Anonymous wrote:Do you get asked out or propositioned frequently? I know beautiful women do, and I wanted to know if handsome men do too. Reason is I just started dating a man a year younger than me who is very handsome, nice, physically active, and a software engineer (a little shy). It seems like he must have more options than an average looking woman like myself, so I’m a bit self conscious.

As long as he never becomes aware of his true SMV, you’ll be fine. I’d recommend frequently, ahem, servicing him as a backup since you’ve already admitted you’re sure he could pull hotter, younger women. Each year brings a fresh crop of 25 year old hotties...

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Anonymous wrote:i'm an average looking guy and this thread just depresses the sh*t out of me. to just know that i'll never get the pleasures that await the super handsome men out there makes me question what's the point of trying... i'll only get second best.

Welcome to the world of most women. It was painful to notice and realized this in high school and college. It was glaringly obvious all of my twenties and when people had relationships and started getting married. I attended one of the ivies, and all the guys would first choose based on the girl's physical attractiveness first. They wanted smart or smart enough, but not if the girl wasn't pretty first.

Do you really want those shallow kinds of men? They get exactly what they deserve.

Shallow? Two intelligent and attractive people ended up together. The horror!

You might think you have both, and you may not realize you have neither.

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Anonymous wrote:And sometimes other men will hit on you

I consider myself just normal but women tell me I am attractive and funny. The men are usually pretty cool but some women do feel very entitled. It’s like oh I have picked you now preform! When you are young the worst is the pressure from all the girlfriends. Oh Janie likes you ...that means you are hers and must go out with her. I am 14, totally clueless about girls and I am not attracted to Janie. In college women break into your house and surprise you in bed, try to make your girlfriend break up with you, stalkers and the older women who think they are doing you a favor.

Had a really good friend who got a lot of attention also but he would sleep with anyone. He gave a very graphic account of testing for STD..lol and had great stories about crazy ex girlfriends. The women were crazy, he knew it, everyone knew but he did his thing ...we are talking stabbing, burning the house down, etc.

+1

Forward, entitled women are crazy, for sure.

I've met 2-3 men who were former models. Local stuff, catalogs, not like modeling for Gucci in Milan. All white.

They were all with women who were pretty but in a natural / cute way.

Agree with the comments that they all seemed to do well professionally; were nice enough but not exceptionally talented superstars.

Being a tall, white male with average or above average looks is definitely an advantage.

Yes. By women and men, but happily married.

Anonymous wrote:And sometimes other men will hit on you

I consider myself just normal but women tell me I am attractive and funny. The men are usually pretty cool but some women do feel very entitled. It’s like oh I have picked you now preform! When you are young the worst is the pressure from all the girlfriends. Oh Janie likes you ...that means you are hers and must go out with her. I am 14, totally clueless about girls and I am not attracted to Janie. In college women break into your house and surprise you in bed, try to make your girlfriend break up with you, stalkers and the older women who think they are doing you a favor.

Had a really good friend who got a lot of attention also but he would sleep with anyone. He gave a very graphic account of testing for STD..lol and had great stories about crazy ex girlfriends. The women were crazy, he knew it, everyone knew but he did his thing ...we are talking stabbing, burning the house down, etc.

Anonymous wrote:My DH was attractive but not overly so in his 30s. Would get a smile or something but no one threw themselves at him, far as I know. At that time people thought I was the catch.

Now in his mid to late 40s though he lost weight and his face changed a bit. His hair turned a bit grey and he cut it differently, with an occasional light beard, and has turned into kind of that 'rugged sea captain' kind of look that some women really go crazy for. Like off the cover of a romance novel with the salt and pepper beard, wise eyes, etc. He definitely gets hit on at school functions and in the grocery, sometimes by older women but occasionally by some young gal who is attracted to that kind of look which he just laughs off. I just look older and more plain, but we are still very much together.

Lol I’m picturing the gorton’s fisherman guy 😂

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Anonymous wrote:The first time I realized I was decent looking was near the end of college - I was walking across a quad and I heard a woman in a group ask the others - “WHO IS THAT!” while looking in my direction. When I turned to look behind me and no one was there, she and all her compatriots started giggling at her boldness and my befuddlement. (I was a total late bloomer and went from a beanpole to solidly built over the course of college.).

Fast forward a few years and put me in a suit, and folks really notice me when I walked into a room.

Still, while I had pretty consistent success dating, I had to do most of the work to open the doors. Things quite often went well from there but the onus was on me.

BUT gay men hit on me ALL the time. Constantly. Like, one time a guy tried to sit at my table and flirt after my girlfriend got up and went to the bathroom bold.

How old were you when you had the fling?

I first realized it in college as well. My parents owned a lake house that we used periodically throughout the year. The neighbor’s wife was in her late 20’s- early 30’s and seemed to always be super friendly and go out of her way to engage me when I was in my late teens. I stayed at the lake house the summer after my freshman year and she pretty much seduced me. We had a summer fling. Not my proudest moment but I started noticing about that time that girls liked me.

