Anonymous
Post 07/14/2020 11:37     Subject: Re:Resentful that ILs only want to help DH’s son and not mine
wow this takes the cake.

I can't believe you feel entitled to your in laws money!!!!

What a see you next Tuesday.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2020 11:36     Subject: Re:Resentful that ILs only want to help DH’s son and not mine
Anonymous wrote:In our house there would be a shouting match over this


You could shout until you were blue but I get to spend my money on whom I choose as do OP's in-laws. They owe zero to her son by another man.

Anonymous
Post 07/14/2020 05:59     Subject: Resentful that ILs only want to help DH’s son and not mine
Just be grateful that you do not need to find your step sons college.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2020 23:50     Subject: Re:Resentful that ILs only want to help DH’s son and not mine
Has OP confirmed there are even funds saved for OP’s stepson? There are a lot of comments that the money saved for the husband’s son can now be directed to OP’s son. If it’s family tradition for the stepson to go to a certain school, it’s possible OP’s husband has always known that his parents’ will pay. There may not be money saved that can be redirected.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2020 23:39     Subject: Resentful that ILs only want to help DH’s son and not mine
How many step kids even feel kindly towards step grandparents??
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2020 23:29     Subject: Resentful that ILs only want to help DH’s son and not mine
Anonymous wrote:I mean my parents didn’t want to pay my husband, their son in law’s, student loans. Why would they want to pay for a step kid? That’s even less of a relation.


Seriously! A Son in law is at least the father of your grandkids. A step grandchild has less of a relation.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2020 23:27     Subject: Re:Resentful that ILs only want to help DH’s son and not mine
Anonymous wrote:OP, I can understand why you'd be resentful that your son is being treated differently when you've put in so much effort to treat both boys fairly. But your ILs aren't under any obligation to treat your son the same way they treat their own grandson.

You need to figure out a way to minimize the effect this may have on your son and the boys' relationship with each other. You set the tone here. If you are bitter and resentful, your son is going to pick up on that. If you view this as a benefit to your family as a whole, your son will likely view it similarly.




+1!!!!!!
Plus like others said, you can use the extra $ saved towards your son's fund. Would the husband be on board with that?
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2020 23:24     Subject: Resentful that ILs only want to help DH’s son and not mine
I mean my parents didn’t want to pay my husband, their son in law’s, student loans. Why would they want to pay for a step kid? That’s even less of a relation.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2020 23:23     Subject: Resentful that ILs only want to help DH’s son and not mine
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If I knew in advance that my kids were going to be treated this way by my new husband's family, I would NEVER remarry. What a joke.


To be clear, this is not op. Just supportive of the fact that op thought she was building a real family.
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Real family? What did you think your son was entitled to 6 grandparents then?? What’s wrong with your own parents? I plan on paying my own kids tuition

If your husband adopts your kid I would feel differently.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2020 23:20     Subject: Resentful that ILs only want to help DH’s son and not mine
Anonymous wrote:Your husband should get a divorce from you as you have shown your true colors.


Or she could get a divorce from him. She could live in a small apartment, work and help pay for her son's education.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2020 22:59     Subject: Resentful that ILs only want to help DH’s son and not mine
Your husband should get a divorce from you as you have shown your true colors.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2020 22:16     Subject: Resentful that ILs only want to help DH’s son and not mine
Anonymous wrote:If I knew in advance that my kids were going to be treated this way by my new husband's family, I would NEVER remarry. What a joke.


To be clear, this is not op. Just supportive of the fact that op thought she was building a real family.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2020 22:15     Subject: Resentful that ILs only want to help DH’s son and not mine
If I knew in advance that my kids were going to be treated this way by my new husband's family, I would NEVER remarry. What a joke.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2020 20:49     Subject: Re:Resentful that ILs only want to help DH’s son and not mine
In our house there would be a shouting match over this
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2020 20:49     Subject: Resentful that ILs only want to help DH’s son and not mine
Did I miss it or did OP not answer questions about how old the kid was when she got married or what his relationship is with the step grandparents? My guess is those answers would she a lot of light here.