Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not exactly on topic but my brother is getting married in DC in March 2021. Our mom is incredibly anxious about it and wants them to postpone to at least the fall. Brother and his fiancé feel like it’s too soon to make any decisions and they want to wait till Labor Day to make the call. What say you, DCUM hive mind?

What does it matter what we say? Or what you say, or what your mom says? Bride and groom say they are going to wait and see. They're going to wait to make their call. You are free to decline at any time.

Ain't your show. See how that works?

Most bride and grooms aren't paying for their own wedding, so yeah future MIL gets a choice.

I do think Labor Day isn't too bad an option to make a decision by but maybe the MIL is worried about losing her deposit with multiple sources - venue, caterer, photographer, florist, atelier etc

First off, many brides and grooms do indeed pay for their own weddings these days. I'm Gen X and I see this a lot and fully understand this. So here's that.

Secondly, if anyone else pays, it's usually wholly or mostly bride's family. So in this case, mother of groom would still need to keep her mouth shut and wear beige. Groom's sister, too.

My friends who have cancelled or postponed have gotten future credits, refunds, and yeah some lost deposits. Not only pandemics disrupt weddings. There's always risk.

Finally, money given for weddings should be a gift, not a gift-with-strings.

You and

My cousin's wedding is scheduled for later in the fall and she has already said outright that she understands people may not want to travel. She's actually trying to get a rough headcount of who plans to come as of now, recognizing that may change. A bit different as they plan for at least the ceremony to be outside. I suspect the current plan will be scrapped but their immediate families are local, so I think they plan to get married regardless.

Anyone planning a wedding or other large event who is not understanding about guests not wanting to travel during a pandemic is just not worth your time, IMO.

But agree with the others- don't go to attend the side parties. Go for the wedding itself, or stay home.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not exactly on topic but my brother is getting married in DC in March 2021. Our mom is incredibly anxious about it and wants them to postpone to at least the fall. Brother and his fiancé feel like it’s too soon to make any decisions and they want to wait till Labor Day to make the call. What say you, DCUM hive mind?

What does it matter what we say? Or what you say, or what your mom says? Bride and groom say they are going to wait and see. They're going to wait to make their call. You are free to decline at any time.

Ain't your show. See how that works?

Most bride and grooms aren't paying for their own wedding, so yeah future MIL gets a choice.

I do think Labor Day isn't too bad an option to make a decision by but maybe the MIL is worried about losing her deposit with multiple sources - venue, caterer, photographer, florist, atelier etc