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Anonymous wrote:Most beautiful women really are narcissistic. They spend too much time worrying about the way they look to be taken seriously, unless their profession is based on looks. Have you listened to actresses when they don't have scripts to read or a director? They sound so stupid. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Some women make clothes look good, but they aren't good looking themselves.

I would argue that OP is far more narcissistic than any beautiful woman I’ve known. She’s so concerned with her own looks that she hates women she doesn’t even know solely because they are prettier than her. That’s about as intense an obsession with her own appearance as possible.

+1 billion! Who literally judges a book by its cover? Miserable people with shallow lives.

Anonymous wrote:I would rather be born with money than good looks. And also a magnetic personality.

Same!

Anyone else voted class beauty and such and nothing to show for it?

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Anonymous wrote:It's ridiculous. We're not like Nicola Peltz. She's gorgeous AND loaded.

Or Julia Louis Dreyfus, who is gorgeous and aged well, inherited billions, made millions on her own, is smart and has perfect kids and husband. And yet is perfectly likable.

I adore her but gorgeous?

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Anonymous wrote:You need to befriend these gorgeous women and reap the fringe benefits.

Exactly. Many have low self esteem or other deep rooted problems. They often are needy and looking for a supportive friend.

I'm a pretty girl, but not beautiful and was friends to one. She was a mess and sadly against all good advice she did the opposite. Wasted a lot of good years with losers, and now doesn't have any kids to show for it. Which she now regrets. Seriously OP don't hate on them, or envy them. Look at Kim K. with that loser she still won't eject, very typical.

I think plastic surgery “pretty” is a bit different than “actual pretty”, though - no?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, let me tell you a secret which I discovered on DCUM. As the beautiful women get older and "lose their looks," they start to notice it and they feel the loss. I see people talking about that on DCUM pretty regularly and that's hard for them. But people like us who weren't beautiful when we were young, hey, it's no big deal and I'm enjoying the heck out of being old. It's liberating.

I understand that that makes no difference to you now but chances are it will down the road. In the meantime, live your life now and forget about them.

I am 58 and good looking!!! LASIK, Invisalign, skin cream and staying in shape

Mostly even just genes!

Anonymous wrote:I am an average-to-below average looking woman. All my life I have seen the privilege afforded to girls and women who were better looking than I. They were treated better. Everyone wanted to befriend them. On the dating market, they had their pick of the best men. They didn't even have to work and could settle down with a rich guy. If they choose to work, they get hired and promoted faster than their more average looking peers.

So yes, I hate beautiful women.

Sure! After all, they chose it and put you down by choosing their own beauty. Do you understand how stupid it would sound if you said “I hate naturally athletic women”, “I hate women born with a high IQ”, etc.? It’s nobody’s choice, my poor put-upon darling.

As a “beautiful woman” who has dealt with some shit, I guess I should “hate” women who weren’t molested as children, women who have never been raped, women who haven’t had to deal with anxiety, women whose parents are still married and whose mothers haven’t attempted suicide, and women who haven’t randomly been hated by other women. Right? No, that’s insane and so is your stance!

I’m sure that thousands upon thousands of women would love to trade places with you. Don’t discount your privilege/blessings just because you’d prefer another set.

I used to think just like you when I was younger, in my then twenties or so.

But now at fifty one, I have plenty more life experience under my belt and can honestly admit that blessings come in all shapes + sizes.

Beauty really is fleeting.
I am reminded of this fact anytime I go on social media & see current photos of my former classmates.
Some of the stunning, gorgeous girls I envied in high school are now seemingly unrecognizable.

Anonymous wrote:Health is more important than beauty. I always believed that when you are young, physical beauty is given, and when you are old, physical beauty is earned. You will see many of the women you considered beautiful and privileged in their 20s have their looks fade into their 40s, or they get ridiculous plastic surgery. Those who hold up their looks have to earn it with proper lifestyles. An "average" woman by genetics can stand out from others over 40 if she is physically fit, takes good care of her skin, dresses well, gets enough sleep.

