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Anonymous wrote:"I don’t think children should be responsible for the emotions for adults" is not saying treat people disrespectfully. It also doesn't say what OP tells her kids. You made a HUGE jump.

You missed the post.

No, I did not.

Clearly you did. The OP said she tells her children to say that they are not responsible for how another feels.

Where?

The feeling of another adult is not a consequence that should be meaningful to the child. I've taught my children early on to respond to things like that with "I'm not responsible for what you feel." And they aren't.

Anonymous wrote:Chiming in to say we don't know the specific reason teacher said "I feel sad." I doubt it was from miscoloring a donkey. When my DS's (5) very effective speech therapist says "look at my face. How do you think I am feeling right now. Why?" it is because DS is at his worst behavior, not because he made a mistake in his work.

It is a technique she has used over a few years and seeing it in Zoom never makes me question it or feel uncomfortable FWIW.
-NP

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I don’t think children should be responsible for the emotions for adults" is not saying treat people disrespectfully. It also doesn't say what OP tells her kids. You made a HUGE jump.

You missed the post.

No, I did not.

Clearly you did. The OP said she tells her children to say that they are not responsible for how another feels.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I don’t think children should be responsible for the emotions for adults" is not saying treat people disrespectfully. It also doesn't say what OP tells her kids. You made a HUGE jump.

You missed the post.

No, I did not.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I don’t think children should be responsible for the emotions for adults" is not saying treat people disrespectfully. It also doesn't say what OP tells her kids. You made a HUGE jump.

You missed the post.

Anonymous wrote:"I don’t think children should be responsible for the emotions for adults" is not saying treat people disrespectfully. It also doesn't say what OP tells her kids. You made a HUGE jump.

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Anonymous wrote:Children are NOT responsible for adult's feelings. My children are told it's unkind to call names but a child shouldnn't be on tiptoes hoping someone doesn't get their feelings hurt. That's abuse. The original post does not state anything you infer. Get a grip!

News flash - even children are capable of hurting the feelings of others.

Anonymous wrote:Children are NOT responsible for adult's feelings. My children are told it's unkind to call names but a child shouldnn't be on tiptoes hoping someone doesn't get their feelings hurt. That's abuse. The original post does not state anything you infer. Get a grip!

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Anonymous wrote:“I don’t think children should be responsible for the emotions for adults” Really? The teacher is communicating to her students in words that children understand. Children need to understand that their actions have consequences. Newsflash, OP, people’s actions do have consequences and do affect how how others feel. You are a piece of work. Please, please, please bring this example to your Principal and ask for a new teacher....

The feeling of another adult is not a consequence that should be meaningful to the child. I've taught my children early on to respond to things like that with "I'm not responsible for what you feel." And they aren't.

This is an appalling attitude both to have and to pass onto your children. It is this kind of attitude that leads to individuals being self-absorbed, unempathetic, close-minded, antisocial people who care nothing about their families, neighbors, community, or humankind as a whole.

If your kid says to an adult, "You are fat and ugly," and the adult responds, "Those words hurt my feelings," you actually taught your children to say, "I'm not responsible for what you feel"?

If your kid makes a racist or discriminatory comment, and the adult tells your kid that the comment is not appropriate and is hurtful, you'd encourage your child to reapond, "I'm not responsible for what you feel"?

If your kid is kind towards another person and that person says, "Thank you! That made me feel happy that you showed kindness, " you taught your kid to answer, "I'm not responsible for what you feel"?

If your kid does a good job on something and his or her teacher/coach/religious leader says, "I am so proud of you," you encourage your child to respond,
"I'm not responsible for what you feel"?

OP is making an error in parenting that will impact the kind of person her child becomes. And she is more concerned about a mediocre teacher.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“I don’t think children should be responsible for the emotions for adults” Really? The teacher is communicating to her students in words that children understand. Children need to understand that their actions have consequences. Newsflash, OP, people’s actions do have consequences and do affect how how others feel. You are a piece of work. Please, please, please bring this example to your Principal and ask for a new teacher....

The feeling of another adult is not a consequence that should be meaningful to the child. I've taught my children early on to respond to things like that with "I'm not responsible for what you feel." And they aren't.

This is an appalling attitude both to have and to pass onto your children. It is this kind of attitude that leads to individuals being self-absorbed, unempathetic, close-minded, antisocial people who care nothing about their families, neighbors, community, or humankind as a whole.

If your kid says to an adult, "You are fat and ugly," and the adult responds, "Those words hurt my feelings," you actually taught your children to say, "I'm not responsible for what you feel"?

If your kid makes a racist or discriminatory comment, and the adult tells your kid that the comment is not appropriate and is hurtful, you'd encourage your child to reapond, "I'm not responsible for what you feel"?

If your kid is kind towards another person and that person says, "Thank you! That made me feel happy that you showed kindness, " you taught your kid to answer, "I'm not responsible for what you feel"?

If your kid does a good job on something and his or her teacher/coach/religious leader says, "I am so proud of you," you encourage your child to respond,
"I'm not responsible for what you feel"?

OP is making an error in parenting that will impact the kind of person her child becomes. And she is more concerned about a mediocre teacher.

+1

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