She insists on being the big spoon. That's supposed to be my job dammit!

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Anonymous wrote:I have basically moved to the sofa because of all DH's horrible bedtime habits, making our room uninhabitable. First of all, he leaves his clothes lying around the room, piles his dirty tissues pulled out of his pockets on his dresser. The absolute worst, however, is the stench he brings to bed everynight. It starts with him coming into the room, patting the back of his head as he rubs in his nightly dose of Rogaine. The ghastly smell of rogaine mixing with the waft of crap that he just spent the previous 30 minutes laying down in the bathroom hangs in the air for a good 30 minutes. I just can't take it, so I wind up back downstairs. Then of course, there's the stain on the upholstered headboard from where he then leans his rogaine-covered head.

Girl, move into another bedroom or move him. Or make your office a bedroom or something. DH and I have slept in separate rooms for years and it’s the healthiest thing we’ve ever done. Everyone is much happier when they get a comfortable night of sleep.

This is terrible, I'm sorry OP. My DH is losing his hair, but it doesn't bother me at all and I'm now very glad he doesn't seem to care either.

Yes it’s very terrible getting restful sleep and not resenting DH. How do we live like this! 🙄

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Is a slob and seems to spread disorganization wherever he goes -- possibly due to ADHD which he doesn't care to address.

Has anxiety issues which make him very self-centered -- everything is about his problems, his issues.

Hey, PP-- If you see this...

I have ADHD and a lot of my anxiety is actually the emotional dysregulation that comes with ADHD. Although yoga/meditation/exercise helps, I found that no anti-anxiety medication worked for me (short of something like Xanax). But when I upped my Vyvanse (for ADHD) prescription, it helped SO MUCH. Basically w/ADHD I'm overwhelmed by emotions and sensory input and can't prioritize it all-- obviously this is also true of tasks, which is the executive dysfunction part. I HATED how, no matter what I tried, I sometimes could not help but overwhelm my family with my anxiety and obsessing about my problems, melting down under pressure, etc. Not all the time, but enough. I didn't/don't want to be like this! The increase in meds-- to just the usual starting dose, actually-- helped SO SO MUCH.

Anyway. I'd bet good money that you're right-- your DH has ADHD and needs treatment.

Anonymous wrote:Blows his nose extremely loudly in an elephant-like manner. He has allergies, so on his bad days, it's VERY irritating to hear this every few minutes.

Goes off on monologues for 10+ minutes on random obscure topics. I tend to zone out at minute 3. I've told him about this and asked him to be cognizant about making it a dialogue, but he insists that he is just passionate about things and doesn't realize he's doing it.

Wears the same pants for days, sometimes even a week on end until I have to literally beg him to put them in the laundry.

Sometimes does not listen well/zones out. I'll say something about a topic, and 3 minutes later he'll make the same remark like I haven't just said it.

But he's a great guy otherwise so I love him anyway.

Sounds like autism spectrum/ADHD

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Anonymous wrote:I have basically moved to the sofa because of all DH's horrible bedtime habits, making our room uninhabitable. First of all, he leaves his clothes lying around the room, piles his dirty tissues pulled out of his pockets on his dresser. The absolute worst, however, is the stench he brings to bed everynight. It starts with him coming into the room, patting the back of his head as he rubs in his nightly dose of Rogaine. The ghastly smell of rogaine mixing with the waft of crap that he just spent the previous 30 minutes laying down in the bathroom hangs in the air for a good 30 minutes. I just can't take it, so I wind up back downstairs. Then of course, there's the stain on the upholstered headboard from where he then leans his rogaine-covered head.

Girl, move into another bedroom or move him. Or make your office a bedroom or something. DH and I have slept in separate rooms for years and it’s the healthiest thing we’ve ever done. Everyone is much happier when they get a comfortable night of sleep.

This is terrible, I'm sorry OP. My DH is losing his hair, but it doesn't bother me at all and I'm now very glad he doesn't seem to care either.

Anonymous wrote:I have basically moved to the sofa because of all DH's horrible bedtime habits, making our room uninhabitable. First of all, he leaves his clothes lying around the room, piles his dirty tissues pulled out of his pockets on his dresser. The absolute worst, however, is the stench he brings to bed everynight. It starts with him coming into the room, patting the back of his head as he rubs in his nightly dose of Rogaine. The ghastly smell of rogaine mixing with the waft of crap that he just spent the previous 30 minutes laying down in the bathroom hangs in the air for a good 30 minutes. I just can't take it, so I wind up back downstairs. Then of course, there's the stain on the upholstered headboard from where he then leans his rogaine-covered head.

Girl, move into another bedroom or move him. Or make your office a bedroom or something. DH and I have slept in separate rooms for years and it’s the healthiest thing we’ve ever done. Everyone is much happier when they get a comfortable night of sleep.