Anonymous wrote:People who don't have children who are defiant, stubborn, and have very high IQs have no idea how difficult it can be to parent those children. My kid is unbelievably difficult, but he is also extremely smart and has a wicked sense of humor. AND he hits me, screams at me, and defies me several times every day. He is always punished for the behavior, but it continues. He also tells me how much he loves me and is extremely polite to strangers and helps younger kids and his teachers adore him. So, he may be a brat at times, but anyone who suggests I'm not trying to raise him properly can F off.

Dear mother: You have a huge problem with a child who at a very, very young age already knows how to use manipulation as an art. This is a huge RED flag. Look at it and get him to a child psychologist as fast as you can. You may tell the rest of us to F off but you aren't going to get away with telling schoool officials, police, and court, and prison officials to F off.

Anonymous wrote:I blame those weirdo Bradley methoders/attachment parenting people. Ive never known a single one of them to either be stable or have well behaved kid. "Annie--can you please tell mommy what is upsetting you?"--Ummm---NO. Annie cant tell you because a) Annie barely speaks and b) Annie cant put words to her emotions. She's not even two years old. Dont try to rationalize with her. It's DUMB.

Helpful opinion delivered in a helpful way. You are full of win.

Anonymous wrote:[I think a good guideline is to deal with your own kids and work on your own parenting. Because you really never know what's going on in someone else's home/mind/kid's body.

I totally agree with this (and I would just add that now that my child is older I feel that any discipline for bad behavior can generally wait until we are home).


8:47 I liked your post better with a 24 year old

Anonymous wrote:Do people really believe that their kids are so misbehaved because of their high IQ's? Really? That's a cop out.

We need to throw that excuse, along with "spirited child," out of the window. Are some kids more difficult to civilize than others? You bet. If you get one of those kids do you get to twist it into a plus (he's smart!) or get out of dealing with it (he's spirited!)? No.

There's a reason that there are more out of control kids now than when we were growing up, and it isn't that kids are getting smarter.

100% agreed. High IQ does NOT = bad behavior. There are definitely kids that are difficult but using a high IQ as excuse is lame. I have met plenty of well behaved, polite children who have high IQs.

previous poster here...I meant 24 month old, not 24 year old...ha!

I want to be firm now to prevent the 27-year-old basement-dwelling car-smashing mooch alluded to earlier. But I have a hard time knowing what to expect of my 24 year old. When do I lay down a consequence? When do I ignore behavior? And being consistent with my husband is even harder. For example, I'll say "It's time to get dressed. Do you want the blue or the orange shirt?" He'll say no and run away. I will then chase him and put on his shirt myself. But when should he be able to get dressed himself? Knowing what he should be able to do when is the hardest part. I do my best, however, to be consistent and to follow up my words with action, even if that means we leave the playground or take a 5-min break from lunch.

How do you figure out what a normally developing child should be able to do at particular ages?

Anonymous wrote:too many parents today want their children to be friends. Parents are not friends, you are there to guide, teach, discipline--teach them there are consequences for their actions. I heard a boy call his mother a "f...ing bithh." Neither she nor her husband did anything.

Ok I'm not saying this is ALWAYS the case, but I've now seen enough to know better than to just judge parents like this as idiots. Because I've seen kids with profound autism, kids with tourette's, etc. who act out in ways like this and previous posts but the discipline for these kids is way different because it's not necessarily just bad behavior. I think a good guideline is to deal with your own kids and work on your own parenting. Because you really never know what's going on in someone else's home/mind/kid's body.

7:51 - I could not have said it better myself. These people are delusional.

Stop being so lazy and find the right way to parent your kid, will you.

Anonymous wrote:I blame those weirdo Bradley methoders/attachment parenting people. Ive never known a single one of them to either be stable or have well behaved kid. "Annie--can you please tell mommy what is upsetting you?"--Ummm---NO. Annie cant tell you because a) Annie barely speaks and b) Annie cant put words to her emotions. She's not even two years old. Dont try to rationalize with her. It's DUMB.

heyyy, I used bradley and some of attachment parenting is what's natural for me! lol

however, i'm pretty old school. i actually believe in spanking! "because i said so" is a good enough explanation from me. i want my kids to fear me embarrassing them if they misbehave in public the way i feared my parents.

Anonymous wrote:I blame those weirdo Bradley methoders/attachment parenting people. Ive never known a single one of them to either be stable or have well behaved kid. "Annie--can you please tell mommy what is upsetting you?"--Ummm---NO. Annie cant tell you because a) Annie barely speaks and b) Annie cant put words to her emotions. She's not even two years old. Dont try to rationalize with her. It's DUMB.

By the way this is when Annie hasn't slept a wink in days because "she just wasn't tired and we try to not force sleep on them. They know what they want".

Anonymous wrote:I blame those weirdo Bradley methoders/attachment parenting people. Ive never known a single one of them to either be stable or have well behaved kid. "Annie--can you please tell mommy what is upsetting you?"--Ummm---NO. Annie cant tell you because a) Annie barely speaks and b) Annie cant put words to her emotions. She's not even two years old. Dont try to rationalize with her. It's DUMB.

And to add---"We are seeing a therapist because we never have sex.". "oh you dont? That sucks." "yeah. We have too many kids in our bed and because DH needs to sleep, he sleeps on the top bunk of the kids room". Umm---ill save you some therapy. Get the kids out of the bed and your husband back in your bedroom and maybe then, you will save some money and start having sex.

I blame those weirdo Bradley methoders/attachment parenting people. Ive never known a single one of them to either be stable or have well behaved kid. "Annie--can you please tell mommy what is upsetting you?"--Ummm---NO. Annie cant tell you because a) Annie barely speaks and b) Annie cant put words to her emotions. She's not even two years old. Dont try to rationalize with her. It's DUMB.

"I do the hard work now in hopes that he's not going to be a brilliant, failure-to-launch, pot smoking gamer at 27 who wrecks my car because I won't let him live in the basement."
This is the funniest thing I've read all day. Seriously, thanks for posting. And oh so true...

too many parents today want their children to be friends. Parents are not friends, you are there to guide, teach, discipline--teach them there are consequences for their actions. I heard a boy call his mother a "f...ing bithh." Neither she nor her husband did anything.

Who are you even talking to? And why are you reviving a post from months and months ago?