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Anonymous wrote:My husband wanted me to be skinny and smart. I'm still skinny after a bunch of kids and we are pretty happy so I guess it worked.

So he'd turf you out if you gained some weight? Ah, true love

He's a great guy- I'm not about to gain weight to find out!

Doesn't sound great.
And since when is "skinny" attractive? Fit or thin yes but skinny no.

Skinny is attractive. Thin is not attractive.

- DP

No way. Skinny is thin on overdrive.

Realistically in marriage one should try to make the other happy physically. Your wife likes a beard? Grow it. Your husband wants you to be slim? Prioritize losing weight. No biggie.

So how many men on DCUM need to head to the gym RIGHT now by this logic?

they should and they'd have happier marriages if they did if this is something their wife is attracted to.

yeah i don't really understand what you're fighting over here. i think people like to stay attractive to and for their spouses generally, right? maybe the word "skinny" was one that you didn't like - i understand! - but the general idea that your mate enjoys what you look like, and you'd like them to continue doing so, is pretty normal, right? i don't think it means your relationship isn't solid or is contingent?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband wanted me to be skinny and smart. I'm still skinny after a bunch of kids and we are pretty happy so I guess it worked.

So he'd turf you out if you gained some weight? Ah, true love

He's a great guy- I'm not about to gain weight to find out!

Doesn't sound great.
And since when is "skinny" attractive? Fit or thin yes but skinny no.

Skinny is attractive. Thin is not attractive.

- DP

No way. Skinny is thin on overdrive.

Realistically in marriage one should try to make the other happy physically. Your wife likes a beard? Grow it. Your husband wants you to be slim? Prioritize losing weight. No biggie.

So how many men on DCUM need to head to the gym RIGHT now by this logic?

they should and they'd have happier marriages if they did if this is something their wife is attracted to.

My ex always complained and said I should never go over a size 6. As long as I knew him he had a fat gut, fat neck, and little energy or stamina. I didn't judge him for it, but I should have. I have always exercised, not consistently but generally with good dietary habits.

My new partner is very fit, very attractive, healthy eater, healthy emotionally, good cook and beautiful smile. While I have never been overweight, I do have fitness goals - he is fully accepting of me if I never meet them, but also very encouraging in maintaining a life style to support longevity, not simply for looks. He isn't preachy, and he practices what I value in principle.

Loving someone really is about finding joy in giving a person what they need to be better. It is nice when it is effortless.

Anonymous wrote:^ why start a life together with somebody’s massive debt?!?!!! +1

I am now divorced, but started out with more money, better credit, and a higher salary than my ex-husband. His credit was horrible, and left us with a high interest mortgage rate during a very competitive period. His car financing was under my name, with nearly 1% interest for the entirety of the loan. In the past I made poor decisions with credit, so I did not hold a low score against him. I did not think - wow his credit sucks, no way I will be with him. Maybe I should have.

His credit eventually repaired, never quite reaching my level - but then shortly after we began divorce, and he tried to destroy any financial power I could have in the process out of anger/fear. Thankfully, I have a longer good standing history and reputation that worked out favorably, despite his attempts. As someone that never put money or prestige first as a "superficial" reason to be with someone, I also learned a hard lesson of the other extreme: men who under accomplish in life, are insecure, or use women not only as a trophy but a booster shot in their financial portfolio. Unfortunately, he hasn't been able to maintain what I helped him build. My worth has continued to grow, in more ways than one. I have no hard feelings, but I don't make excuses for him (or men like him) anymore. SES is an indicator, like everything else. The true characteristic of any person requires very intense vetting and a strong sense of morality to guide you.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband wanted me to be skinny and smart. I'm still skinny after a bunch of kids and we are pretty happy so I guess it worked.

So he'd turf you out if you gained some weight? Ah, true love

He's a great guy- I'm not about to gain weight to find out!

Doesn't sound great.
And since when is "skinny" attractive? Fit or thin yes but skinny no.

Skinny is attractive. Thin is not attractive.

- DP

No way. Skinny is thin on overdrive.

Realistically in marriage one should try to make the other happy physically. Your wife likes a beard? Grow it. Your husband wants you to be slim? Prioritize losing weight. No biggie.

So how many men on DCUM need to head to the gym RIGHT now by this logic?

they should and they'd have happier marriages if they did if this is something their wife is attracted to.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband wanted me to be skinny and smart. I'm still skinny after a bunch of kids and we are pretty happy so I guess it worked.

So he'd turf you out if you gained some weight? Ah, true love

He's a great guy- I'm not about to gain weight to find out!

Doesn't sound great.
And since when is "skinny" attractive? Fit or thin yes but skinny no.

Skinny is attractive. Thin is not attractive.

- DP

No way. Skinny is thin on overdrive.

Realistically in marriage one should try to make the other happy physically. Your wife likes a beard? Grow it. Your husband wants you to be slim? Prioritize losing weight. No biggie.

So how many men on DCUM need to head to the gym RIGHT now by this logic?