Anonymous
Post 12/11/2020 00:49     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
OP, I'm sorry, I understand how this must sting and make you feel awkward and rejected. But I cannot stop laughing. What a bizarre, socially inept, rude, narcissistic reply. Who says things like that??

This is totally not about you at all. You sound lovely and nice and normal. The reply you got was heinously rude and awkward. I would try to laugh it off and ignore this person. What a wacko.
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2020 00:32     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think she was just being honest, which should be acceptable. She wasn't being rude or mean because she didn't make up a fake excuse.

You said you used to hang out once per month in a large group- did you ever hand out at each other's house- just your family and theirs? Not part of a "large group?" If she had never invited just you/your family over their house then I would say you have always just been friendly acquaintances.

If your children are friends don't burn bridges. I would replying with I understand and I hope to see them again once soccer starts and things normalize (or whatever it is your kids have in common)


She said they did. That's what makes it so weird.


I believe she said they hung out in large groups, several families together
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2020 00:18     Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
Lol wow. That is one awkward response. I agree with if those who said don’t respond. Honestly it doesn’t deserve a response. Who says things like “we’re not in the market for new friends.” Um. Ok.

Don’t respond.
Anonymous
Post 12/11/2020 00:03     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
I would just not reply.

I know a woman who likes to tell everyone and anyone that she doesn’t need or want more friends. It’s obnoxious. I only spent time with her because our kids were friends; my son no longer likes her kids...go figure. I wonder if we know the same person.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2020 23:58     Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Send her the broken heart emoji-lol


Lol. This is perfect. And then block her.


Oh I missed this. So funny. Especially if she read it as earnest.

Not responding is the kindest thing to do for yourself. Hoping sleeping on it gives you relief.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2020 23:52     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
My favorite replies:

A) Bless your heart.

B) Oh, dear. I wasn’t marketing myself. FFS. Take care.”

C) Are you for real RN?

D) wow

I like to just let an unpunctuated wow hang off her, awkwardly, like a tile comet
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2020 23:46     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:I think she was just being honest, which should be acceptable. She wasn't being rude or mean because she didn't make up a fake excuse.

You said you used to hang out once per month in a large group- did you ever hand out at each other's house- just your family and theirs? Not part of a "large group?" If she had never invited just you/your family over their house then I would say you have always just been friendly acquaintances.

If your children are friends don't burn bridges. I would replying with I understand and I hope to see them again once soccer starts and things normalize (or whatever it is your kids have in common)


She said they did. That's what makes it so weird.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2020 23:42     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:I think she was just being honest, which should be acceptable. She wasn't being rude or mean because she didn't make up a fake excuse.

You said you used to hang out once per month in a large group- did you ever hand out at each other's house- just your family and theirs? Not part of a "large group?" If she had never invited just you/your family over their house then I would say you have always just been friendly acquaintances.

If your children are friends don't burn bridges. I would replying with I understand and I hope to see them again once soccer starts and things normalize (or whatever it is your kids have in common)


Ok you don’t have to be THAT honest in social situations. Totally tactless.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2020 23:41     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
I think she was just being honest, which should be acceptable. She wasn't being rude or mean because she didn't make up a fake excuse.

You said you used to hang out once per month in a large group- did you ever hand out at each other's house- just your family and theirs? Not part of a "large group?" If she had never invited just you/your family over their house then I would say you have always just been friendly acquaintances.

If your children are friends don't burn bridges. I would replying with I understand and I hope to see them again once soccer starts and things normalize (or whatever it is your kids have in common)
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2020 23:35     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, I’ll tell you exactly what to do. First, put your big girl pants on and make peace with the fact that you are not everyone’s cup of tea. Thank God because can you even imagine if everyone wanted to be friends with everyone?! Second, you absolutely must reply. Do not give her the satisfaction of thinking she hurt your feelings. You reply “Haha totally get it! Hope you you guys are safe and well!” Third, you move on...for real. Not just stewing about it. The pandemic is playing mind tricks on all of us. She doesn’t matter so stop giving her space in your brain. K?


Don't do this- by responding, you're making this woman think that her rude text is normal and socially acceptable.


NP +1

Imagine what she'll send to the next person.

Just ignore it, OP. Sounds like the issue is with her, not you.

Just keep in mind that she might be really struggling. It's a hard time for a lot of us. The pandemic is bad enough, but adding in the lockdown is brutal. A lot of marriages and families are falling apart right now.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2020 23:32     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:I’d send her some kind of whacko gif, passive aggressive or over the top search terms with a wink and thumbs up. Make it as awkward as possible.


This made me laugh out loud!!
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2020 23:30     Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:Hanging out once a month is not often. It sounds like you need to just let it go. You weren't friends.


Seriously, what? You hang out with people once a month who are not your friends?

You have people over to dinner at your house who are not your friends?

This is utterly bizarre.

OP, you have nothing to be embarrassed about. No one has dinners over people’s houses and invites them to their houses and hangs out once a month with people who are not their friends. There is something very wrong with them.

One be tempted to say, “Oh. I was under the impression that we WERE friends. Awkward!”

And let her stew. She’s 100% the effed up one.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2020 23:24     Subject: Re:Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:Send her the broken heart emoji-lol


Lol. This is perfect. And then block her.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2020 23:24     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
Anonymous wrote:OP, I’ll tell you exactly what to do. First, put your big girl pants on and make peace with the fact that you are not everyone’s cup of tea. Thank God because can you even imagine if everyone wanted to be friends with everyone?! Second, you absolutely must reply. Do not give her the satisfaction of thinking she hurt your feelings. You reply “Haha totally get it! Hope you you guys are safe and well!” Third, you move on...for real. Not just stewing about it. The pandemic is playing mind tricks on all of us. She doesn’t matter so stop giving her space in your brain. K?


Don't do this- by responding, you're making this woman think that her rude text is normal and socially acceptable.
Anonymous
Post 12/10/2020 23:23     Subject: Um, this is so awkward.
It's so over the top obnoxious and presumptuous that I would have laughed. Don't text back- ignore it, there is really no response.