Oh, and what makes you think she seduced you?

I was 19 when we had the fling. It was the summer after my freshman year of college. I stayed at the lake house most of the summer and she was the neighbor. She used to joke and flirt with me quite a bit. Looking back she may have been a bit of a narcissist - she was super fit and had a really expensive boobjob. To give you an example of the flirting - one time I was out at their dock checking out the new wave runner they had gotten. I asked her a few questions about it and she told me it was a lot of fun and that she was planning on laying out but she “Would much rather take me for a ride”. Of course I agreed. She ditched her coverup and was wearing tiny bikini. The ride was pure torture. She had her butt arched into me the whole time. Every time we hit waves it was like slap slap slap. I’m 6’5” and everything is “in proportion”, or more, and I can tell you that there was no way to hide that I was at full attention (and being 19 you can’t help it!). The flirting only got worse from there.

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Anonymous wrote:i'm an average looking guy and this thread just depresses the sh*t out of me. to just know that i'll never get the pleasures that await the super handsome men out there makes me question what's the point of trying... i'll only get second best.

You need to man up. I’m an average looking guy but I’ve got intelligence, a sense of humor, I’m not a jerk and I know which fork to use. In my dating years I never had a problem meeting and dating very attractive women. For both men and women being attractive is more than just a pretty face. My wife once told me that she briefly dated a guy who was drop dead gorgeous but she quickly realized he had the personality and intelligence of a turnip.

I briefly had a boy friend like that but I tolerated the lack of intelligence because he was so good looking and at 6’5” I was ‘size‘ curious. He really was well hung but he was a very disappointing lover. My husband of 31 years is good looking and of average size but he can still really light me up.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think I’m handsome but I’m tall and well-built, and strange women come up to me in public and run their hands over my shoulders and biceps.

(Sob) so degrading to be treated like a piece of meat!

nom nom nom


Heheheh j/k
It ain’t right

And sometimes other men will hit on you

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Anonymous wrote:i'm an average looking guy and this thread just depresses the sh*t out of me. to just know that i'll never get the pleasures that await the super handsome men out there makes me question what's the point of trying... i'll only get second best.

I was in the same boat as you. Hit the weights and eat a lot. You’d be surprised what muscles and a good haircut/good fitting clothes do for your odds.

I went from invisible to women in bars putting their hands on you as they walk by.

+1 men have to make some effort, too. You don't have to be naturally super good looking. It's amazing what a toned body, dressing well and a nice haircut will do for people, that includes women, who also have makeup to make them look better. Most movie stars look like crap without putting effort into their looks.

If you are expecting hot women to hit on you, then you'd better be hot. Why would hot women pay attention to average looking men? I don't see hot men paying attention to average looking women.

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Anonymous wrote:i'm an average looking guy and this thread just depresses the sh*t out of me. to just know that i'll never get the pleasures that await the super handsome men out there makes me question what's the point of trying... i'll only get second best.

Welcome to the world of most women. It was painful to notice and realized this in high school and college. It was glaringly obvious all of my twenties and when people had relationships and started getting married. I attended one of the ivies, and all the guys would first choose based on the girl's physical attractiveness first. They wanted smart or smart enough, but not if the girl wasn't pretty first.

Do you really want those shallow kinds of men? They get exactly what they deserve.

Shallow? Two intelligent and attractive people ended up together. The horror!

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Anonymous wrote:i'm an average looking guy and this thread just depresses the sh*t out of me. to just know that i'll never get the pleasures that await the super handsome men out there makes me question what's the point of trying... i'll only get second best.

Welcome to the world of most women. It was painful to notice and realized this in high school and college. It was glaringly obvious all of my twenties and when people had relationships and started getting married. I attended one of the ivies, and all the guys would first choose based on the girl's physical attractiveness first. They wanted smart or smart enough, but not if the girl wasn't pretty first.

Do you really want those shallow kinds of men? They get exactly what they deserve.

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Anonymous wrote:i'm an average looking guy and this thread just depresses the sh*t out of me. to just know that i'll never get the pleasures that await the super handsome men out there makes me question what's the point of trying... i'll only get second best.

This is something most women realize in middle school. Someone is always richer or better looking or smarter than we are.

+1

Then, there are those women who peaked in high school, yet can't seem to move on (stunted), and still think they are "hot"- when they are quite obviously lacking in personality (which used to be overlooked). Except, now they aren't getting any better looking, because their looks already peaked - and BOY are they mad.

No personality, lesser looks, and taking a back seat to the new bubbly neighbor brings women like that down fast, but not fast enough. If only they realize how stunted they are, and how they have to make their own way - no one is going to do that for them, they have to own their own sh&t.

To add, this isn't such a problem for men - you don't want the women who think they are hot, trust me.