This is what I tell myself, anyway. In my 20s I felt like I was nothing special. Not ugly, but I hated my pale skin and dull eye color and lack of prominent cheekbones and being short. Just kind of plain and mousy looking. I made up for it by staying in shape, having a good skin regimen, and getting beauty sleep. Paid off in dividends now that I'm 40.

Yes health is of course the most important thing.

But the idea that beauty is earned in older women? No- you can not let yourself go- continue dressing well, staying slender, etc but beautiful women do these things too- probably more than other women as they age!

I have always turned heads and gotten attention for my looks- I’m 40 now, and I work hard to stay attractive. I still get a lot of attention but being young and beautiful is magical. The power a beautiful woman has is real, and it fades. But it doesn’t die.

I wish I were a perfect 10, I know that I’m lucky I’m even if I’m an 8 now, & unattractive women are I’m sure experience the world differently in some ways.
Point being, having good skincare will not transform you. But focus on your strengths- I’ve lost my entire family, I have struggled with anxiety and depression... no need to hate ANYONE, just see reality and focus on yourself not other women.

OP don't let hate or jealousy ruin your life. I am average, never a head turner and I'm fine with that.

There was a stunner at work and to tell you the truth I ended up feeling a little sorry for her. ALL the guys wanted to sleep with her but it was hard to tell if they actually liked her, most appeared to only be interested in getting her into bed. She was watched all the time, everything she did. Everything she wore or what she did was scrutinized. I just remembered thinking it would be awful being on display all the time, plus the stalkers she had, not knowing if a guy was genuine. Her love life was the subject of so much gossip. Of course doors opened for her at work. She was given all the courses, all the benefits all the time and took it. It never helped her get anywhere substantial but did create a ripple of resentment at work where other people should have been offered opportunities and weren't. I wasn't one who cared. She was nice but I wouldn't trade places with her. To me it all seemed like a lot of pressure to always look good or a certain way.

I was happy to just live my life as I wanted with no scrutiny, it's peaceful.

As Loretta Young on said, " beauty opens the door and then you're on your own.,,"

I never had a problem attracting handsome, career driven men but when I was about 27 or so I realized many didn’t care about my intelligence or ambition. It was all about my looks. They tended to have big egos and not much more. I met a very normal guy through work who I really liked but he never asked me out so I asked him out. Later he said he never asked me out because he figured I was out of his league. We have been happily married a very long time and we have two beautiful adult daughters and I believe I did a good job coaching them about men because they both married very nice normal guys.

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Anonymous wrote:My buddy who was a single Big 4 Partner with an MBA in a soho loft he owned outright and drive a Porsche in his 20s and 30s dated zero career women.

He ended up marrying at 38 to a former stripper (heart of gold) five foot nine blonde.

His condition that the day they get engaged she quit her retail job to plan wedding and once married to be a SAHM and never work. She does not cook or clean. But “manages that”

He now is pushing 60 he left big 4 cashed out IPO money ave they live on the beach in Malibu Ca and he has three picture perfect kids. Her good looks were passed on.

I hope her loose morals were not passed on. Do the kids know mom was a stripper?

She actually does not have loose morals. She was a stripper at Pure Platium in Florida a super high end club. She quit that at 21 she has a college degree. The high end clubs like Scores, those girls just make bank!!! He tells everyone!! Ironically all the men are jealous. MD, Lawyer or ex stripper wife? Most men pick ex stripper

I am below average too and I thank my lucky stars that I was never objectified, harassed, groped, or worse.

This is just sad, OP. I am not a pretty woman, never have been. Never will be. I have pretty women in my life, they're lives aren't miserable and they are still pretty well into advanced age.

Hating people does nothing positive for you, carrying that around actually negatively impacts your life.

Put that energy into being the best version of your self.

I am rooting for you OP. Funny not funny story. I think of myself as fairly average but my friends all paired up on college and got married or lifed with their partner 10 years and got married. I had the worst time dating and meeting someone. I remember once a very good friend looked at me and said: you are good looking such that you have to deal with the jerks and a**holes whereas I met my dorky guy who was fine with me being overweight and not traditionally pretty.

So I was one of the last ones married but I am happy.