fish, but no other meat. This isn’t hard.

Generally pescatarians are fine eating eggs and dairy like vegetarians.

My DW is pescatarian. It's literally the easiest thing to accommodate. We do fish a few times per week, plus lots of eggs, dairy, and fresh veggies. My diet improved dramatically once I moved in with DW, as I cut out a lot of the crap I was eating. I still make myself a filet steak once per month, have some fried chicken when we go out, eat BBQ at the in-laws house, etc. My DW doesn't care if her veggie dogs are cooked on the same grill as the burgers and hot dogs. She's a very chill pescatarian and I feel much healthier adopting her lifestyle 75% of the time.

That said, I still buy deli meat for sandwiches, a pepperoni pizza when we order in delivery, etc. It's not a big deal at all. Pescatarian is in no way the same as the typical neurotic "picky eater" with a very rigid palate.

No one actually cares that you eat fish, and I think that was originally pps point people put this in their profiles to seem special. And stop posting as your husband it's weird.

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Anonymous wrote:mac and cheese, rice, fried chicken, any red meat

not exactly quality food you are making there maybe he likes more than you think but you are cooking for a 5 year old's apatite.

1. I have not cooked for him. I do not cook for men I'm not in a serious relationship .He listed his preferences during a conversation.

2. Mac and cheese and fried chicken can be low end or high end depending on how it's prepared. There are world class chefs who serve both

3. If you're going to snark at someone make sure you can read, spell, and have all your facts first.

NP. Look, I love mac and cheese and fried chicken, but no matter who prepares it or how much it costs, they’re never going to be elevated dishes. It’s just lots of fat, and deep frying. They’re simple country food, and nothing wrong with that. And delicious!

NP here technically so is foie gras. It's considered low class not because of the nutritional content but because it's a traditional food among AA and the lower socioeconmic groups.

Hard pass

...and I thought my husband not liking sushi was a deal breaker lol! (I found this out after he took me for sushi on Valentine's Day).

Total deal breaker.

Ok: vegetarian, vegan, pescatarian, etc. Or someone with health issues (Crohn’s, celiac, etc), not liking a short list of foods

Not okay: general pickiness, only likes bland foods, won’t try new things.

I would miss the fun of grocery shopping and then cooking together which is a great pandemic activity. It could also affect travel which I adore. For me it's kind of like not wanting to travel places- it's important to me and something I relish so I couldn't date someone who at least was willing to try.

It depends on how much you like food. If you're okay bending to the taste of the picky eater, then it's okay. If not, it gets old and irritating really fast. I'm dating someone who refuses to eat vegetables (except raw peppers and tomatoes), eggs, beans, legumes, most healthy grains (farro, quinoa, barley, etc.), fish and all seafood. He hasn't eaten any of these things since he was a child, if ever, and refuses to try any of them. We eat dinner together most nights, and if I don't make a separate meal for myself, we eat meat and potatoes with basic seasoning, no sauce. Every day. He generally prefers takeout to home cooked food, but likes very basic takeout like pizza or chicken tenders.

I was raised eating everything, love food, and am a good cook, and it is really upsetting to me that I can't enjoy a nice non-meat and potatoes meal with him. I don't want to order a whole side at a restaurant if only I'll be eating it or go to a place where he can only order one thing on the menu or spend time cooking a delicious dish that only I'll eat, so it limits my options too. And like a PP said, cooking two meals is more expensive and much less efficient, so we end up eating meat and potatoes a lot (I add a vegetable). He has good qualities that obviously outweigh this issue, but it's significant and actually impacts me daily.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care about mac and cheese, red meat, or fried chicken, but the lack of herbs, spices, and vegetables would be a problem.

I think there is picky and then there is PICKY! This probably won't be a popular opinion but I actually don't even like going out to dinner with people who are extremely picky. I once had experience eating out to dinner with someone who couldn't find ANYTHING she would eat on the menu which had apps, salads, soup, sandwiches, fish, chicken, etc, and ended up ordering a grilled cheese and french fries from the kid's menu. It was weird! Couldn't imagine living with someone like this!

You’re the weird one!

-Not a picky eater

DP, no way. An adult without allergies should be able to find something acceptable on most any menu. To resort to eating a grilled cheese from the kid's menu is really bizarre. I am definitely not the weird one if we go to a restaurant and you sit there eating buttered toast because any of the other 25+ options was not ok.

You’re the weird one if it bothers you.

Yeah, sorry. It's really limiting. All ethnic options are out. Anything "fancy" is out. Call me weird, but I enjoy eating at restaurants with adults who don't require a children's menu.

DP—my family took DD to a French restaurant for a graduation. One of her friends couldn’t find anything on the menu except for Mac and cheese. She ordered it with a boatload of “instructions” to the waiter on what not to add, what to add, how to cook it, .... After the dish comes out, she takes one bite and complains to the waiter. They finally take it back, are very apologetic, and offer to comp her meal. She ate a salad without anything on it for the rest of the meal. It was so embarrassing that she treated the staff that way. I don’t care that she’s picky, but care that her behavior was so rude as our guest.

To me that's the result of poor parenting.Her parents likely let her get away with that crap.

Young women who eat like that have an eating disorder 98% of the time.