Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Sooo... you’re going to waste more time on him? Girl, he’s not going to propose for YEARS!!!! And that’s IF he proposes at all!

You need to move on with your life NOW. You don’t have years to waste if you’re in your 30’s and you want marriage and kids. MOVE ON. Next time, don’t date anyone for more than 6 months without commitment. Timeline should be maximum of 1year to get engaged.

I’ll let you in on a secret, living well is the best revenge.

What? People date longer than a year without getting engaged ALL the time. Where'd you come up with this?

What, to second PP. I am 100% with first PP. This dude is never marrying her. She needs to move on. I understand how so many women stay in bad relationships because they don't have the confidence to believe they can do better AND the guy knows it and uses that against them.

I get that you're angry OP, but you really have to see that you have to move on. What is the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.

It's been 10 days... update OP?

Anonymous wrote:THa plan just hurts you in the long run. Be pleasant, be sweet, but be conniving. plan out the move out, what you're going ot divide, etc, and then just do it.

you should be done with the fool - not dragging it out.

They don't even live together, so she should just be DONE.

OP - please tell us you broke up with him.

He’s never going to ask you to marry him. That’s the major flaw in your revenge plan. Quit wasting your own time. You’re only hurting yourself.

THa plan just hurts you in the long run. Be pleasant, be sweet, but be conniving. plan out the move out, what you're going ot divide, etc, and then just do it.

you should be done with the fool - not dragging it out.

Why is everyone going on about moving? They don’t even live together, probably so he can hook up with guys.

You're just wasting time. He's already proven that he doesn't want to get married. Maybe because of his past marriage? I'd end it.

The time you waste doing this is time that could be spent with someone who wants all the things you want.

Anonymous wrote:Why do you want to marry him

1) you have to beg him for sex
2) he doesn't want to commit to you
3) he has a bad temper
4) he flirts with men
5) he's still in contact with his ex after you told him it hurt you


Why aren't you breaking up with him?

Exactly.

OP how did you get mixed up with this guy. And yes you wasted too much time at your age.

Do what I did. Find out in the beginning if they want to date to "eventually" get married and be grown up. If no then you pass. After a year if they don't follow through you dump them and look for a better person.

If you don't use this formula you'll continue to stay with jerks. You should have passed on this guy after the coffee date....obvious.

Anonymous wrote:Get your calendar out and write down something to do every day for the next 60 days and get yourself happy, hot, and busy.

This is good advice.

I’m sorry but the issue here is your lack of insight. Why would you expect a bisexual man to commit to just you? It’s clear his sexual proclivities are elsewhere especially if he’s no longer sleeping with you. Also, talk to a counselor or watch a few relationship coaches on YouTube who often talk through similar scenarios . Tony Gaskins is a pretty good relationship coach, he does live Instagrams a few times a week, where you can hear from a real man’s perspective.

Once you figure out your escape plan, ensure that you have enough money to move. Once you are living in your own please do not ever live with another man before a marriage license and certificate. I know it sounds old fashioned but these things are meant to protect women & help them guard their hearts a little bit. We are living in a generation where never before have women been less protected in the dating realm than ever before. The pervasive attitude of do what thy wilt and “partnerships” is making it difficult for women who want marriage because there is no societal pressure on men to do the right thing.

Take the time to heal spiritually and mentally. But do NOT ever lower yourself to competing with a man’s selfish identity. You will lose every single time.
You are worth more than the crumbs he chooses to dole out.

When you get back on the dating market, know your dealbreakers and have a guiding list of things that are important to you.